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RE: Cuckolding - 11/21/2005 11:36:54 PM

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i don't get into "old" stories like that, myself. i prefer to look ahead to the future, not look back upon the past.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 1:27:47 AM

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Not into this cuckhold business myself, but i think it stems from the feeling of not being man enough for your wife/mistress and thinking the only way for her to be satisfied is to let her sleep with other men whilst you watch on in humiliation. Often culminating in the slave cleaning off both with his tongue. I guess the cleaning off part would be the best bit if you were into this whole thing. Each to their own!

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 2:23:58 AM

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9 1/2 WEEKS, YOU REMAMBER.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 3:10:13 AM

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Wow..i have always found a wide variety of definitions but i thought the idea that the submissive (hey that's me), puts my Dominants pleasure before mine and part of surrendering myself to her is that jealous claim.
Now not to be stereotypical but many women, it seems, are so relationship based that the conection transcends any physical pleasure and the partnership is paramount...hey whatever it's about giving her options....it's about true sacrifice for her...not for your kink...and here is where i confuse even myself since i get tremendous pleasure for seeing her pleasured...BUT this is not for the weak of heart if you can;t surrender this..don't it will kill ya. If you don't have the self worth and selflessness...you'll never survive the ego blow of watching her with another.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 12:22:52 PM

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By the way Michael, for the record, I spelled "cuckold wrong, but it was too late to correct it. Just letting you know in case you decide to google it.

For some reason, I often make the mistake of adding an h in there even though I know it doesn't belong.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 12:33:23 PM

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If you don't have the self worth and selflessness...you'll never survive the ego blow of watching her with another.
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i am going guess this is not talkling to ME even though it says in reply to me.

coz MY domme is married.
there is NO connection between Her and i whatsoever for anything.....

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 1:21:09 PM

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Nice.

If it is done from a "worthless" point of view it would do nothing for me but then I don't want to be with someone who thinks they are that as I like confidence in a partner.
If it is done from a "your needs first, like to see you happy" point of view I can see it as very giving.
If I felt contempt for someone I'd get no fun out of doing anything with them.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 1:35:00 PM

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Is there someone who can perhaps explain some of the allure of cuckolding and how they process it? My local partner is very into it. I'm up for it because it doesn't take anything away from me, lets me give him an intense experience, and I get to enjoy the exhibitionism of it.

We've had one specific experience and he enjoyed some of it (like the hearing us in the other room as he did chores) and some of it was too much to take (actually watching me getting fucked). He hasn't really been able to express the real root of what turns him on about it.

Certainly hasn't taken away from the relationship and it's more of a scene-specific state rather than a constant state of affairs.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 4:20:48 PM

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Cuckolding is to make a cuckold of a husband, which is to say that the husbands wife is cheating on him. Didn't you read Othello?
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othello????? uh,,,,,,,,,,no. why? should i? i don't even know the NAME let alone the story.

hmm.
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"It is still basically a thriller which contains sexual jealousy, betrayal, revenge, and murder."

JUST looked it up on the net. sounds pretty stupid. sounds like one of those "murder she wrote" tv things........
here i had hope there was something cool.
thanks anyway.

It's Shakespeare, and oh my gosh, I wish I was teaching it this year instead of Romeo and Juliet just so I could quote you, Veronica. My students would so identify with the sentiment. lol

p.s. Glad Veronica hasn't lost her Wolfish aspect.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 4:59:47 PM

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It's Shakespeare, and oh my gosh, I wish I was teaching it this year instead of Romeo and Juliet just so I could quote you, Veronica. My students would so identify with the sentiment. lol

p.s. Glad Veronica hasn't lost her Wolfish aspect.
MISS to you
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welll?????
ain't coz i am going to change any inside at my core. i am still ME. a bit too rough for most folks but i callem as i see em...right or wrong...but hey.
evidently YOU are THEE only one that likes my rough outer skin.
most folks get flustered with me coz i won't knuckle under to em.
but........ole pa told me i didn't have to unless i wanted to. i walk the walk AND talk the talk and talk while i walk.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/22/2005 11:57:50 PM

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Well there seems to be several steps and or variations of cuckolding. The first is the underlying motication.
1). He wants to be humiliated and shown he is inadequate
2). he wants you to recieve pleasure, whereever or however
3). he has voyeristic tendancies

it can be done with him present or not, that of course is up to you and your lover. Often there is some minor interaction, sucking him, placing his cock at the entrance of your pussy, or cleanign one or both of you afterwards. He may fold your lovers clothes or bring refreshments or wipe you down afterwards, the level and form of his involvement is essential.

