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What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 11:37:59 AM

slaveDreamer69

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I have been in BDSM for about a year and currently with my master of 5 months. we live together and are very interested in poly.

I have met a few people on here that say they are into it and we make plans to meet and then they flake off and dissapear.

Why do so many people play games?

My question is this.....

Why are people offended by me being a slave, trying to contact and get conversations going with other slaves?

Master has tried contacting slaves and they refuse to talk to him. Then i message the same slaves and they talk to me just fine. BUt then they get all offended when i tell them i am looking for a sister to join me and they wonder why Master would not contact them.

I hate games and what is the point if no one wants to talk to a slave trying to find other slaves if those slaves wont talk to masters either?

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 12:06:19 PM

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Its not just slaves...in the poly community in general there is an atomosphere of disapproval with M/f/f triads. For some reason, we are the armpit of the poly community. A lot of girls don't want to be the hot bi babe fulfilling someone else's fantasy....or someone's sister, etc.

That being said, there are those out there who are seeking this type of dynamic. Best of luck in finding a good fit.

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 12:11:26 PM

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lol, get used to disappointments, especially if you're primarily looking online. I have absolutely no answers for your questions but I can say that you're definately not alone. When we first discovered that toy was pregnant, she took a proactive approach to trying to find another girl for our household. The baby was born last week and in the months in between neither of us ever received a single response to any of the e-mails we sent out. There are plenty of unattached submissive/slave/switch profiles here on collarme that have poly checked in the interests column but none of the ones we've contacted ever responded with so much as a "no thanks".
Perhaps the sheer volume of adds searching for a "sister sub" places poly subs at a premium. If that's they case and demand significantly outstrips supply, the dynamic becomes inverted as the subs need make no concessions, even to courtesy. OTOH, I think most agree that the majority found online are poseurs rather than people genuinely seeking real-time interaction.
Good luck,
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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 12:33:29 PM

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Congratulations to you and toy!!!!

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 4:55:26 PM

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 6:11:46 PM

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I for one am the seeker as even though my slaves know what I want and need ..the screening process goes through me...that's a simple matter of my knowing their needs and what I want as a match to them as well as my own...I have noticed for some outter space reason that if poly is listed... most submissives want to connect with the slave first...strange to wonder on that one as the decision as to whatever activity falls on me not them...go figure...

Fury

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 6:21:14 PM

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quote:

I have noticed for some outter space reason that if poly is listed... most submissives want to connect with the slave first...strange to wonder on that one as the decision as to whatever activity falls on me not them...go figure..

I think this is often to see if they can get along with the other female...whether or not they are involved with each other, if one is going to cause trouble in the relationship (doesn't want a poly relationship, or doesn't care for the other person coming into the relationship) its best to find that out up front.

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 6:27:56 PM

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I quite understand your view Fate...mine was just to point out...before the submissives interact...I get to bite the apple first so to speak...if they won't deal with me..they sure as heck won't deal with my submissives...just looking at it from my tower in the sky...(smile)

Fury

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 6:53:18 PM

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As is certainly your right :)

best regards,
fate

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:09:14 PM

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it's with the utmost respect for others point of view...I know the rainbow of opinions brought into play here...just MHO on this one...

Fury

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:23:41 PM

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I do understand where you are coming from, Fury. Everyone has their preferences on how they like to approach these types of situations. My owner's preference is almost the opposite of yours. He may have the initial interaction (or not..however it plays out), but one of his primary interests is in seeing how she and I (and possibly vision) would get along because he has no interest in chaos in his life. Its not that either party may intentional do things to cause chaos, but if there is tension present it can't help but be felt.

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fate

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:36:30 PM

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I just wanted to make it clear..which I guess I haven't ...I do want to see the interaction between my submissive and any prospect...I just want to have that first contact to see if it feels right to me....I feel that in the quest to please me..my submissive may gel with another just to fulfill the void I represent I need to fill....anyone coming to me fills a certain something that one other can't or finds difficult...so I puff myself up to be the know-it-all that I am and looks for what I want to see first....it that even more confusing??

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:38:26 PM

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what is really disappointing is that if you are a bi poly slave, who states they are just looking to make friends with others, they are completely ignored. This never makes any sense to me but happens all the time.

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:42:16 PM

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don't you realize when most come to you reguardless of what you state...most..not all...think you can be changed or your opinion changed...like I say...johnny can't read so he looks at the pictures...

Fury

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:44:51 PM

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slavedreamer,

Master has me look too....
if i am too live in harmony with a girl in His home, then He wants us girls to be not only lovers, but freinds, companions and confidants serving Him together....He wants no jealousies and He wants a peaceful place to come home to.

He says if He finds a girl, we may not like each other, have petty jealousy, ets.....so it is His desire that i search. Some call Him weak and pathetic.... His response to that and to other things is: "doesn't matter, I am not into others peoples judgements."

Besides who but me knows Him better and can answer questions girls have.

~~shy

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:49:46 PM

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I'm never one to judge how other operate...as this lifestyle has so many shades...I see how what others do works for them...just for me...I NEED to get a feel for someone first....not to say conversation between them and my submissive doesn't continue after that....it's just a Master thing on my part I guess....come through me then my sub...for me that works...

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:53:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury

...I have noticed for some outter space reason that if poly is listed... most submissives want to connect with the slave first...strange to wonder on that one as the decision as to whatever activity falls on me not them...go figure...

Fury

i think i can answer this ...........
who the F**k wants to serve a dom and be in a home with a girl she barely knows and finds jealousies pouring out......

i have been contacted by doms who want another girl but the first girl hasnt a clue he is looking....wtf is that deceptiveness all about?.....go figure!

I always tell the girl, He is in control, not I. He has it, I know it, and she will to if she joins.

~~shy

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:54:42 PM

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with all respect MstrHellsFury but I did not understand at all what you were saying in reply to my post. I was saying that no one is looking to make friends first.

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 7:58:27 PM

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that's what I meant...they overlook what you have to say and go right to what they want from you...what ever happened to establishing a friendship first...

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RE: What is wrong eith slaves looking for sisters? - 7/21/2005 8:03:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury

I'm never one to judge how other operate...as this lifestyle has so many shades...I see how what others do works for them...just for me...I NEED to get a feel for someone first....not to say conversation between them and my submissive doesn't continue after that....it's just a Master thing on my part I guess....come through me then my sub...for me that works...

yup, its what works for each of us..... i make freinds, help lay the foundation with His guidanceand direction....but she must be with Him first....His approval or nothing at all....tis the way He wants it, tis the way its done, for us.

~~shy

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