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RE: Longing - 2/24/2006 4:49:18 PM

Misstoyou

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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

OK michael - here you go. Remember this is only a first draft. Perhaps others will comment and suggest as well. <Especially the kind Domina's?>

IMPORTANT NOTE: michael - you need to read this over carefully, and edit out or otherwise change anything that is not absolutely true from your perspective. This is key - since i wrote it for you and we have never met - you need to make certain that what i have written applies to you - and that you are willing to live up to the words that you actually put into your profile!

i do hope you like it, and especially hope it helps you to realize your dreams in some way. now we're having fun!

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*This* has had to have done great things for your karma, st50.

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RE: Longing - 2/24/2006 4:49:53 PM

LadiesBladewing

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Actually, Michael,

I've had a number of TG friends and clients (providing pastoral care through their transitions), and I can tell you that you are -correct- that being female is more than -looking- female, but I can also tell you that a dick does not -necessarily- disqualify someone from being female. *smiles*

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there's more to being like a female than looking like a female. a dick definately disqualifies someone as female.

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RE: Longing - 2/24/2006 4:52:42 PM

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just my personal opinion, but i would rather been born without one than with...

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RE: Longing - 2/24/2006 5:24:36 PM

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*This* has had to have done great things for your karma, st50

Thank You Ma'am, i can use all of the positive karma i can get - so that would be lovely! Many have helped me along my path!

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RE: Longing - 2/25/2006 9:23:28 PM

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i hope that this works

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RE: Longing - 2/25/2006 10:06:04 PM

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i hope that this works

Well, if by "this" you mean your new profile - i do not think that can really "work" all on its own michael.

It is equally important to have a positive, attractive attitude, and to try to stay focused on the various assets that you may have to offer a Domina, and on the ways that Her life can be made easier or better by way of your involvement/use.

The profile is often a good starting point though. At the least it allows Her to take a little closer look at you once you have done something else <read above> to get Her attention.

Yes, we are having fun already!

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RE: Longing - 2/25/2006 10:14:03 PM

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how do you deal with longing for someone that is not achieveable?

Now, to answer your original post question. i do not. i rather prefer to focus on longing for one who is obtainable! Seems to work much better, and i don’t like being "wired for failure" by unrealistic expectations anymore.

Better to be in love with a girl than without!

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RE: Longing - 2/26/2006 5:23:41 AM

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so far, i haven't had one inquiry...maybe i'm expecting too much?

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RE: Longing - 2/26/2006 5:27:56 AM

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so far, i haven't had one inquiry...maybe i'm expecting too much?

In one day? Absolutely.

I'd say I only get maybe one "serious" inquiry a month by someone who fits my basic requirements of single, local.

There are no quick fixes to finding a Domme.

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RE: Longing - 2/26/2006 9:08:43 AM

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so far, i haven't had one inquiry...maybe i'm expecting too much?

Yes, i would say so ... although i do believe that destiny happens in a moment ... in an instant ... so you really only need one reply! Question is how many you will need to get before that "One" reply's.

Don't give up on what you want, but maybe think about "allowing" it to come to you in its own time? When it is "supposed to." Then the focus moves to becoming as ready and capable to serve as you can, when the time comes - rather than what you get today.

All one can do really, is to make themselves available, be ready and able to perform when an appropriate Person presents an interest, and continue to better themselves in some way during the waiting ... so as not to become cynical or otherwise develop traits that may be considered unattractive.

Great opportunity to "practice" patience michael!

st50

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RE: Longing - 2/27/2006 1:29:11 AM

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so far, i haven't had one inquiry...maybe i'm expecting too much?

I will tell you what I do, and I understand that many Dominas have the same basic attitude.
I don't have the time to browse profiles. I get enough mail without looking. One of the perks of being a FemDom, I guess. I do check the profiles of people who post on the message boards regularly, so you have the base covered, michael.
I look at the profiles of any boy who writes to Me unless it seems like it would be an absolute waste of My time. So a good first letter of introduction along with a well though out profile goes a long way towards getting My attention.
And I look at the profiles of boys who show up on My admirer's list. So if you are browsing but feel a little shy and want a few days to think about an approach, you might list the Lady as a favorite, and that could bring you to Her attention. It doesn't mean She will write, but when you do, (and you should, michael) She might be a bit more interested in opening that email.
Just submitting a new profile and then sitting back is not going to instantly produce a Domina for you. You need to get a bit more pro-active.

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RE: Longing - 2/27/2006 5:39:17 AM

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And I look at the profiles of boys who show up on My admirer's list. So if you are browsing but feel a little shy and want a few days to think about an approach, you might list the Lady as a favorite, and that could bring you to Her attention. It doesn't mean She will write, but when you do, (and you should, michael) She might be a bit more interested in opening that email.

That is where I found the boy, I am like Goddess, I looked at everyone who had Me in their admirers list--now some are there as bookmarks, some I am clueless about why--but there he was, I read his profile and contacted him--with " You have Me checked yet you have not emailed Me?" The rest, michael, is history--after all the emails, the petitions, the contacts, he was waiting in the "wings"--smiles

btw, a nicely written profile, it is at times very hard for us to articulate our own feelings--we are a tad too close. Well done! I have seen you grow these past months from a sullen and at times bitter being to a submissive with great humor and tenderness--I like your growth.

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