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Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:30:05 AM

kyraofMists

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It's Sunday morning and I am thinking about oral sex... *g*

I am interested in other people's opinions on this question. Is oral sex a submissive act?

For myself it is not at all. I do not "feel" submissive at all when I perform oral sex for my Lord. I love doing it and I feel powerful and in control. He is often non-verbal and lost in sensation and all because of me. It is a major turn-on! On the rare occasions that he performs oral sex on me, I in no way see that as a submissive act either. When a sadist has his teeth on my clit, I am quickly reminded of who is in control!

So what are other people's thoughts on this?

Knight's kyra

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:34:02 AM

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No, but I know a hell of al ot of people in the scene think it is.

An act is neither submissive nor dominant. It's somehow dominant for a dom to give the slave pleasure through flogging, but somehow not dominant if they give the slave pleasure through oral sex? Explain that standard?

It is our feelings on something and ideals that make an act dominant or submissive, nothing inherent to the act. If oral sex is on your "subs only" list, then go for it. But for me, I think it's denying a lot of connection and pleausre on ALL sides to not do something because you feel your orientation demands it.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:40:15 AM

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Oral sex in and of itself is not a submissive act. There can be elements added such as being commanded to do it, wearing a pussy collar, is the receiver being passive or aggressive while receiving or taking as the case may be, that will make one feel more submissive while doing it.

On the rare occasion that I would have a cock in my mouth the boy it was attached to would not be completely assured of it remaining so.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:43:08 AM

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In my experience, women (in the vanilla world) tend to see performing oral as a NOT being a submissive act, while men see it being performed on them as a submissive act.

And it seems like the opposite with performing orla on a woman ... men see doing it as submissive, and women see their men doing it as them being submissive.

Says I, whatever your perspecitve, it is a win-win for all ;)

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:45:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

No, but I know a hell of al ot of people in the scene think it is.

An act is neither submissive nor dominant. It's somehow dominant for a dom to give the slave pleasure through flogging, but somehow not dominant if they give the slave pleasure through oral sex? Explain that standard?

It is our feelings on something and ideals that make an act dominant or submissive, nothing inherent to the act. If oral sex is on your "subs only" list, then go for it. But for me, I think it's denying a lot of connection and pleausre on ALL sides to not do something because you feel your orientation demands it.

I couldn't agree much more on this point.

Objects, acts, activities, colors, all these "things" are not innately connected to submissive or domininant or male or female. The connection is in our minds.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:46:50 AM

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Morning kyra...nice way to start my sunday off.... coffee... and oral sex conversations. LOL Gotta love mornings like this.. I know I do.

No.. as a submissive I so do not find oral sex a submissive act. Actually.. to me.. it's my reward. Do not get me wrong... (Lord petruchio is going to get his confirmation now.. lol) I like most.. love sex but can do without it.. if allowed to give oral to Master. LMAO.. just call me a old fashion cock sucker. But then again, I'm not down there bobbing up and down. I'm having fun!!!
Enjoying, savoring, feeding.... when i'm allowed to go at it... I'm in my own little world..Sometimes Master has to literally pull me off to get my attention.

Submissive act?.. No, not in my book......

Heaven?... most assured... in my book.....

Edited to add: Statement came out wrong... I like most love sex.... but its ME (not most) that can live with out it... I was refering strictly to myself in that statement.. sorry.

< Message edited by truesub4u -- 2/26/2006 8:50:13 AM >

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:47:47 AM

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I absolutely concur, kyra. I have always seen performing oral sex as an in control position. I can make him purr or groan, slide or slam and even silence him for a moment.
I adore looking up watching his expression as I envoke every sensation that is causing the re action.

Now, I think we need to hush on this one before we blow our submissive cover

mbmbn

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 8:56:18 AM

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quote:

But then again, I'm not down there bobbing up and down. I'm having fun!!!
Enjoying, savoring, feeding.... when i'm allowed to go at it... I'm in my own little world..Sometimes Master has to literally pull me off to get my attention.

