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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 12:20:15 PM

AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

Lady Hibiscus,
I see your point, but please see mine. I was flamed by this pretender on other threads, so much so that I deleted my portion of one so it would stop. I made it perfectly clear that I along with several others who have taken the time to write me think that she is a troll trying to stir up animosity on the message boards. yet she keeps answering everything I say, and if you'll take the time to read her drivel, it's always negative.
PS. by several, I mean four. She has a certain click of friends, and they think nothing of tagteaming anyone they don't like. This happens on most alternative websites, and I've even seen cases where vengeful dommes have chased subs to diffetent sites in an effort to smear them.

Do you mean this post?

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=170242

You can call me a pretender, or a troll. I will let my reputation speak for itself. You flew off the handle when I pointed out that it's important to get consent of all people involved when you do a public humiliation scene.

No matter what you go back and edit out, people will remember.

Again -- honesty is your friend. Live by it.

Akasha

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 12:43:34 PM

TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Prettyfellowme, I offer this hint to you in the spirit of encouragement: if you have an issue with a domme on these forums, or anywhere, keep it between you and her. Sniping at people is a less than charming quality, and dommes have long memories. A person who insults a friend of mine might still be someone I like, but their behavior is really going to make me think twice about them in the future.

Ms Francine

Just a thought...does this advice hold for Domme's as well...or are they immune?

*smile*

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 12:51:48 PM

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Just a thought...does this advice hold for Domme's as well...or are they immune?
Taggard

For me it holds true. I have people I respect though we may disagree on a whole array of subjects, but I consider them decent and kind. I have people I respect because they are brutally honest, and they teach me things sometimes that I haven't seen on my own. I will pay closer attention and change my views/level of friendship if I discover a person/friend is a liar, or a mean spiritied ass who enjoys disparaging others to get a reaction.
Hope that answers from my end Taggard, M

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 12:58:45 PM

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Finding a partner - kink or otherwise is the same regardless of where you look. Whether vanilla or kink we still need these same basic things;

1. Chemistry (this is the one thing we have NO control over, it's either there or it isn't).
2. Mutual interests (differences are good, but if you don't have enough mutual interests then you don't have a starting point).
3. Similar morals (if one has strong moral beliefs and the other doesn't in the end it wont work - honesty & integrity levels are directly connected to morals).
4. Compatible lifestyles (this is more important than one would think)
5. Compatible intelligence (do you really want someone you have constantly educate and they never get it or someone who talks down to you - this needs to be level).
6. Ease of communication (without communication there can be no relationship)

The only difference we have as kinksters or whatever label you wish to apply is that we want an added layer of intimacy that involves a specific list of activities. I don't need any one specific activity to be happy with my partner - but the option of exploring many diverse kinky things is what keeps our relationship fresh and exciting. He never knows what I will do or how I will do it - he only knows he can trust me
Lady Kay

Thanks for your great contributions thus far.
Welcome to the boards. M

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 1:49:02 PM

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I haven't been reading the Humiliation thread, since that's not my thing......but HOLY COW. What an amazing series of posts.

At this point I will state firmly that I totally believe in protecting the NONconsenting public.

And Taggard, yes, it does go both ways. When I post, I try to only say things that I would say in public, to the persons involved. And things that hopefully won't come back to bite me later!

Ms Francine

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 1:50:55 PM

prettyfellowme

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All I can say is read the posts on all threads from the person that started this, and decide for yourself. she has recieved my last reply as her friend did a few days ago. I will not feed her ego any longer. Now all we have do do is wait for her retort.

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 2:10:26 PM

TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
And Taggard, yes, it does go both ways. When I post, I try to only say things that I would say in public, to the persons involved. And things that hopefully won't come back to bite me later!

Ms Francine

It seemed to me you addressed the tat but not the tit...perhaps you believe the tat would possibly head your advice, whereas the tit would not. If that is the case, you are indeed wise. *smile*

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 3:37:04 PM

Foibey

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
The successful male subs, at least that I have seen, are the ones who never actually submit in the beginning.

