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RUN FORREST RUN!!!! - 3/7/2006 11:25:39 PM

softsilkandlace

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I am not going to beat around the bush here. I am just going to come right out and ask my question.

When in a poly relationship and things seem to be turning sour or perhaps the submissive is feeling differently about the relationship.... what are some signs that she/he should get out or even things to watch out for..... in other words.... when should she/he RUN FORREST RUN!!. (Please do not assume that I am talking about myself here. I am just asking a question)
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RE: RUN FORREST RUN!!!! - 3/8/2006 1:16:23 AM

RubberWitch

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My personal limits for when to cut ties
Primary ss partner in a V.
Second really obvious lie (Sorry I've got to stay at Fury's one more night, the car won't start)
This would be the v heading towards a tick, and then you so out of the loop. Re-asses the situation.

Secondary ss partner in a V.
Second really obvious lie (Oh, Triz couldn't make it, she's got to stay home with a poorly cat)
This means you've become the mistress. And if you're not careful, also a target

Middle of the V
Second time either partner says/does anything to make you feel uncomfortable about the other (oh, can we not talk about her tonight / Yeah, I had to cut that bit of the picture off so it's fit the frame)

Any part of a full triangle
As soon as one person gets bored, or shouts about how they feel they're not getting enough attention. Thats not: complains, comments, whinges, asks, or any other form of variation short of screaming you down. Then, split the ties as needed.

Again, these are just my personal tastes, and I know I'll get flamed for being harsh, but I sort of see these as the bits where respect wears thin, and trust frays, and without those, whats left isn't worth it.
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RE: RUN FORREST RUN!!!! - 3/8/2006 8:14:59 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Oh same things in monogamy.

Am I being fulfilled? Are the initial expectations I had for the relationship still relevant? What are the current expectations? Am I ok with them? Are we mutually fulfilling eachother? Is there a breakdown at some point? Are we working together? When I envision my life in 5 years, where is it? Is my relationship working towards that?

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