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I am not sure if I should say anything to the community... - 3/1/2006 7:56:44 AM

ArtistInTN

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a member here whom I know for a fact is a lier and a thief. He purports himself to be a dom and I fear he could be a danger also because he is known to carry a gun concealed when meeting with women.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 8:00:01 AM

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Hmmm, if I were you...I would not go out of my way to make a bad name for myself by 'tattling' on others.

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That's just me though

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 8:08:00 AM

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a member here whom I know for a fact is a lier and a thief. He purports himself to be a dom and I fear he could be a danger also because he is known to carry a gun concealed when meeting with women.

That all depends..
Its only of interest to the "community" for a few reasons..
Liar? Most are.. Is what he lied about, something that makes him a threat?
Danger? If he's a danger because her carries a weapon? If so, MANY of us are dangerous. Myself included.. Is there something MORE that would cause you to conclude that he is a "danger"?
dom? Half of the "doms" here are HNG's and want a kinky fuck.. WHat seperates THIS guy form the masses?

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 8:10:10 AM

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I agree with Irish, one persons trash is another person's treasure--I can appreciate you may feel used, learn and move on--btw carrying a concealed weapon isn't a bad thing--My sub carries one (by permit) and he carries a ton of flares in his car! Imagine what some people would think! Assumption on circumstances could be damaging and make one look foolish.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 8:17:14 AM

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You should be cautiously honest when people ask directly, and otherwise just move on with your life as normal.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:02:49 AM

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my attitude about something like this is - glad i found out before something really bad happened. And i don't fight fire with fire. Usually when i find myself thinking i've been a victim, i have to get more honest with myself about whether i was really paying attention to my instincts or my wants. Too often in life i've looked back at a bad situation and, when really honest, have to admit "i knew" and chose to ignore it.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:08:33 AM

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You've been a member for nine days and already you're telling us who's a "lier"?

Posts like this always seem to come from people with 5 posts or fewer.

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a member here whom I know for a fact is a lier and a thief.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:13:45 AM

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a member here whom I know for a fact is a lier and a thief. He purports himself to be a dom and I fear he could be a danger also because he is known to carry a gun concealed when meeting with women.

No, you shouldn't. Such behavior is not tolerated here.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:15:04 AM

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People will come to their own conclusions when they do not truly know both sides of the story. However, if it were a football game you would be flagged and given a ten yard penalty for "personal foul in the backfield."
So, my advice would be to protect yourself if you feel in danger and move on if you feel hurt, but don't be a bashin in public.
I carry a concealed weapon too (Does this make me dangerous?), but it only shoots blanks.........Vasectomy!
Just like fresh Florida orange juice, all juice no seed : )

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:15:56 AM

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I could be way off base here but oh well.

I would think that if the guy was truely dangerous, there would be no question of you posting it on the board in the interest of the community. You would have just posted his name/profile and a account of what happened that shows why he should be looked out for. But instead just vauge comments and accusations...

This way it kind of comes across as a jilted lover type thing.

As I said I may be way off on it and I dont mean to offend or get down on you,
its early I havnt had enough coffee but thats the way it strikes me.

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I carry a concealed weapon too (Does this make me dangerous?), but it only shoots blanks.........Vasectomy!
Just like fresh Florida orange juice, all juice no seed : )

Thanx for my first laugh of the day fastlane, thats classic

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:24:26 AM

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By the TOS, as stated by MOD Eleven, that is inappropriate behavior here, jilted lover or not--

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:38:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: Webmaster60

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a member here whom I know for a fact is a lier and a thief. He purports himself to be a dom and I fear he could be a danger also because he is known to carry a gun concealed when meeting with women.

That all depends..
Its only of interest to the "community" for a few reasons..
Liar? Most are.. Is what he lied about, something that makes him a threat?
Danger? If he's a danger because her carries a weapon? If so, MANY of us are dangerous. Myself included.. Is there something MORE that would cause you to conclude that he is a "danger"?
dom? Half of the "doms" here are HNG's and want a kinky fuck.. WHat seperates THIS guy form the masses?

