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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:02:23 PM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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(looking up the word fellatio)


::chuckles while True increases her vocabulary::




oh you hush... LOL


Edited to add:........................ DUH JESSICA..

ok I found it in dictionary... LOL.. feeling really stupid here.. this calls for another cup of coffee...

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:04:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KittenWithaTwist

I love giving oral sex, but I don't consider it "being in control" because I know that it's him shoving me around, him controlling my movements, and his decision whether or not and how and where to climax.


Whether he lays back and allows me to please him or is grabbing me by the hair and manhandling me, I still feel powerful and not the least bit submissive. Maybe it is the attitude that I have and how much I enjoy doing it...

I should also make the distinction between oral sex on a man and on a woman. Performing oral sex on a woman, can make me feel very submissive since it is not something that I enjoy and will rarely do it until instructed to. Then it is something that I do to please my Lord and not because I get any pleasure or satisfaction out of it.


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I very much enjoy and get a great deal of satisfaction out of performing oral sex. However, I still view it, in my own mind, as a submissive act. I do not perform it as much for myself as for him. It is about his pleasure, his indulgence. In the end, it is about the pursuit of his orgasm.

We all have different views, of course. But I am a bit put off by the suggestion that I may only see it as a submissive act because I may not enjoy it (which is untrue).

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:09:25 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		Before Master it used to be a control thing for me. As i rev them up and then stop.. or go slow.. i was in control and i controlled how they felt, what they felt and even they're orgasm. While i enjoyed myself! i've always enjoyed giving head.. as one here said.. while i fed myself. i loved it and i did it for myself, never for them. Did as i pleased and usually tried giving them blue balls in the process. = )

But with Master its a whole nother story as i am never let loose to go at is as i see fit. Its an honor as he takes use of my mouth in which ever way he sees fit. Whether he commands my movements, steers me, feeds me, stops me or cums. It has never felt like me me using his penis for my enjoyment, but rather him using my mouth for his enjoyment

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:14:34 PM   
Vancouver_cinful


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Status: offline 		It's a very submissive act for me...and has been since long before I ever knew about D/s. From my first experience as a teen, as a matter of fact, I recall that sense of pride and contentment at having pleased my partner.

In the last few years it has become extremely spiritual for me, as well. Something I didn't forsee.

Is it inherently a submissive act? Nope, I don't believe any act is either dominant or submissive. It's the mindset and approach that makes it so, as many others have already said in this thread. I just don't happen to have come across any sexual situation that arises a dominant mindset for me.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:16:32 PM   
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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:17:25 PM   
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He loves when I want to feed... play... savor... be there awhile. Not to just get him up and going.. or for quick release. Though quick release is sometimes his pleasure.. so be it then.


You have to love it when she whimpers that you aren't giving her enough time.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 5:31:43 PM   
IronBear


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I gotta agree with og, here, it is an internal thing, I don't think that the fact that you wanna gobble it like a turkey time to time precludes your being dominant.

Ron


Sorry mate but if it gobbles like a turkey it is a turkey..... Hmmm I always knew there was something different about the Americans besides driving upside down and on the wrong side of the road.... Turkey fetishes ... The Kiwis have sheep and the Aussies have kangaroos so I guess it all adds up even..

Ok when the hoorah has settled down.. I'll be serious .. (Yeah get rid of that blasted lynch mob will yers!) Oral sex like any form of sex and other intimacies is something personal and whilst being fun, givig and receiving pleasure it can be deeply spiritual.. (I use sex magick when I believe it necessary) For me and with both my mindset and experience in the "Hidden Arts", If a girl is giving me oral sex she is told beforehand that if she swallows my cum, it is helping to bind her closer to me. It is and can be a powerfull form of binding similar to a slave collar for those who share theat state of mind. So yes a woman giving me oral sex and swallowing id submitting to me and not just in a causual manner but as a deep spiritual manner... I'm hoping I have made this clear enough I'm trying not to write a book on sex magick and sexual bindings etc etc etc... (It's the wrong place to discuss this in depth).

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 7:16:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KittenWithaTwist

We all have different views, of course. But I am a bit put off by the suggestion that I may only see it as a submissive act because I may not enjoy it (which is untrue).


Kitten,

Sorry if you took it that way but I was only speaking for myself and my own views on my life. It does not matter whether he is controlling it or just allowing me to do what I wish, I do not think of it as submitting and that the only way I would view performing oral sex on him as submitting is if I did not enjoy the act. That is my own opinion of my feelings and thoughts and is not meant to be taken as a suggestion on other's thoughts and feelings.

kyra

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 5:11:15 AM   
Lashra


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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

It's Sunday morning and I am thinking about oral sex... *g*

I am interested in other people's opinions on this question. Is oral sex a submissive act?

