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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/6/2006 2:56:11 PM

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i'm refering to taking one or two of each at a time and see if that reprograms my mind to be like everyone else.

Yes, Michael. Take your stockpile of pills and make combos of them, strap magnets to your temple, throw pennies in wishing wells, wear a copper bracelet and anything else that involves not being involved.

Sadly, you wrote a heartfelt post and people responded in kind. Then you used their kindness and concern as an excuse to lash out.

I hope you find inner peace one day, it ain't coming to your doorstep, so you will need to go out and look for it.

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/6/2006 4:43:51 PM

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I have noticed a change in Michael's recent posting - less negative, fewer judgemental comments, more light hearted. And he even made it to a munch! Thus it bums me out to see a return to the poor-me nothing-will-help type attitude. Habits are ingrained though, so I understand it is easy to fall back to familiar patterns.

It sucks and it is hard...but that is true for everyone in one way or another.

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/6/2006 4:47:08 PM

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nm - oops

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/6/2006 5:10:58 PM

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In hinduism, they understand that there are 3 modes of material nature, material nature meaning the laws that govern this world. Just about every person goes through the cycles of these laws, some people get stuck in one for extended periods of time.

The three modes of material nature are tamas, rajas and sattva.

Tamas is like over-ripe fruit, it can play out in depression, lack of desire to take any action, a sense of hopelessness, a sense of whats the bloody point of even trying. You can fall into tamas mode just by not having one of your desires fufilled. Its a mode where you cannot see a doorway out.

Rajas is the mode of action and desire. It plays out in having desires and chasing after their fulfillment, its a motivator. It means doing anything doesnt matter what.

Sattva is the mode of equilibrium. Its balanced. You deal with each situation as it comes in the best way you can. You might get mad over something but you resolve it within yourself prettyquickly. You realise there is a purpose to life and you make the most of it, usually playing out in thoughts of helping and serving and caring.

A person can go through the entire cycle of these modes within a couple of seconds, or minutes or days or weeks or even years.

With people who understand about these modes, they realise that every one of them is a trap to keep you within them.

Feeling hopless and depressed is a trap etc
Being filled with desires is a trap etc
Feeling you need to serve is a trap etc

However,

Rajas, overcomes tamas.... if your feeling hopeless or depressed, putting your mind and hand to doing something gets you out of it.

Sattva overcomes Rajas....Having a sense of euqilibrium overcomes the oftentimes fruitlessness of chasing after desires as a means to your happiness.

Surrender overcomes Sattva....wont go there at this time.

I shared this, cuz I like how they explain it, it makes sense to me.

Take it or chuck it in the garbage *grin*

Good luck MichaelGA....if being online, or whatever you are doing is causing you a sense of hopelessnes of unfulfillment, the answer is simple....action needs to be taken...and that could be as simple as a change in perspective.

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/6/2006 6:58:25 PM

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Why is it NOT about you, but about the dominants here?

They are better than we are?

Okaaaay....

Uhm....

hmmm....

Yes, I guess I can see that, as they are so much more giving, and loving and kind....and want so much to help others....

Uhm...

basically...

there are NO dominants without submissives....

No masters without slaves...

We're all here for each other. At least...that's how I see it...

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/6/2006 9:39:04 PM

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THere is some good advice here, but not exactly on target. In my opinion you need to do a little self assessment. It may be true that you are a wonderful person, and that counts for a lot in the long run - before that though, you have got to get your foot in the door. Right off the top, the scope of your search is so small that you may as well not be looking. Once a week, must come to you, no sex, must work around the girlfriend. Finding any kind of partner is not magic - it is just the brute force of statisitcs. And if you want to be successful then the key is making yourself as attractive as you can, and available to a relatively large pool of potentials. That is the second point. You cripple yourself again right off the bat - no money, no car - you may as well be a hobo. Having those two things in a dating like situation is part of the absolute minimum standard, unless you are a teenager. You need to sublimate your submissive energy into some extra dough and a vehicle. With those things you can be a player - without them you're a dreamer. Others are quite right to have advised you to take control of your situation, but not through volunteer work - that is fine of course, but doesn't at all get you closer to what you want. You need to improve yourself and your situation with small delibertate steps, each taking you closer to your goal. A domme will arrive. Otherwise, you can follow the advice I once heard regarding covetting unattainable things - decide you don't want it. Not wanting it is the same as having it.

Alternately - scrape some dough together and see a pro. Your position is tailor-made-ideal for a pro. Weekly sessions - in your home, no sex, respect gf. Perfect.

Those are your choices - unless you take some steps towards them, you have no business even looking for someone, let alone complaining you can't find her.

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/7/2006 5:34:26 AM

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Michael, you really are your own worst enemy.

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RE: Playing it safe or afraid of real life...? - 3/7/2006 8:23:31 AM

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Mike dont take this as a personal attack, im not trying to be rude or an ass but I think, and im pretty sure people have told you this you have either some serious bi-polar disorder or manic depression or both... Im not trying to be an asshole here, but you can talk to doctors about that stuff or get tested atleast?

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