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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 11/1/2005 12:12:12 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
Mmmmmmmm now where is Silver Springs anyways… (goes to get my map)

LOL Silver Spring is near DC in an annoying area that had difficult traffic no matter what direction you are coming from (which is true of just about any city along the beltway).

Hope your girls are doing well with their poly adventures.

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 11/4/2005 6:28:28 PM

KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
Mmmmmmmm now where is Silver Springs anyways… (goes to get my map)

LOL Silver Spring is near DC in an annoying area that had difficult traffic no matter what direction you are coming from (which is true of just about any city along the beltway).

Hope your girls are doing well with their poly adventures.

mmmmmmmmmm dang that wouldn't be good i hate traffic.... oh well guess she has to come see me *G*

as far as the poly adverntures.... *it is great to be ME*

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 11/4/2005 9:08:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
Mmmmmmmm now where is Silver Springs anyways… (goes to get my map)

LOL Silver Spring is near DC in an annoying area that had difficult traffic no matter what direction you are coming from (which is true of just about any city along the beltway).

traffic is relative...i found traffic near dc much better than traffic in southern california, especially south of dc. i went from far south of the city to ne dc in about an hour; here i'd be lucky to make 15 miles in that time.

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 11/5/2005 5:09:02 AM

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Do you think being in a committed relationship blackballs you from having play dates with new suitors?

Absolutely not.

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 11/5/2005 10:16:10 PM

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i can understand where you are coming from sub suzanne. But i tend to disagree with some of the comments made on this subject.

First off, how can a Dominant NOT benefit from another Dominant working with and training His sub/slave. He doesn't have to incorrporate all that she learns, but there may be a few things that she does learn that He really likes and enjoys.

Maybe there is something He would like her to experience and doesn't have the knowledge to provide it to her in a safe environment. Perhaps another Dominant with such knowledge could work with her on that. Therefore, if this is something her Dominant has required of her then she IS putting His wants and needs first.

That's what is so nice about this lifestyle, so much to know and learn, but don't have to know and learn it all. There is something that any of us can learn from others out there in the community.

It doesn't sound to me like you are going around and just wanting to play with anyone, any time, any place, any where. It sounds to me like you are wanting to grow as a submissive and to grow within your relationship with your Dominant by continualy learning. i personally don't see anything wrong with learning things from another Dominant as long as your Dominant is ok with all of it. THAT is the most important thing.

i wish you the best of luck on your endeavor. your Dominant is lucky to have one that wishes to learn and grow to be the best that she can be for Him.

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 2/27/2006 2:14:38 PM

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i have not been fortunate enough to meet a Master that is willing to allow me the freedom to explore other relationships. i am currently single and still looking to find a Dom Couple that is a little older (i am 28) and have lots of experience with training women...i do not want to be involved with a single guy, been there done that! i would have no problem with the couple having other women being trained at the same time. It just get too sticky (no pun intended) to have both boys and girls training together. astrid

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 3/5/2006 4:09:24 PM

wolfspirits

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seems to me that these Masters have their own motives, and dont know what the poly lifestyle is about too!
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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 3/5/2006 5:25:38 PM

LindaLashes

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Hmm, I´m not allowed to play with anyone without Mistress permission, and never if she´s not around.

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 3/5/2006 7:15:41 PM

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In my experience, yes, having a master makes it harder for a sub to find play dates. Some doms are willing to do a two-on-one scene if the master is there, and of course there are some doms who are willing to play with a sub who is owned by someone else--but many, if not most, doms will think of someone like this as a last resort. My only concern would be to make sure that the master knows what's going on and really consents to everything. Other people would be worried about other things too.

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RE: Does having a Master take you out of qualifying to ... - 3/5/2006 8:24:41 PM

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Not being a Dominant, I'm just guessing here, but I'd imagine it takes a significant amount of time and energy to train someone properly. The mental investment alone would be heavy, what with learning which methods will bring out the best results in the trainee, what types of things are met with the greatest amounts of resistance, and the follow-up of certain tasks, activities or punishments.

Even if you were only looking for the physical aspects of training, there's a certain amount of the Dominant invested in the activity.

While there are those who would, and do, enjoy investing that much in an unattached person, many would probably prefer to invest that energy into someone of their own..or at the very least be reluctant to invest it in someone else's submissive.

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my Master not only permits, but encourages me to play with multiple partners

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Just FYI, I want to train under several Masters

I just hope you aren't equating 'play' with 'training'.

As for the question, it's impossible to answer. Every dynamic is unique in its own way. For some, yes, it would mean they wouldn't want a play date, for others, having partners in commited relationships aren't a problem.

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