I know alot of people who carry concealed weapons, particulary females. In this day and age its almost a have too. I think all women should learn to safely use a firearm for protection because you just never know when you might need it. So anyone who carries one I wouldn't consider dangerous just looking out for themselves. Also who's to say the chick he might be going to meet isn't packing a piece?

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 9:41:17 AM

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That is true too... Mod11 and fastlane were posting while I was...
And being asleep I didnt think... so in that context no it should not be done
becuase it does violate the rules of the board. But instead maybe if it was a threat then speaking to the Mods directly and finding options would be the better route.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 11:00:25 AM

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There is only one time when I would expose the person and that is if he was starting to see a friend and then I'd tell her one on one.... On the boards? not on your nelly...

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 11:21:38 AM

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There is only one time when I would expose the person and that is if he was starting to see a friend and then I'd tell her one on one.... On the boards? not on your nelly...

Even then old friend, knowing you I'd think that would be a "Here is what I've seen/heard and my impression of the person. Make up your own mind" as it would be from me.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 11:31:57 AM

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a member here whom I know for a fact is a lier and a thief. He purports himself to be a dom and I fear he could be a danger also because he is known to carry a gun concealed when meeting with women.

I guess I'm a danger too since I occasionally carry a gun. One of the first things I did when I arrived in Florida was to get a carry permit.

This is what Libby likes to call "True. True. Unrelated." And that's assuming your assessment of the guy is true in the first place.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 11:41:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: SYNister

That is true too... Mod11 and fastlane were posting while I was...
And being asleep I didnt think... so in that context no it should not be done
becuase it does violate the rules of the board. But instead maybe if it was a threat then speaking to the Mods directly and finding options would be the better route.

Yes, but again it is only hearsay and the Mods regulate our behavior here, not real life---good gawd if that were the case, Mod Eleven would be reaching for a martini--

ok ok Mod I had too.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 11:49:50 AM

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The situation was that he hired an escort and was told no weapons allowed, When he arrived the gun was concealed and taken off in such a manner she did not see it as he hid it under his jacke or some part of his clothing. Right about time the session was supposed to end his cell phone rang and he told the girl that he had to go because of an emergency. As he was getting dressed the girl glimpsed the gun and questioned him about it. When he left he took her donation with him.

I will admit it is not known if he had anything planned other than taking her money but the one thing he did not know before he arrived is that she had a rather large dog there that was trained for protection. The reason I know this is the same man is I have seen a photograph of him that he sent her prior to the meeting and he contacted me the first day I was here I recognized the photo and name made sure to verify that the photo on the profile was the same person he had sent to her prior to asking if anything should be said I also should have asked if so to whom.

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RE: I am not sure if I should say anything to the commu... - 3/1/2006 12:00:14 PM

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Bad people are bad people, but suggesting that a person is dangerous because "he has a gun" is the same thing as saying "Keep an eye on that N^*&er he might try to rape a white woman" its just wrong and prejudiced.

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BTW The reason I asked was because - 3/1/2006 12:00:27 PM

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I honestly doubt that all subs do as they should and meet in public the first few times and if in private and no protection like this girl had (which as I stated he did not know of in advance) Also after this insident she let other girls in the area know what happened and there were several that responded that he had a reputation for doing that and other such stuff. If a person is going to steal from others would you want to trust him to tie you up and have his way? Would you at least want to know in advance that he has a reputation for such actions as he did? I am only concerned for the subs that are too new or doormats to take precautions to assure their safety when meeting a dom.

Oh and for those whom felt that I should be reprimanded I did not give a single detail out as to his identity not even what country he is in because I did not know what is appropriate in some instances in fact that is why I asked. I also did not know I should as one suggested contact a moderator so I asked a question that gave only that it was known he has these 2 qualities. I still have not given any details that would identify him. And for those whom thought I am against guns, I have 2 of my own but also there are certain times it is not appropriate to have one on you (even if you have a carry permit) His taking the weapon when and where he did was a voilation of this girl's trust. And if you think of how many girls are robbed, beaten and or killed because of their job yes I am concerned about him meeting anyone online.

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