For myself it is not at all. I do not "feel" submissive at all when I perform oral sex for my Lord. I love doing it and I feel powerful and in control. He is often non-verbal and lost in sensation and all because of me. It is a major turn-on! On the rare occasions that he performs oral sex on me, I in no way see that as a submissive act either. When a sadist has his teeth on my clit, I am quickly reminded of who is in control!


So what are other people's thoughts on this?


Knight's kyra


No I don't think oral sex is a submissive act, because if it is there's alot of Dom/mes out there performing it on their subs. I personally love oral sex receiving and giving. I like to hear his moans and winces (I use my teeth alot), I like to know how hot it makes him. It makes him soo subby that he's putty in my hands.
I get him to the point of climax and...well sometimes I stop right there sometimes I let him cum its all up to me and what I want him to do.

Regardless its fun and that is what counts.

Lashra

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 6:13:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I gotta agree with og, here, it is an internal thing, I don't think that the fact that you wanna gobble it like a turkey time to time precludes your being dominant.

Ron


Sex magick...please share, Bear...THIS sounds intriguing...

Sorry mate but if it gobbles like a turkey it is a turkey..... Hmmm I always knew there was something different about the Americans besides driving upside down and on the wrong side of the road.... Turkey fetishes ... The Kiwis have sheep and the Aussies have kangaroos so I guess it all adds up even..

Ok when the hoorah has settled down.. I'll be serious .. (Yeah get rid of that blasted lynch mob will yers!) Oral sex like any form of sex and other intimacies is something personal and whilst being fun, givig and receiving pleasure it can be deeply spiritual.. (I use sex magick when I believe it necessary) For me and with both my mindset and experience in the "Hidden Arts", If a girl is giving me oral sex she is told beforehand that if she swallows my cum, it is helping to bind her closer to me. It is and can be a powerfull form of binding similar to a slave collar for those who share theat state of mind. So yes a woman giving me oral sex and swallowing id submitting to me and not just in a causual manner but as a deep spiritual manner... I'm hoping I have made this clear enough I'm trying not to write a book on sex magick and sexual bindings etc etc etc... (It's the wrong place to discuss this in depth).



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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 6:35:36 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Love to share with you Cloudz lovely lass.... But perhaps these forums are just not the best to do so. I have a feeling the discussion may offend some who don't share my beliefs and practices.....

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 7:39:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Love to share with you Cloudz lovely lass.... But perhaps these forums are just not the best to do so. I have a feeling the discussion may offend some who don't share my beliefs and practices.....


Shame. Sounds like a worthwhile thread. Perhaps you need to write that book after all? Or at least consider putting up a website on it?

Cin

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 7:43:34 AM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Hi Kyra,

Great post !

For Kari and I oral can be a submissive act or not. Sometimes she wants it so bad that she initiates the act and enjoys doing it. At those times it's definetely NOT a submissive act. At other times I will 'force' her to her knees and literally force this on her. At those times I don't care if she enjoys it or not and it is definetely a submissive act for her.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 5:31:11 PM   
Petruchio


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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 6:48:38 PM   
truesub4u


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Status: offline 		Well I guess I can see that. Because all though I do not feel submissive while giving oral to Master.. i don't paticularly like it in return... so when I have to recieve... I feel way submissive... because it's his pleasure... not mine.

So there for I can see where this Domme can feel her Dom fly out the window... it's just reversed for me.... i feel my submissivness fly in fast and hard... LOL

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 7:27:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would simply say oral sex is natural. It can be a submissive or dominant act; it depends on how it is done, in my opinion.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 8:17:39 PM   
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I would simply say oral sex is natural. It can be a submissive or dominant act; it depends on how it is done, in my opinion.


Is that your coded admisssion for being a rug rat?

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 9:19:08 PM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

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ORIGINAL: amayos

I would simply say oral sex is natural. It can be a submissive or dominant act; it depends on how it is done, in my opinion.


Is that your coded admisssion for being a rug rat?


Very picky about that...

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/27/2006 10:19:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		With my ex-Domina it was a submissive act on my part either way.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/28/2006 12:12:43 AM   
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What if the position was changed a bit? Iit appears that most if not all talk is from the position of the sub woman appearing submissive in her oral love with Her Dom.

What if the 'Precious' Lady sits astride Her One's face (whilst He is laying prone) and thrusts herself to His face. This act to an observer is aggressive and in no way does the sub appear to be acting submissively. Is she acting submissively?

I just want to see what reactions I obtain here.Yes, I will answer any further questions..


Warm regards to all.


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