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liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, the l... - 4/18/2004 10:43:07 AM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		You know in a day and time when so many are quick to jump on the soap box and declare they are sub/bottom/slave...... and yes Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress, why do we sit back and allow it to continue. Now do not take stormi wrong. There is HONOR, there is PROTOCOL, there is RESPECT, and there is TRUST. But, when you know..... without fail that there are game players why not point them out.
Master, His girl stormi and Master's wife are in a closed poly. Master's Domme wife is looking for a boy to complete our family should that special one come along. Whom she choses is up to her. The boy will not serve Master, but we all have to feel good about it. We are aware that it might take time for everyone to decide if it will work 24/7.
Master and stormi have watched a list of them over the past year, those who lie, those who are cheating spouses, those who are just looking for easy sex or money. So it makes me wonder why we allow this as a COMMUNITY to continue. You know a little black balling might make things better.
stormi is very active in the commumity. Having been a part of 4 NLA Beyond Vanillas, 2 SPLF, and active in a total of 5 clubs and helping get one dungeon off the ground and running. Master is there with stormi and does a fine job of making sure that stormi remains active with her leather family and her community. stormi does it for not only the HONOR of being able to serve, but because she enjoys making Master proud.
So stormi's question is this??? Why is it so hard to find a male sub/bottom/boy that is that way???Why can't someone say, sorry but you are not the kind of connection that i need.
Sorry but there is no chemistry here. Hey you know what, i think we could be great friends but nothing more or Hey we can be friends and occassioinaly play partners but i'm just not ready for more at this time.
In closing please allow stormi to say this. " A collar, (ko'lar for Goreans) MEANS SOMETHING!! IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT WORKS LIKE A VELCRO STRIP.
WHEN A COLLAR/KO'LAR GOES ON.......IT MEANS COMMITMENT, IT MEANS DEVOTION TO THE RELATIONSHIP." IF you are looking for velcro..... go to wal-mart!!!!!

Is stromi wrong in this thought or do others agree? Would be interested in knowing. OOOOOH and btw, if there is a problem with this post, if it offends feel free to contact off line at [email protected] or [email protected] for stormi's Master
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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 10:59:28 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		As a group I would have to disagree with your black ball
approach because whats right for sum and wrong for sum
is ok for others and We can only judge whats right for Us.
I applaude you and your family because what you have
works, just as what We have and had in My family worked.
however because of the computer age what was once one
way is now several ways and the one way has become watered
down to the beliefs unfortunatly to sum of us but that is whats
called progress and conformity to the changeing world and those
that live with in it. I do not like many of the things that have
changed in Our strict laws rules regulations and protical Society
but I do like that it has come to main stream and many more are
accepting Our kinks and this is the positive side of what one side
had to give in order to get thier just due in recognition in order to
be more accepted in society and the world at large. It is more important
now more then ever for those of Us whom are a part of the OLD Strict
ways to keep those ways fresh in every ones mind because those
whom are new even tho they do not admit it are comming in to
this online by the billions and WE have to make sure that the communication and not miss communication of what We have practiced
gets out and that those whom seek to learn and know find not only
the untruths but the Truths as well so dont despare because I know
even right here on Collarme real male slaves can be obtained to serve in a Poly slave like manner as I have collared and contracted three from here to date so they are out there and the biggest thing that you can have in order to gain what you seek here is patience.....

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♥A Jaguar in My garage♥ ♥A Mink on My back♥
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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 2:30:20 PM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		Mistress Dread,
Master and stormi <me> thank you for your kind words.
stormi is a Old Guard Leather slave that is now a ko'lared
Gorean slave to Master Temji (Master Bear).
While realizing that my thoughts may or may not be popular.
the one thing stormi does know is that alot of those very same
people give those of us in the lifestyle working hard at living by
the ethics and codes set down before us a bad name. stormi is just
very very fed up with the things we see and hear on this and other
channels, chats, and clubs. It's stormi's opinion, that's all it is.
Master and stormi are fortunate.... He found this girl and claimed
her and it seems to be a WIN/win situation.
Be well and live long in happiness and servitude.

stormi
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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 4:29:51 PM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		take every thing you see with a grain of sugar
and every thing you hear with a grain of salt.
In other words keep the values of whats seen
and heard in prospectives and remember that
whats really important in the whole BDSM scheme
of things is what you do and how you and Yours
do it and that it lives up to what you and Yours
beleive and follow. There is no more that anyone
can expect of life then what They themselfs provide.
May you and Yours always have salt, water n a whip.