Whilst I can't claim to speak for everyone by any stretch of the imagination here, for me you've inadvertently hit the nail on the head here. The numerous messages I've had since I signed up here from men addressing me as "Mistress" seem to presuppose far too much. It's like they're submitting to me before I've even expressed an interest in dominating them (them specifically that is). No "Hi there, How'd ya do?" Just "Mistress, I am Your craven love bitch. Watch me bend over in obsession with You. Please dominate me, kthx". I don't want to take domination frivolously, it turns it from being something really powerful into a cheap fleeting ego-boost. If I haven't said so, I'm not anyone's Mistress. I don't see it as remotely submissive for people to start off with the grovelling pitiful slave act, because it's way too presumptuous.

Phoebe

PS: Woah, I didn't realise how long the thread was and how much water there is under the bridge when I posted this. Sorry.

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 7:09:23 PM

LadyHibiscus

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No worries, Phoebe, we all appreciate the validation!

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/28/2005 10:24:41 PM

whipmenow

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressKay

4. Out of that 100 male submissives - 87% of them are just looking for kinky sex with a dominant woman - in other words they are bottoms at best for they have no true desire to submit, only to be sexually used by a woman and if it doesn't include sex they are not interested. They are only submissive if they are horny - take away the arousal and they are no longer submissive. (I refer to these men as kinky, not submissive).

Hi everyone, I'm Glenn, from SC.

What does such a man do, the ones who are looking for kinky sex and hope for an otherwise vanilla relationship?

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 3:56:48 AM

Oumae

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quote:

ORIGINAL: whipmenow

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressKay

4. Out of that 100 male submissives - 87% of them are just looking for kinky sex with a dominant woman - in other words they are bottoms at best for they have no true desire to submit, only to be sexually used by a woman and if it doesn't include sex they are not interested. They are only submissive if they are horny - take away the arousal and they are no longer submissive. (I refer to these men as kinky, not submissive).

Hi everyone, I'm Glenn, from SC.

What does such a man do, the ones who are looking for kinky sex and hope for an otherwise vanilla relationship?

They find someone who is into the same.

Oumae

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 8:00:36 AM

MistressKay

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ORIGINAL: whipmenow

Hi everyone, I'm Glenn, from SC.

What does such a man do, the ones who are looking for kinky sex and hope for an otherwise vanilla relationship?

Find a sexually active kinky vanilla woman who wants a regular relationship plus kink behind closed doors. Just don't be surprised if you have to do some dominating yourself - many sexually active women will switch but may not be naturally dominant. It's all just bedroom fun and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.

Lady Kay
Ottawa, ON Canada

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 9:26:53 AM

dommemagnet

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressKay

quote:

ORIGINAL: whipmenow

Hi everyone, I'm Glenn, from SC.

What does such a man do, the ones who are looking for kinky sex and hope for an otherwise vanilla relationship?

Find a sexually active kinky vanilla woman who wants a regular relationship plus kink behind closed doors. Just don't be surprised if you have to do some dominating yourself - many sexually active women will switch but may not be naturally dominant. It's all just bedroom fun and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.

Lady Kay
Ottawa, ON Canada

Welcome to the boards. After only 23 posts I can already see you have uncommon, common sense. Thanks for a breath of fresh air.

< Message edited by dommemagnet -- 9/29/2005 9:28:08 AM >

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 1:04:46 PM

QueenRah

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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

Lady Hibiscus,
...I was flamed by this pretender on other threads, so much so that I deleted my portion of one so it would stop.

Translation: She read what any intelligent person would read as garbage and called you to account for it.

quote:

... yet she keeps answering everything I say, and if you'll take the time to read her drivel, it's always negative.

You may be the center of your own universe, but I doubt you are the center of hers. There are one or two other people to whom I've seen Akasha respond. See below, in regard to "negativity."

quote:

... She has a certain click of friends...

The word is spelled thus: "clique." And I was not aware she had a clique. You go, Akasha!

quote:

... they think nothing of tagteaming anyone they don't like.

There are those of us who think nothing of trying to help others who are clearly deluding themselves and causing much damage to themselves and to those in their line of sight, as well as innocent bystanders.

quote:

: Aakasha

... You flew off the handle when I pointed out that it's important to get consent of all people involved when you do a public humiliation scene.

