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nymphoshaz -> opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:09:10 PM)

i have been having problems with a certain master on here....i have made it perfectly clear i am not interested in him.........i have it posted in my profile that i am a domme and this master keeps insisting on being my master.......i dont want a master.......i do want to find a dom to teach me so i can treat my subs properly and safely....i know i can block this person but i dont think that solves the problem.......anyone care to comment on this problem?



BitaTruble -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:11:35 PM)

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i know i can block this person but i dont think that solves the problem.......


Why don't you think that will solve the problem since he can't contact you any more?

Celeste



Misstoyou -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:13:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: nymphoshaz

i know i can block this person but i dont think that solves the problem.......anyone care to comment on this problem?



I don't particularly understand why you don't think blocking will solve your problem, but if you don't want to block, you can delete the messages unread and decline chats. Honestly, I don't see why you would bother wasting energy on someone that cannot understand "No."



MistressSassy66 -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:17:53 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

i know i can block this person but i dont think that solves the problem.......


Why don't you think that will solve the problem since he can't contact you any more?

Celeste



I tried the blocking thing....they just get a new ID and come right back at you.

So now I dont even bother blocking them...I see the name,I delete the email...dont even bother reading it.

I dont think reporting profile does anything...Maybe contact a MOD if its become harrassment and not just frequent emails.



foxglove716 -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:25:23 PM)

Some people just dont get it. You can try telling this person youre not a sub and youre not interested all day and it still wouldnt translate. This is more than likely not a reasonable person so you cant deal with him in a reasonable way. I would just delete the mail without reading. Dont waste time and energy.



Petruchio -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:29:22 PM)

Are you SURE you're a domme?

Don't misunderstand, I'm not suggesting you're a wannabee, wanker, etc. Just a question.



nymphoshaz -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:33:10 PM)

petruchio..............i know i am dominate and i do have a male sub.............i am just asking a question here........i know i am new at this.......if i dont ask questions how do i get answers............i try to be nice but sometimes there are people you just cant be nice too



truesub4u -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:35:32 PM)

Sometimes... no mater how hard you try to remove dust mites.. (like Petruchio [;)])... they keep sneaking back in.. and nothing you can do.. but spray bug spray again..


Sometimes it's fun watching them doing the slow death dance.. the begging.... the pleading...

(Damn I keep talking like that.. someones gonna think I'm a Dom too... LOL)



nymphoshaz -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:36:52 PM)

Mistress Sassy and foxglove........i tried blocking people on other sites and they created new profiles so blocking doesnt real help.....so this is one reason why i am asking...and thanx for your replies and comments and take them into consideration



BitaTruble -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:40:24 PM)

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Mistress Sassy and foxglove........i tried blocking people on other sites and they created new profiles so blocking doesnt real help.....so this is one reason why i am asking...and thanx for your replies and comments and take them into consideration


Block them and if they stalk you, report them and let the Mods deal with them.

Celeste



PenelopePitstop -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:41:42 PM)

May I suggest psychological tactics? Finding out what he doesn't like and imitating it? I'm not a fan of deception, but I am even less of a fan of harrassment.

nonono what am I saying. Report him to the powers that be, they can at least do an ip ban.



Jasmyn -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 9:44:46 PM)

Shaz may I sincerely suggest you seek a dom (male or female) to help you *dom* your sub, rather than as your profile reads now seeking someone to *dom* you.

As for blocking, not a major fan of it myself either as they can always circumvent it by beginning another profile. Personally I find *ignoring* them drives them insane...and the sadistic me gets quite the kick out of that ;)

Enjoy your journey.




Petruchio -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 10:05:48 PM)

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i try to be nice but sometimes there are people you just cant be nice too


I did not say you were not nice (as you just suggsted about me) and I regret you feel that way. It's 1 in the morning, but I thought I asked a serious, gentle, fair question and even qualified it, asking you not to misunderstand me.

However, I was remiss in not making you feel welcomed to CM.



Jasmyn -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 10:09:23 PM)

I think she may have been meaning the 'master' she is having msg problems with.



RavenMuse -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 10:55:16 PM)

This might sound a little harsh but IF you are a Domme then act like it. Ignore this pestering insect like you would a cockroach in your garden. He can only bother you if you let him!



MistressSassy66 -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/21/2006 11:01:52 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

Shaz may I sincerely suggest you seek a dom (male or female) to help you *dom* your sub, rather than as your profile reads now seeking someone to *dom* you.

As for blocking, not a major fan of it myself either as they can always circumvent it by beginning another profile. Personally I find *ignoring* them drives them insane...and the sadistic me gets quite the kick out of that ;) Enjoy your journey.





So do enjoy that also.

1.I will sometimes send a reply with nothing written,when I'm bored.

2.Another cool thing and be sure its not the Emergency line, give a Sheriffs Department telephone number and tell him to call you.I give them one from a few towns away,funny I never hear from them again.

3.TURN the tables...Tell him your going to tie his ass up and whip him and make him cry like the baby YOU know he is....


Personally 2 is My favorite way to deal with them.

Good Luck



MstrTiger -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/22/2006 12:16:17 AM)

I would just like to say that I found petruchio's question quite offensive, do you really think it is your place to question someone’s approach to their own sexuality?. You also qualified you question in offensive terms which makes you look like you were making a somewhat unsubtle attempt at being abusive.

I agree with mistress sassy’s suggested way of getting rid of him, even if it does not work it would at least be quite entertaining, there is something extremely unsavoury about men who try to dominate woman who are clearly not interested in them.



la90066 -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/22/2006 12:23:03 AM)


Although I'm not a fan of "tattling", it may have reached a point where this person should be reported to CollarMe.

Chaning their ID is one thing, but I'm assuming CollarMe can track someone's IP Address and put a stop to this.

Ask the CollarMe staff for help.




IronBear -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/22/2006 12:25:26 AM)

Last resort would be IMO to tell him "Fuck off Dirt bag.. You think you are Master enough to interest me?? Grow up and get a life!" Then copy his comments prior and your final message to the CM team and let them know he is hasseling you.



Phoenxx -> RE: opinions on telling someone no (2/22/2006 12:56:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger

I would just like to say that I found petruchio's question quite offensive, do you really think it is your place to question someone’s approach to their own sexuality?. You also qualified you question in offensive terms which makes you look like you were making a somewhat unsubtle attempt at being abusive.



Before jumping LOOK :
From nymphoshaz's ad:

i am a domme but i want to learn my submissive side for my subs sake...i want to learn from a dom NOT a master!.

Could be why Petruchio asked?
Maybe re-write your ad stating you are looking for someone to help you understand this life choice, someone to act as a mentor. Check out local groups to see if they hold munches or other events where you can meet people.
And when someone doesn't get that your not interested, just block them and DO NOT respond after your first no thanks. Otherwise you are feeding part of what they want.
And don't waste police time with false numbers. Be nice to take up time for a real emergency with a person who lives 5000 miles away from you and bugs you on the Internet... while someone is getting beaten by an abusive partner and cannot get through.
Now if this person lives in the same city as you and is making real life threats, then by all means protect yourself.
While on irc today I added 5 people to my ignore list. Sometimes I have fun yakking their chain back. And then there are days like today when I don’t have enough time for them.
Also, before you start jumping on someone for a comment they make, check out the ads of the people involved. It’s better to speak from a position of knowledge, rather then express an opinion and find out there was a good reason for the comment.
Good old honest Abe said it best:
It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, then to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
Tony



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