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♥A Jaguar in My garage♥ ♥A Mink on My back♥
♥A few Lions in My bed♥ ♥A Jackass to pay for it all♥

♥~smiles evily~♥

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 4:35:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: stormiKnightBEAR
In closing please allow stormi to say this. " A collar, (ko'lar for Goreans) MEANS SOMETHING!! IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT WORKS LIKE A VELCRO STRIP.
WHEN A COLLAR/KO'LAR GOES ON.......IT MEANS COMMITMENT, IT MEANS DEVOTION TO THE RELATIONSHIP." IF you are looking for velcro..... go to wal-mart!!!!!

Is stromi wrong in this thought or do others agree?


There's nothing wrong in you stating that a collar means commitment *to you*, but please understand that it doesn't have to mean that for everyone. For some of us, it's nothing more than a fashion accessory or a useful tool.

I'll wear a collar if it looks good with the outfit I have on. It means nothing more than that to me.

I'll also tolerate one if it's useful for a particular kind of play, but again it has nothing to do with commitment in that case either.

It's great that you can clearly state what it means to you, but please don't insist that the rest of us buy into your beliefs.

-- Sherri

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 4:48:30 PM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		Sherri you are off your rocker if you think that for one minute i am insisting that it mean anything to anyone. WHAT no one seems to understand......... and it's one of those if the shoe fits sayings...... LIFE does not have to be about half truths or lies.

IF someone is adult enough to make a decision then by god dayum be adult enought to be HONEST.

There is a "pot" that is brewing right now. You can make a CHOICE that it boil or YOU can make a choice that it be turned off.

IT is the choice of LYING, CHEATING, NOT being up front, and not being ADULT enough.

Personally, it makes not two figs what a collar means to ANYONE but the one wearing it.
sometimes that's good and sometimes that is bad.
BUT either way..... STAND UP, BE HONEST and MOVE ON! That is what i'm saying i guess.

Personally, the quickest way to get me to turn a deaf ear is to tell me "I'm DOM/Mistress"... and then proceed by showing in fact what an arrogant, selfcentered person you are.

A DOM does not have to EXPLAIN that HE/SHE is Dom.
A DOM KNOWS that respect is earned... not handed out freely.
A LOSER says whatever it takes for them to fill their momentary need and never give thought to if there is a grain of truth, a ounce of someone else's feelings, or the chance that because they are so arrogant, that they might miss something very good.

be well and good luck.

stormi

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 4:49:34 PM   
EStrict


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Status: offline 		On another note, not all people understand the workings of poly. They believe that a relationship of this time with anyone one other then your own spouse is cheating. If they believe that is true, why should you have a problem they are cheating on their spouse? After all, Bear has a wife and you. He cheats. His wife is looking for another man, she cheats. You are the *other woman*, so you are the one he cheats with.

I may not agree with them, but I know more people who do than don't.

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/18/2004 7:13:23 PM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		The ones i call cheaters.... again it's my opinion......
are the ones WHO LIE about it.

Master and i have a relationship.... WITH His wife's knowledge. IN the same house
there are NO lies. It's on the open.

But then more lie about it than not... ssooooooooooooo be it...

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 12:01:52 AM   
inyouagain


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.... LIFE does not have to be about half truths or lies.

Are you inferring that the opinions of others are half truths and lies? This was in the same paragraph as your reply to SherriA, and it infers you wish LIFE to be about your opinions?

Let's don't forget we are dealing with live breathing complex human beings, some without motive, some with... but all humans. Humans do not always do the right thing, let alone what another human expects of them.

quote:


IF someone is adult enough to make a decision then by god dayum be adult enought to be HONEST.

