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What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:23:06 PM

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is a Daddy Dom?

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:24:37 PM

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Its the Daddy/little girl or Daddy/little boy dynamic

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:25:59 PM

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thank You MHOO Ma'am!

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:39:07 PM

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I have also seen it used outside of the ageplay situation in reference to a careing/protective Dom who the sub gets a lot of reasurance from.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:43:46 PM

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dear angelic
what? ....that is twisted...later.....
anyway ,this maybe,off the subject,but,
here's a quotable-quote;
....,with the dinosaurs ;finding a mate ,becomes a hassel....

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:45:00 PM

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dear angelic
what? ....that is twisted...later.....
anyway ,this maybe,off the subject,but,
here's a quotable-quote;
....,with the dinosaurs ;finding a mate ,becomes a hassel....

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is a Daddy Dom?

i didn't understand this at all...sorry :(

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 1:46:01 PM

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I have also seen it used outside of the ageplay situation in reference to a careing/protective Dom who the sub gets a lot of reasurance from.

thank You Raven, Sir.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 3:24:27 PM

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I've always wondered in the DaddyDom scenario what happens if the little girl grows up?

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 3:33:52 PM

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I've always wondered in the DaddyDom scenario what happens if the little girl grows up?

she become the Mommy?

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 3:47:18 PM

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quote:

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I've always wondered in the DaddyDom scenario what happens if the little girl grows up?

she become the Mommy?

Hrmm,, thinking about that....

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:03:46 PM

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angelic,

Yes, a Daddy is Dom. In O/our case Daddy is very, very dominant. He is a strict and wonderful Dom that also has the capability of being perhaps a little more caring and overprotective than others. W/we do not roleplay within the age play realm as others may, i dont act like a little girl....for the most part, i act like an adult :) He does however provide guidance that i need. Do not mistake that for His being "soft"... He can bring me to the edge with a crop or flogger just as easily as he can hold me close. He is Daddy and i am His little one. i'm sure it wouldnt work for everyone...but it does for U/us.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:06:24 PM

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I'd really like to learn more about the dynamics of a Daddy/Mommy Dom relationship..do i need to start a new topic, or can we do it on this one?

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:11:09 PM

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I'd really like to learn more about the dynamics of a Daddy/Mommy Dom relationship..do i need to start a new topic, or can we do it on this one?

not sure if my vote counts here slavejali, but absolutely go for it... i merely started the thread... feel free to carry it further

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:16:36 PM

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This looks like as good a place as any.... :)

Here are a few articles i uncovered:

http://www.vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

http://www.subspace.cc/page68.html

http://www.geocities.com/midnite_angel1/whatisDD.html

my understanding is...she looks up to her Dom with childlike innocence, for strength and love. she becomes his precious little girl. He cherishes her and takes care of her with a sweet and tender love, and she adores him in return.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:17:04 PM

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Thanks angelic!

I guess I'd just like to know more about how it plays out. Like is the Daddy/Mommy theme going all the time? and how does that play out? Is is just like "Whose your daddy kinda thing?" or is the ageplay involved? If ageplay isnt involved, i dont really understand how it plays out? Like if ageplay isnt involved isnt it just a Dominant and submissive relationship..why call it Daddy/Mommy?

As you can see I'm totally ignorant and will probably have heaps more questions if anyone responds.

Addition: Thanks for the links ownedgirlie!

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:19:01 PM

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it seems a bit incestuous to me... NOT judging... just merely stating how it appears to me. i couldn't call Anyone Daddy as i only had one that i called that... and don't need another.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:28:01 PM

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Ok, i read the first link so far:

http://www.vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

That writing seems a little ambiguous to me.

On one had she is saying she is his little girl on the other she doesnt see him as her daddy. See that isnt making sense to me...

Her description of the relationship sounds like a caring Dominant, not particularly a "daddy". She herself even admits, the relationship is hard to describe, or the differences between a Daddy relationship and that of a purely Dom one are hard to describe,....so where is the difference.

Btw...please anyone dont take offence to anything I'm saying, I'm just processing my thoughts and trying to come up with a conclusion.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:32:30 PM

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It is very commonly the method used to express the D/s relationship when the sub or very commonly switch needs her independance from the title sub, but still craves the security of knowing that the Daddy Dom is still there to take control when necessary and be the nuturing parental type figure that gives them a sense of security and safety. They can be a strong Dominant themselves or simply have the independance to make their own choices, then comfortably fall back into a submissive type role under 'Daddy's' strong caring hand. In cases with a switch, it keeps the lines between who holds the final word in place rather well. For many it can be quite comforting to fall back to the role of a teen or child or even an adult who can run to Daddy when they feel their world crumbling or themselves loosing control.

There are also subs who enjoy this dynamic for the same comfort reasons. I've known many Daddy/daughter dynamics in my time in the lifestyle and can say very few of those I have met were truly of the adult/child nature. The rest were on an emotional level.

I myself have a Daddy/daughter dynamic with my partner. She is Dominant to all except me, and with me has the independance of a Dominant save for those times when she needs her Daddy to comfort her. That and I retain the final word in the home and relationship. To all others I am a Dom and will one day again be Master to the right slave, that dynamic having nothing to do with Daddy/daughter dynamics.

There is far more to it than the simple adult/child kink.....not to say anything negative to those who practice it exactly for those reasons.

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:32:39 PM

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wow... off topic for a minute... but Wwe are now censored as to what Wwe type here and the words are now filtered??

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RE: What exactly - 2/25/2006 4:34:25 PM

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It is no more incestuous than a Master and slave, Dominant and submissive. It is another element of D/s. Those in Daddy Dom situations do NOT think of their Doms as their real father, nor do the Doms think of their submissives as their actual children. The innocence/Protection between the two tend to mirror that particular dynamic of Parent/child but those who practice this form of D/s are not in any way incestuous.

If a visual helps, think of reaching to the young girl inside yourself, and feel her curled up on the lap of your Dom (i am being hypothetical here), with his strong arms around you, protecting you from the world...rocking you, caressing you, and telling you how he values you.

That is my understanding of Daddy Doms.

Note: CM is filtering the "i" word, fyi. i say that since i had to look at angelic's post a few times to see what she meant by it.

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