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new to this - 2/25/2004 3:27:20 PM

fondphilly

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I am new to this form of relationship. Until recently I was preparing myself to live the rest of my life without a pernmant mate. No one was satisfying me. NO male was taking control. I know in the working work I am strong and independant female. I was disscussing this with a male friend (who is dominant) and found all this very interesting.
So I began to read about be submissive and have found now I have lots more questions.

My first question is what is the role of a trainer? Do you seek a trainner or Dom to help wwith the understanding of this?

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RE: new to this - 2/25/2004 3:58:51 PM

Perempt

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I do not understand your last question precisely, but I assume you are asking how yu get started in bdsm, choosing a trainer or Dom, nd starting your new life?

I think the chances of finding your life partner as a novice on your first try are quite small. Miracles happen, of course, but at the start you do ot even know what you are looking for.

I recommend starting with a Mentor or Trainer, and take your training with Him or Her. That person should be eperienced, should be atient with you, should question you at length at how you feel at every step, so that you come to understand yourself and your needs, and should take time to answer your questions.

There are all kind of Dom/mes, as you will come to understand,, but it is not crucial that the Trainer be any particular type, since S/He is not molding you to Hs design, but merely giving you a round range of experience to learn your own needs.

Last: the Trainer shold be a friend: someone you can laugh with, can open up to, someone who cares about you, and will let you fly on your own when you are ready.

Shop for One carefully. 's'

Good luck!

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RE: new to this - 2/26/2004 7:36:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: fondphilly

My first question is what is the role of a trainer? Do you seek a trainner or Dom to help wwith the understanding of this?

I mentor both Submissives and Dominants alike. Basically I am their friend. I watch out for them and their safety. Hence my name here..Sub4hire. Basically that means if you are an abuser I will beat your ass if you hurt someone I care for.
I am only submissive to my Dominant. Not to the world. Respect needs to be earned. It is'nt given freely.
So all in all...to me a mentor is merely like a big brother..big sister.
Someone who loves you unconditionally. No matter how stupid you are at times. Or how stupid you appear.

Just my opinion.

Gloria

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