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RE: Sister Sub - 10/1/2005 9:33:28 PM

domtimothy46176

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ORIGINAL: kisshou

bisexual is an orientation, you can not 'be' bi for someone else

can a person perform sexual acts under someone else's command or direction, sure they can but that is something else completely

and beleive me when it gets down to the nitty gritty there is a world of difference having sex with someone who is not comfortable and being forced or pressured to having sex with someone with a true orientation....

I'm fortunate in that toy is both enthusiastically bi-sexual and poly-minded. I would conjecture, however, that regardless of her personal interests, or the lack thereof, she would accept my judgement on such matters just as graciously as she has accepted our current status. I may lack the proper perspective but I can't envision maintaining a long-term relationship with a submissive without having also secured sufficient trust to lead her in directions she may have no interest in, of her own accord.
Expanding toy's horizons in ways she may not have imagined is not just my right, but also my duty, as per our agreement, wherein I promised to help her become all that she can be. If I only lead her in areas that interest her or keep her comfortable, I'm hardly encouraging her growth and development. Even were she completely heterosexual, I would expect to help her develop her ability to put aside her preferences and defer to my wishes.
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RE: Sister Sub - 10/2/2005 2:00:00 PM

kisshou

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domtimothy

your last statement reiterates what I stated in my post. It would be interesting for me to hear what toy has to say. Sleeping with a girl who is doing it upon command vs sleeping with a girl who craves the taste , touch and feel of another female would be like you sleeping with a girl who faked orgasms versus one who enjoyed multiple orgasms.

The whole forced bi to be pleasing issue I see on the poly boards stated over and over again in threads has always annoyed me , I just have not said anything about it till now.

I guess if dominants feel they can train sexual orientation would be a whole other topic.

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RE: Sister Sub - 10/6/2005 6:51:32 AM

MasterRobert1

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Don't rush things. Poly relationships require, first and foremost, stability. If you're uncomfortable right now, that uncomfort will only increase if you start down the ploy road. Conquer the D/s situation first before you decide to tackle poly. Speak to your Master about this and explain your feelings of uncomfort.

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RE: Sister Sub - 10/6/2005 7:32:57 AM

happysexy1

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i've been living the poly life now for over a year. i so agree that it feels totally different if the other is doing something they feel they must to "serve" or they are doing something that excites and turns them on. i am so fortunate to have a Master who also feels that way. He agrees that in searching for a sister sub her compatability with me and our comfort level with each other must be established first. It's hard to find others willing to be part of poly but it's a wonderful journey once one is found.[image] i wouldn't start the journey till you feel very comfortable and totally trusting of your Master. Talk is something we can never get enough of!

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RE: Sister Sub - 10/6/2005 8:09:50 AM

avianprincess

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Hello,
You have answered your own question for yourself. The real question is your Master ready? Talk with your Master and tell the truth your answer will be found.
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RE: Sister Sub - 10/8/2005 5:48:27 PM

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i say ask your self what you really want in life and then you know what your Master want a true sub know's and she really truly will wantto please her Master in every way ...
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