There is a "pot" that is brewing right now. You can make a CHOICE that it boil or YOU can make a choice that it be turned off.

IT is the choice of LYING, CHEATING, NOT being up front, and not being ADULT enough.

In an ideal world, I absolutely agree. An ideal world would not likely be populated by humans, so it must be taken for granted that things can and do change, people too. In any human endeavor, you will find those that are sincere, those that are sincere but inexperienced, those that are totally bogus, those that are looking for kinky sex, those that are looking to cheat on their spouses/partners, and you can dayum well expect to find those that you complained of.

The "brewing pot" you informed us of has been brewing since humans learned they could take advantage of or swashbuckle another human, nothing new. You nor anybody else can turn the "pot" off, it has been brewing since long before your birth, and will brew long after your passing.

The concept of a blacklist has been tried in many circles, and I won't even go into the fallacies, but suffice it to say humans manipulating a database is an imperfect scenario, and the quality of the data will be/could be in question.

Actually, after your male sub is in your poly home, will you still feel strongly enough about this issue, to voice a strong opinion (out of other than search frustration)? I tend to doubt it, but perhaps I'm wrong.

It appears you are venting unproductive search frustrations... displaying characteristics of "Lifestyler Search Fatigue" (LSF). Dont let all your appreciation of LIFE be narrowed down to productive search results, as LSF will give you a bitter outlook if you allow it to do so.

For one, appreciate the fact that despite LSF, you still have your existing closed poly home. Many other lifestylers are experiencing LSF as they attempt to build a poly home... and have none to appreciate when they get down with the "LSF Blues".

Appreciate what YOU HAVE... what others still seek, and DO NOT HAVE.

The lack of appreciation and intensity of LSF in your post... PLUS the thorough description of what you seek and e-mail contacts conveniently left in post (under the ahem, 'guise', that personal differences with your post content can be discussed off board, LOL, when it's posted on a message board asking for opinion??? duh???).

If your whine post is intended as covert trolling, it is very clever... but trolling nonetheless. Your whine post looks like a personal's ad seeking a perfect male sub (you reiterated very much on that part), and that's against the rules here on the message board... especially by someone pumping virtues of HONESTY, TRUTH, COMMITMENT and DEVOTION.

Excuse me, but what kind of "pot" did you say you smell brewing?

Inyouagain

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 4:54:31 AM   
MizSuz


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Status: offline 		Could someone please enlighten me as to the rules for third person speech? Why is it ok to go from third person to first person from one post to the next?

This is why I usually dont read people who post in third person, it's just too damned difficult to understand. Combine that with rules that change with the emotions of the moment (which seemed to be the reason for the protocol change in this thread) and I usually feel as frustrated after slogging through this type of thread as I do when trying to read someone who uses their own spelling for words and no punctuation.

If the purpose of writing to a message board is communication wouldn't it make the best sense to use the standardized forms (which most of us were taught in grammar school) to facilitate said communication? Maybe I'm missing the point and communication is not the intent at all.

My apologies for not addressing the topic at hand...I had trouble figuring out what it was.

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 6:01:08 AM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		Mz Suz,
Greetings in answer to your question on 3rd person speech. Most Gorean Masters/Mistresses prefer the use of 3rd person speech. Such as "this girl", "His girl", " Master's slave/girl" or "girl's name". In all honesty, at times it's confusing for even stormi. Because for 7 yrs she's lived the lifestyle as a leather submissive. Which.... LOL... is even more confusing and yet so easy to make the transformation. Because a lot of Master's beliefs are similar if not the same as Old Guard Leather which Master found out this last July at Masters Retreat 6 in Dallas. ( the reference to white silk slave is also of Gorean beliefs. A red silk is a girl who is able to be traded off or up for "loan". A white silk slave is a clear sign of "hands off" meaning she's not available for anything except for Master's pleasure alone. Master has two sayings and we live by them. Mine is Mine and Bear don't share". Most think that is bad. This girl loves it.)
There are many folks who believe that the type of speach used by Gorean slaves/kajira should not be allowed in message boards and such. This is totally understandable because it is at times confusing.
Hope this answered your question. Have a good week ahead!