For me i am of category 3, i just want you (the hypothetical you that is), to have pleasure however where ever., i need no involvement unless it pleases you. it is truly for me about letting go of myself and my needs. For e it is an affirmation of my surrender.

hope that helps a bit..such a complicated business

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/23/2005 1:01:13 PM

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Thank You for You input. i envy Your partner. To me, it's all about making Your partner happy. Like You say, 'it doesn't take anything away from You' i'm sure You enjoy it, and it's a form of humiliation for Your 'friend'. You get to be pleasured, and he (Your local partner) get's his enjoyment from Your like listening in the other room. Funny, why he was not turned on by watching You get fucked. i think i would have had a most intense orgasm!!!

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/23/2005 4:58:37 PM

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Some fantasies are best left as just that. I dated someone (it was a D/s dynamic,) for two years and finally got tired of hearing his constant talking about his desire for a cuckhold relationship. So, I said, ok, lets do it, only, I'm going to have to move in with you and as usual we won't ever copulate, but I will have men over to fulfill me sexual needs while you watch. I never saw anyone stutter so much in all my life.

Him "You mean you are gonna live with me and I still won't be able to have sex with you and other men will?"

Me Duh, what the hell do you think being cuckhold is about buddy boy? You get to be in a commited relationship with me, as you've wanted, and to watch me being sexually ravished by a well hung stud, though you never get access to the coochie.

Him "uminauminaumina" No that that's not what I meant." I'd hoped that someday you would let me make love to you as well, but I also wanted to watch you with another man and get cream pies and such.

Me Not with that little thing, you can't satisfy me. chuckle.

Him "True", but still, I don't think I want that kind of relationship.

Me, Just as I thought, Enough said. I hope we're done with this fantasy conversation.

Sad to say, we weren't. It was like talking with the character "Rain Main"

Are you sure we aren't seeing the same guy ??

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/23/2005 5:04:54 PM

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quote:

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Sad to say, we weren't. It was like talking with the character "Rain Main"

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

(Now THAT was FUNNY! LOL)

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/23/2005 5:26:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Is there someone who can perhaps explain some of the allure of cuckolding and how they process it? My local partner is very into it. I'm up for it because it doesn't take anything away from me, lets me give him an intense experience, and I get to enjoy the exhibitionism of it.

I can tell you, without hesitation, (at least for me) it has absolutely NOTHING to do with any lack of self esteem, feelings of inferiority or anything of the like.

I'm successful, intelligent, own both commercial and residential real estate, my bills are typically paid 6 months to a year in advance, I smile a lot, I have a good number of friends...not a lot, but enough for my tastes, and I'm generally a happy guy.

And I, like another poster, enjoy thoroughly seeing my mate sweat drops of pure unadulterated glistening passion and lust. The feeling obtained from watching (or listening in), or even being told about it later is beyond description.

All the theater of "if you were a REAL man, I wouldn't need another man to fuck me now would I?" and "Hi baby...have you met my friend Dave? He'll be having dinner with us tonight. You're serving dinner to us as well...isn't that nice? Be a good boy and go turn down the sheets for me would you...Dave's had a very long day and I need some good loving tonight, and he's offered to take care of that for me tonight, haven't you Dave?"...and on and on....just sets my brain on fire.

It's a good thang :)

Truly, I can't imagine a relationship more loving, than one where you love someone so much that you willingly agree to share your mate with others so SHE has maximum pleasure...so SHE recieves more gifts from the universe (so to speak), and so she wakes up every day with a smile on her face, thankful she discovered someone so giving.