No matter what you go back and edit out, people will remember.

Again -- honesty is your friend. Live by it.

Akasha

I find it quite revealing of the nature of the so-called submissive when he reacts violently to anyone calling him to account for lack of honesty and disrespectful behaviour - I don't mean to the status of Domina, I mean "in general." I, for one, find Akasha's posts to be very incisive and, if the "sub" receiving the advice would just see it for what it is, a "cut the crap" measure, he (and all his current and future victims) would have a much easier go of it.

What a number of her posts say to me is, "You are deluding yourself and here's how. And here's how I can help you to stop deluding yourself so you can live a better, less complicated life." (I have absolutely no intention of putting words into your mouth, Akasha. This is merely what I, personally, see in your words, in certain posts. If I'm mistaken, by all means, let me know.)

No, I don't know Aakasha nor I am not a member of her purported
"clique"; but, I have found her posts to be among the best on the board. No one is chasing you, this is a FemDomme forum. And the forums are open to all members. Just as we here are not exclusive to FemDommes and their admirers, neither are any of the other forums exclusive to the members of that lifestyle. I have posted in response to other members on other forums. Does that mean *I'm* chasing *them*? An intelligent person would realize not.

Be very careful with flame words, pfm. They are unnecessary, unkind, and are likely to get you banned. No one has the right to attack anyone at the forums. You have not been attacked, you have received response - something you *actively* request from any and all members, whenever you post.

QueenRah

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 1:20:54 PM

QueenRah

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I'm not really replying to my own post. However, I just clicked on the profile for "prettyfellowme." First, I get a "profile not found", then I see a profile for a "slave" in my area! (Anyone else? Wilmington, NC)

If it is, indeed, him - Well away!!!!! This guy is thoroughly messed up.

QueenRah

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 2:02:35 PM

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I don't live anywhere near No. Carolina. In reference to your first point, you are doing exactly what you claim not to be doing, and flaming. In this, I can see by your writing where you'd have trouble navigating the profiles. If you will look at her last post, it is a question posed directly to me even though she knows I won't answer. That's called trolling my dear.

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 2:23:17 PM

JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: QueenRah

Be very careful with flame words, pfm. They are unnecessary, unkind, and are likely to get you banned. No one has the right to attack anyone at the forums. You have not been attacked, you have received response - something you *actively* request from any and all members, whenever you post.

QueenRah

CollarMe hasn't got the best "ignore" system since posts by the person blocked don't disappear, but they are replaced by a standard "blocked post" message. Still it's a good way to make the board a bit more pleasant to read.

I think you pretty much have a good grasp of the situation. Akasha and I have known each other in other venues and I've always been impressed with her insight and ability to "cut to the chase."

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 3:13:40 PM

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are You sitting down? i hope so..
i am going to do something i have never done before........

whew

Ma'am? i uh, want to say here,..i am, very very proud to have known You...for knowing ONE domme is big enough to say She believes She can make new changes. it is SO refreshing. i see far far too many self righteous self proclaimed gods that claim they never make a mistake and are perfect...

thank YOU for being Whom You are....

woofie pup
wags his tail and trots off
back to forum msgs now.

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 3:22:22 PM

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It is amazing to me how all these FEMDOM's complain about not being able to find a decent man.

I recently contacted a self proclaimed dominant female through her ad. Granted first communications can be a little akward. I described myself to her and tried to be what she was asking for "humorous". With just a punch of a keystroke she blocks herself from any more communication between the two of us. Essentially not even giving me a chance or even getting to know me. I'm really not that bad looking of a guy. I have my life in order and I truly believe she is the one missing out.

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RE: Femdoms can't find a decent male partner - 9/29/2005 3:34:05 PM

FTopinMichigan

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ORIGINAL: goodie360

It is amazing to me how all these FEMDOM's complain about not being able to find a decent man.

I recently contacted a self proclaimed dominant female through her ad. <snip>

goodie, please do not judge "all" by the unsatifying contact of "one."

Perhaps it was those THREE blue heads of yours that scared her off.

K

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