stormi
property of Master Bear

< Message edited by stormiKnightBEAR -- 4/19/2004 6:11:25 AM >

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 6:07:20 AM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		inyouagain,
You might be right in the frustration comment to some extreme.
The frustration comes from watching 3 fem Doms and 2 male Doms
constantly running into game players. All 5 of these folks are very
close to this girl.
As for not appreciating what stormi has....... YOU are out of line.
Because you have never met, nor have anyway to say that you know
anyone in this household well enough to say that any one of us is not
now or ever haven't been grateful for what we have.
Point in case was knowing that Master was there every step of the way
from beginning to end when stormi was found to have skin cancer. After
seeing her mother go thru breast cancer, stormi had her own fears. Master
being there and His strength gave stormi strength to do what had to be done.
So before you make the decision to tell stormi she does not appreciate things,
why don't you ask?
The frustration is watching people you care about not be able to find what
they are looking for. As for stormi..... she is firmly in her spot with Master and
knows this.
For more info, Master is more than willing to answer you. [email protected]
just please list stormi in your email subject.

be well...................

stormi
property of Master Bear

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 2:23:06 PM   
inyouagain


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quote:

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As for not appreciating what stormi has....... YOU are out of line.

Telling someone to appreciate what they have is not out of line. It is a way to help you regain focus when you demonstrate having the "LSF Blues".

This may be taken as out of line also, but why are you doing the searching? Do Domme's usually have their husband's female sub/slave seek out the wife Domme's male sub/slave, and only have presence by virtue of the husband's female slave leaving the Domme's husband's e-mail address?

You are posting here on the approval of your Master, are you not? Does he read your posts? Were your accusations (in poly thread) of me being a troll approved by your Master? Is this thread and your posts within it approved by your Master?

Literary third person speech is one thing, but speaking for your Dominant as a third person submissive is something you seem to have created here yourself. Where is your Dominant or his wife Domme... are they laid up with LSF?

Your post really makes no sense as MizSuz pointed out, so I'm not the only other board member who has difficulty in understanding your intent. In trying to dig out the "core" of your post, one is only left with what could be considered a ranting troll post, sorry, but you wrote it.

You now mention life circumstances that were better handled by support from your existing poly family, and it is good for you that you have what others still seek. I was emphasizing to you not to focus on "LSF Blues", and to appreciate what you have.

Best wishes in your search for your Master's wife Domme's male sub.

Inyouagain

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 5:14:09 PM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		ONCE AGAIN you are forming judgement and accusations where you have neither knowledge or information concerning stormi, Master Bear or their home.

Question is..... why does everyone tolerate you?? In reading the post and yes they were all read last night and today. There is NOT one remark from you that is not judgemental or
insulting in one way or another.

You prefer from your post to order how Dom/Dommes should do things. How sad......

be well little one....


s.

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 10:46:43 PM   
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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/19/2004 11:17:17 PM   
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quote:

Could someone please enlighten me as to the rules for third person speech? Why is it ok to go from third person to first person from one post to the next?


That would be difficult Suz. Unfortunately few are able to do it both long term and consistently. But it's sort of like her contention of being his white silk slave. I do wonder if she really is a virgin, as that is the only way to be *white silk*. That of course isn't even just in her relationship with her master. 'Cause even though the old saying was that *I haven't had sex in so long my cherry grew back*, it just doesn't happen. :)

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/20/2004 12:09:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am always leary of dealing with Gorean Philosophy but here I must disagree.. white silk can mean virgin..but if you read the books and no I dont want to have to go dig up my references please god reading John Norman is true torture.. There are several small references and I want to say its in slave girl.. but god dang dont quote me.. in which White simply means reserved and or of limited service.. Please and I do mean this in the most respetful manner..DONT diminish with scarasm something someone takes seriously. I know I try really hard not to do that to those who dont accept and or u nderstand my life choices and those choices others make that I have no context with.

