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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 4/11/2005 2:41:37 AM

MsIce

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My mistress took the keys to my CB3000 (secured with a PA) yesterday.

Seems strange to me that at one moment you have a Mistress that lives in a different place and also a wife whom you cant satisfy
I suggest you are a total liar

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 6/14/2005 4:35:00 PM

asissyforher

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I have ready in many Webs and some documents that insist: Any woman can Control his man if she Control the sex!

wives' tale i fear.

but then,......i have already taken that power away. i am self celebate since 2001 and don't care.
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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 6/14/2005 6:05:20 PM

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i have already taken that power away. i am self celebate since 2001 and don't care.

But don't you want her to have power over you?

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 6/14/2005 6:15:54 PM

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True Power is a state of mind.....If you feel like you have no power over a situation that you care about then it works.
If you don't care about anything then you can never give power to Anyone because there is nothing that you Long for......like sexual release.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 6/15/2005 1:47:01 AM

asissyforher

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lionheart;

sex is not part of my personal submisssion. never has been ..never will be.
nor is intimate romantic love.

i am celebate and platonic. i serve just to serve.
i am domestics service slave....

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 8/2/2005 2:11:20 PM

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all, it is the duration that builds the yearning, submissiveness, pre-cum drool, a bit of emasculation, control, and do anything for you desire, can’t help himself, drop to his knees giddy passion

good quote!

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 8/2/2005 2:13:25 PM

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dont give up sissy.
We are out there!

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 8/2/2005 9:01:57 PM

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Orgasm denial is definitely effective. I've met some Domme women who have gotten me to give them dozens of orgasms, and leave me begging them to allow me to just have one. There must be something about the sound of a submissive begging and pleading that becomes music to a Domme's ears.

On the other hand, I thank God none of the Domme's i've ever encountered have tried to rope me into a chastity device. Sounds great on paper, but i can't imagine ever doing that in reality. It would feel too much like prison. I don't mind giving up control in the bedroom... but i don't want it infringing on my daily life. There's something quite natural and beautiful about morning wood. Wearing a chastity device seems quite unnatural. What if conditioned your body to never get aroused? What if over time it worked against the Domme and made the man lose all interest in sex?

The whole chastity thing is a nice head game for fantasy, but it's one of those things I'd rather leave there. Why go that far. A good Domme can control a man's orgasm without one.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/6/2005 9:21:51 PM

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I've found this to be an interesting thread. The only thing that I can add is that I have found that long term chastity is wonderful if the Mistress is also interested in the teasing and denial aspect.
Simply locking me up and forgetting about me would not fly because I would lose all interest. But constantly keeping me on the edge with no release? Sheer Bliss.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/7/2005 9:26:04 AM

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Get a man sexually arroused and you can get him to do almost anything. You don't even have to touch someone to have that happen.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/7/2005 11:18:47 AM

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I control my slave's orgasms when he is with me -- most of the our sexual contact is about me and my orgasm and he never gets to orgasm.

Otherwise I frankly don't care how many times a day he jacks off or not.

He serves me because he believes I deserve his loyalty and service, because he knows I'm the boss and that this arrangment suits us both quite well. I don't need to control his cock because I own him as an entire person, not merely as an extension of his body parts.

This is how I like my ownership so therefore I chose men who aren't relying on their penis to make their decisions about submissiveness or slavery.

Many others perfer direct and immediate control over all aspects of a submissive or slave sexuality. For these a man who craves orgasm control and denial would be lovely I'm sure. For me, the talk of such 'control' leaves me cold and I say "thanks for your interest, I wish you luck in your search".

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/7/2005 12:55:00 PM

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In my first experience my Mistress used orgasam denial a lot but without the device. After having been denied for many days and she let me come I'd come in seconds the same thing happened when she wanted me to enter her just after I became her sub after 5 years of a regular relationship and she turned me into a sub which lasted two years until she moved to Toronto. Now I am where I want to be but the problem may still be there when I find my new Mistress to take me on as her sub.

Any ideas on how to solve this problem so that I don't get the crop as I use to when it happened before not to mention how unhappy she was with my performance.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/7/2005 11:40:51 PM

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Im a virgin. I have this fantasy of a dom chastising me for life.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/8/2005 5:16:20 AM

Greatcornbow

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Will be fit in to the largest A ring of a cb3000?

If so, start there.

Otherwise go for a made to measure steel belt (e,g, Neosteel) or get him some piercings and maybe a Lori also made to measure.

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I am looking for a chastity belt for my Sub he is very well endowed and enormous bollocks is there such a device that can accomodate him?

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/9/2005 10:08:31 PM

lonewolf05

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JulioBsAs

It depends on what head the man is letting rule him.

HAHAHAA! I couldn't resist!

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actually????/ this is SO true.........for guys like ME that has not had sex since 2001 and i do not care if i ever do.
oh--and i corrected your spelling also.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/10/2005 5:08:51 AM

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Chastity is agreat addition to DOmination however I dont see it as the sum total. Lots of men enjoy these devices. If you are just goingto lock him up however and lose interest in taunting teasing coercing the fun will go away.

I am not a fan of fighting for someones submission or obedience. The device does however make the sub more reliant on his Mistress.....

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/10/2005 7:36:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: trainable123

In my first experience my Mistress used orgasam denial a lot but without the device. After having been denied for many days and she let me come I'd come in seconds the same thing happened when she wanted me to enter her just after I became her sub after 5 years of a regular relationship and she turned me into a sub which lasted two years until she moved to Toronto. Now I am where I want to be but the problem may still be there when I find my new Mistress to take me on as her sub.

Any ideas on how to solve this problem so that I don't get the crop as I use to when it happened before not to mention how unhappy she was with my performance.

Thanks
Trainable

This may not be a popular answer but I'd suggest learning to control your sexual orgasm yourself. Learn to arouse yourself and then stop. Learn breathing techniques, learn muscle control, learn how to enjoy the ride and not need to the final stop.

I think honestly you have to learn to do this yourself first and foremost.

I think relying on a device or pain or an external control will only make it more likely you will orgasm quickly when that external control isn't around.

I personally prefer a slave or a submissive who can offer me his ability to control himself and focus on serving me rather than needing me to control and serve him in these sexual areas.

Again, my preference and part of how I pick my slaves. Not a comment on how you have to be or must be.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/10/2005 9:50:04 AM

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I personally prefer a slave or a submissive who can offer me his ability to control himself and focus on serving me rather than needing me to control and serve him in these sexual areas.

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yep yep

it's what my present Mistress feels too. but then,..She also has a fixation on Control.......She is a freak about it.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/10/2005 11:11:23 AM

Kasia

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ORIGINAL: DrkAngl

Get a man sexually arroused and you can get him to do almost anything.

It is true with some men but not all of them. There are actually men that do not let the "other head" control them however aroused they may be. I live with one of those kind - there is no chance anyone could manipulate him through sex.

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RE: Can a Woman easely Dominate a man using Orgasm Deni... - 11/10/2005 11:50:35 AM

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Yes, as you have heard for the last two pages...orgasam denial is very effective. I think they actually think of sex 100 times more once they are no longer the decsion maker. I have never had a sub that I DIDN'T use orgasam control on. It seems a natural progression to me. Makes the heart grow fonder and the mind oh so much more attentive.

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