And for her, what better way to come home, regardless of the time, to a man who she always knows where he is, every night, no matter where she's been...at home, alone...in love with her...waiting with a smile.

Sounds like a wunnahful plan to me :)

(And, if you really, truly want to know what it's like for a cuckold, in a scene, to experience any of the above...for those of you who have taken ecstasy {I have...I don't anymore and I don't recommend it to anyone...but...if you have...}, it's a LOT like that...but without the drugs:) )

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/23/2005 8:19:58 PM

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Nice.

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RE: Cuckolding - 11/24/2005 4:47:43 PM

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I cut him off, but nothing suprises me these days.

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Some fantasies are best left as just that. I dated someone (it was a D/s dynamic,) for two years and finally got tired of hearing his constant talking about his desire for a cuckhold relationship. So, I said, ok, lets do it, only, I'm going to have to move in with you and as usual we won't ever copulate, but I will have men over to fulfill me sexual needs while you watch. I never saw anyone stutter so much in all my life.

Him "You mean you are gonna live with me and I still won't be able to have sex with you and other men will?"

Me Duh, what the hell do you think being cuckhold is about buddy boy? You get to be in a commited relationship with me, as you've wanted, and to watch me being sexually ravished by a well hung stud, though you never get access to the coochie.

Him "uminauminaumina" No that that's not what I meant." I'd hoped that someday you would let me make love to you as well, but I also wanted to watch you with another man and get cream pies and such.

Me Not with that little thing, you can't satisfy me. chuckle.

Him "True", but still, I don't think I want that kind of relationship.

Me, Just as I thought, Enough said. I hope we're done with this fantasy conversation.

Sad to say, we weren't. It was like talking with the character "Rain Main"

Are you sure we aren't seeing the same guy ??

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RE: Cuckolding - 1/17/2006 5:55:04 PM

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Fortunately, everyone is different and we all have different tastes, kinks, needs, etc.
I was a very happy cuckold for 7 years and was not permitted intercourse with my wife at all. She allowed me to masturbate once a week.
She and her boss did the wild thing at their workplace 2 or 3 times per week. She'd come home to me and sit on my face, feeding me the meager leftovers. I seemed to thrive on the humiliation of it all and she respected my needs for certain humiliations.
No, I never watched them. I'm not sure I would have liked that at all.
Celebrate our differences and respect each other's kinks, such as they are.
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RE: Cuckolding - 1/17/2006 7:18:20 PM

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My question is this: are there any Fem Dommes out there living this lifestyle??? Do You have a man/boyfriend/husband that enjoys being cuckolded??? i am a white male. i know i have a small penis compared to most Black Men. my fantasy is to introduce My girlfriend into the cuckold lifestyle. i have left subtile 'hints' about it to my Girl, even watched a couple of interracial videos with Her, but She doesn't seem interested. Just the thought of seeing Her with a Big Black Cock driving into Her, drives me crazy. i imagine me sitting on the floor watching Her making love to a black dude. Licking Her feet, rubbing Her legs, while She gets it on with Him. Then when they are done, She orders me to clean both of them up. When i try to talk to Her about it, She makes a face, and says, 'that's kind of sick'. i really think that once She has a BBC, She will become addicted. They say 'once You go Black, You don't go back'

although this is not for Me, contact Me off post, I can refer you to a Domme who specializes in this.

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RE: Cuckolding - 1/17/2006 10:29:19 PM

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...so SHE recieves more gifts from the universe (so to speak), and so she wakes up every day with a smile on her face...

IMHO... in the F/m context, this is the best reason for a malesub to submit to cuckoldry. I don't see any underlying inadequacy dynamics or other negative emotions looking to be played out here.

I would never pursue/orchestrate cuckoldry myself. However, if she desires it, is willing to openly and effectively communicate her desires, and the foundation of our relationship is strong enough to support a 3rd party... I can't see myself endeavoring to deny her.

However strong our foundation might be, I still might expend plenty of energy worrying about losing her to her new lover!

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