Secondly, I would note that you are assuming that she isnt a virgin and that she and her Master have a sexual relationship. Do you know them well enough to say that.. Do you know her well enough to attest to her lack of hymen.. I mean not to draw to fine a point on it here Estring.. but lots of people have D/s relationships without having sex; quite a common occurance especially in the leather community. Leather is about service and not about getting laid after spanking someone. Opphs did that sound sarcastic.. I do apologize in advance for the tone.

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/20/2004 5:40:32 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: EStrict

quote:

Could someone please enlighten me as to the rules for third person speech? Why is it ok to go from third person to first person from one post to the next?


That would be difficult Suz. Unfortunately few are able to do it both long term and consistently.



Sandy,

I thought that was the case but wanted another opinion as I am not the last word on third person speech. In short, I was thinking "is it just me or....?"

quote:


But it's sort of like her contention of being his white silk slave. I do wonder if she really is a virgin, as that is the only way to be *white silk*. That of course isn't even just in her relationship with her master. 'Cause even though the old saying was that *I haven't had sex in so long my cherry grew back*, it just doesn't happen. :)


Ya know, I thought that was the case (white silk meaning virgin) but wasn't sure. Again, I am not an authority on Gor...I read ONE of the Gor books and found it tedious. My exhusband is a prolific reader and for a long time had all of them (some first edition paperbacks...about three years after he got rid of them, all for the price of a standard used paperback, the internet discovered itself and Gor became a phenomenon). Even he couldn't stomach more than one at a time because he found them rather idiotic especially in how they pertained to women. But then, he never claimed to be a master or dominant.

As is often the case (and I personally find an attractive part of our venue), we each take our own interpretations and turn them into our own preferences, style and 'fact.' It's just exceedingly difficult to understand where one person is coming from when they've done this if they don't take the time to clarify it.

She clarified the silk slave stuff for me, and I appreciate that, but it seemed like the third person writing didn't get addressed other than to say it's hard to do.

It's hard to read, too. I don't consider myself a blithering idiot and my reading comprehension and vocabulary are actually fairly high. I find third person speech too troublesome in a venue such as this.

Thanks for your reply, Sandy.

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/20/2004 5:47:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		stormi,

I appreciate your response but still don't really get it. I'm familiar with a lot of the gorean stuff (although admittedly not at all passionate about it). I'm familiar with it enough to know that it makes for nice fantasy but isn't very practical, at least not from where I stand.

Your explanation of the silks is different from what I've read before. No matter, as I was more interested in understanding the rules for third person writing.

Did you notice that you used third person until you got into conflict (I think it's with inyouagain) and then reverted to first person? Is there a rule that you can revert when you're upset, rattled, or do not agree with someone? It's a confusing thing for me.

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RE: liars, wannabes, cheating spouses, money hunters, t... - 4/20/2004 6:13:23 AM   
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I don't consider myself a blithering idiot and my reading comprehension and vocabulary are actually fairly high.


I'm a lucky and persistent creature to have an immense verbal vocabulary, two higher degrees and a complex job. But I'm dyslexic. My reading and expressed written work at the level you are reading now took years of specialist support in childhood to obtain, and constant patience and checking now to maintain.

Third person speech gives me some pause and discomfort. Uncapitalised, phonetically spelt internet slang-writing raises my pulse and causes me extra time to read. I consciously spend effort maintaing my stress levels dealing with it. That's my neuro-wiring. Do bear in mind. It's like using red print for those with weak sight and rudimentary software help to read screen print. That's automatically not helpful, and neither is non-standard spelling or grammar use. In terms of third person writing, consitency is really important, because my brain is more totally trained to look for patterns than someone's without dyslexia.

Stormi, not provoked by you particularly at all. I'm being opportunist in this thread. I wish I'd posted this in some other threads that have had similar issues. I can take the time over lunch now to do it. Here it is.

Cheers, nadine.

Read more about dyslexia here

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