I am not in any way, shape or form a submissive, however, I can really relate to what you wrote here truesub. I LOVE going down on my sub. It is a VERY powerful place to be. But I dont do it for the power, I dont do it to make him feel good. I do it for ME. If he is enjoying it, fine, but make no mistake, I do it for me. I love the scent, the taste and the texture. It is an event in itself. Of course those little whimpers I hear through the ball gag doesnt bother me in the least <s>

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:04:07 AM

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I love giving oral sex, but I don't consider it "being in control" because I know that it's him shoving me around, him controlling my movements, and his decision whether or not and how and where to climax.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:08:53 AM

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i love oral...as long as it's with a woman...i won't allow for any man to do it and i won't do it for any man...my preference

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:08:59 AM

Shayna

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I think it's whatever meaning those involved in the act give it. To me it's not submissive at all, whether I'm top or bottom (I'm a switch), giving or receiving.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:10:40 AM

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Is an act of nurturing for me.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:13:38 AM

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I agree with some of kitten's statement here...... I do see it as being in control either. I don't want to be in control of Master.. though I want him to enjoy. I get so lost in my own little world while being given this honor to be allowed to feed on my Master... I for one still see this as him being in control... not me.

He doesn't have to command me to suck either... so therefore still don't see it as a submissive act either.. all he has to say is.. "feeling hungry?" and i'm on me knees before he can blink!

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:45:07 AM

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With the possibility of doing a "Lorena Bobbit" on him at any time? Hell no! I wouldn't consider it a submissive act! I know he does though, and that makes it all the more sweet. I love sucking his cock. I love becoming intoxicated with his smell. Shhh! But I don't tell him how much *I* do it for me....lol! Hmmmm.....but then would he ever consider it a punishment and NOT allow me to perform oral sex on him? Ummm....I think he enjoys it far too much!

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:50:03 AM

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I think oral sex is both powerful and an act of worship. I get a lot of power in giving a man oral and making him lose himself in the sensations I am giving him. I also see it as worship since I love his cock and want to pour myself into what I am doing to please him.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 9:57:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

It's Sunday morning and I am thinking about oral sex... *g*

I am interested in other people's opinions on this question. Is oral sex a submissive act?

For myself it is not at all. I do not "feel" submissive at all when I perform oral sex for my Lord. I love doing it and I feel powerful and in control. He is often non-verbal and lost in sensation and all because of me. It is a major turn-on! On the rare occasions that he performs oral sex on me, I in no way see that as a submissive act either. When a sadist has his teeth on my clit, I am quickly reminded of who is in control!

So what are other people's thoughts on this?

Knight's kyra

kyra,

I cannot add much to this topic. I am in complete agree with MistressofGA..but she said it first, so I can only nod and concur.

My inital thought on reading this and many of your other posts, was that you are a credit to HIM...both in your thoughts and in your questions.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 10:11:20 AM

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I agree with LA. No act is inherently dominant or submissive. PEOPLE are dominant or submissive. Whether an act is an expression of dominance or submission (or neither) depends on the people and the situation.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 10:44:29 AM

kyraofMists

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ORIGINAL: Cloudz

kyra,

I cannot add much to this topic. I am in complete agree with MistressofGA..but she said it first, so I can only nod and concur.

My inital thought on reading this and many of your other posts, was that you are a credit to HIM...both in your thoughts and in your questions.

Thank you for the compliment.

kyra

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 10:55:31 AM

kyraofMists

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ORIGINAL: KittenWithaTwist

I love giving oral sex, but I don't consider it "being in control" because I know that it's him shoving me around, him controlling my movements, and his decision whether or not and how and where to climax.

Whether he lays back and allows me to please him or is grabbing me by the hair and manhandling me, I still feel powerful and not the least bit submissive. Maybe it is the attitude that I have and how much I enjoy doing it...

I should also make the distinction between oral sex on a man and on a woman. Performing oral sex on a woman, can make me feel very submissive since it is not something that I enjoy and will rarely do it until instructed to. Then it is something that I do to please my Lord and not because I get any pleasure or satisfaction out of it.

kyra

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 2/26/2006 11:20:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Morning kyra...nice way to start my sunday off.... coffee... and oral sex conversations. LOL Gotta love mornings like this.. I know I do.

i was sipping my coffee, read this, and almost spit it out, laughing....okay i can continue reading now....lmao

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