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Laceymak -> Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:09:48 AM)

Hello,

I am a new sub with a wonderful master. We have been talking about me having a sister sub. I am still in the "not too confidant" stage with my Master. Do you think it is too soon?



KatyLied -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:15:51 AM)

I wouldn't step into that situation until I were completely comfortable. (which for me would be never, I'm just not that open, am too jealous, and don't like to share).

You should speak to your Master about your concerns. I don't think this is something you should rush into until you are ready to experience it.



Laceymak -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:18:19 AM)

Katy, thank you for that. I, too, am a bit jealous, but still think it would make my Master happy. I'll let you know what I end up doing. Again, thanks.



denimknight -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:32:39 AM)

Yes it is too soon. If you've never engaged in a poly relationship and you haven't had a few years with your master bringing in a third could be ill advised to say the least. The fact that you have misgivings about the idea should tell you something. Sometimes you should trust your gut on these kinds of things.

You need to speak openly and honestly to your Master about your feelings.

Respectfully submitted
dk



KatyLied -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:33:42 AM)

Lacey - I've always wondered what I would do; how I would react in that situation. Perhaps if I were alpha sub. I know that I would have to be very secure. And I'd still probably be jealous. Old habits are hard to break.



RainGod -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:39:41 AM)

quote:

I am a new sub with a wonderful master. We have been talking about me having a sister sub. I am still in the "not too confidant" stage with my Master. Do you think it is too soon?


Hello Lacey. To be quite honest, if you are here asking others if they think it is too soon, then the question obviously exists in your heart as well as your mind. I would say as long as you doubt the timing of this venture, it is definately too soon.

I would never dream of getting into poly until the primary relationship is fully rooted and strong... but that's just Me, and My ways. I would just want My first girl to understand her position in My life and in My bed were very secure and infallible before bringing in another. Good topic!



barefootprincess -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 10:41:37 AM)

Hi Lacey.
Im trying to enter into a realtionship with an establisehed Master and slave now. So Im on the other end of the stick, so to speak. I get the same feelings one would probaly have if they were accepting another into there relationship. I get close to what i want and seem to baulk. Its a fantasy to close to reality.
princess



Laceymak -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 11:00:14 AM)

Thank you so much for your input. Again, I am new, enjoying it, but want my Master happy. I know I make him happy, but thought a sister might be good for both. Again, thank you.



OsideGirl -> RE: Sister Sub (9/24/2005 11:47:16 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Laceymak

Hello,

I am a new sub with a wonderful master. We have been talking about me having a sister sub. I am still in the "not too confidant" stage with my Master. Do you think it is too soon?


You're here asking, so you already know the answer. The primary relationship has to be absolutely secure in order for poly to work.



slavedesires -> RE: Sister Sub (9/25/2005 7:33:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Laceymak

Hello,

I am a new sub with a wonderful master. We have been talking about me having a sister sub. I am still in the "not too confidant" stage with my Master. Do you think it is too soon?



Did you know he was poly when you and he connected?
"Not too confidant" means alot of issues that could be potentially hazardous on the journey.
Does he even know you are "not too confidant?"
Have you asked yourself why you are "not too confidant?"

........just some questions to think about

Edited to add.... your profile reads....
My Master and I are looking for a submissive sister for me.
Who is this other one for, you or him?
one can assume she will be your master's second girl or your submissive.
if you are the jealous possessive type..... as you have admitted you are, will a girl even join you if you are that way or "not too confidant" in your present relationship?
personally, i would run like hell

>>>>just some more things to think about



ChereeAmoor -> RE: Sister Sub (9/26/2005 8:03:48 AM)

YES

Sorry to shout, but poly is not anything like fast food. It takes more time and work than most people want to bother with, and your entire post reverberates with reluctance. What is the hurry?



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Sister Sub (9/26/2005 8:15:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Laceymak

Hello,

I am a new sub with a wonderful master. We have been talking about me having a sister sub. I am still in the "not too confidant" stage with my Master. Do you think it is too soon?


You're here asking, so you already know the answer. The primary relationship has to be absolutely secure in order for poly to work.


Yes, plus most people never seem to take into account what the poor "new girl" will have to endure (because she's so often seen as a threat). It's not just what will make the dom happy. How nice or fair or appropriate is it to bring some new chick into a situation that's not fully supportive of them?

I'm not saying it can't work, miracles happen. But ask yourself, since you're entertaining the idea of poly, how appealing would it be to YOU if you were told by a sub "I want to please my master but I'm really unsure and jealous right now"?




fastlane -> RE: Sister Sub (9/26/2005 3:19:43 PM)

I'm terrible at math, but good in life and I know that

Poly + jealousy = Disaster

O.K., I am good at math.



sub4hire -> RE: Sister Sub (9/26/2005 3:31:49 PM)

I'd also have to advise you not to venture into anything until you are comfortable.

I think Fastlane put it best...jealousy is the main ingredient in poly relationships that help them to fail.

On a side note....how come we don't have brother subs?



theRose4U -> RE: Sister Sub (9/26/2005 4:49:06 PM)

quote:

On a side note....how come we don't have brother subs?


Another math lesson...

While 40 yr old Dom's believe they are wired for 2-20's most dont run ac/dc



sub4hire -> RE: Sister Sub (9/30/2005 2:37:53 PM)

quote:

While 40 yr old Dom's believe they are wired for 2-20's most dont run ac/dc


What about 40 year old male subs? BROTHER SUBS UNITE.



Delvin -> RE: Sister Sub (9/30/2005 5:03:13 PM)

Sadly relationships, more now then ever before, seem to have a very delicate ribbon holding them together. It is hard to even hold a single relationship together past 20 years much less having more then ONE partner added.

Poly...almost always fails, yet alot wish to start it. I agree with some here that it is very hard to maintain and live, the work needed is usually not thought out.

Best of luck in this journey, but if your questioning now, speak with your Master and don't hold ANYTHING back on your feelings.

D



domtimothy46176 -> RE: Sister Sub (9/30/2005 7:32:49 PM)

On the bright side, in a back-handed kind of way, even if you were completely comfortable with poly, odds are that it will take a good long while to find another submissive female to join you and your master. You'll most likely have plenty of time to get used to the idea.
Timothy



Aoxoa45 -> RE: Sister Sub (10/1/2005 9:39:43 AM)

I had my slave once ask me how I would like poly..... would I be willing to give like I wanted her to.... would I be bi for her... and how would I feel with two men in the bed.... just gotta love smart submissives.... shuts me right up sometimes.



kisshou -> RE: Sister Sub (10/1/2005 6:07:25 PM)

bisexual is an orientation, you can not 'be' bi for someone else

can a person perform sexual acts under someone else's command or direction, sure they can but that is something else completely

and beleive me when it gets down to the nitty gritty there is a world of difference having sex with someone who is not comfortable and being forced or pressured to having sex with someone with a true orientation....



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