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Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 11:04:07 AM   
Redb


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Status: offline 		Hiya
I've never EVER given a sub a blowjob.
I'm realising that i see it a very submissive thing to do. But i'm confusing myself now, as i absolutley love to give blowjobs, to both my Master and my vanilla lovers. So why shouldnt i do it as a sexual satisfaction thing for myself... it turns me right on... why cant I ?? A pal of mine is a FemDom too and she gives head to her subs and its turned my feelings about it upsidedown.
Do you Mistresses give your sub blowjobs... how do you feel about it ??
Sorry if it seems a stupid question but i never really thought much about it... now i am thinking about it !!!!!
thanksxx
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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 11:18:57 AM   
MizSuz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Redb

Hiya
I've never EVER given a sub a blowjob.
I'm realising that i see it a very submissive thing to do. But i'm confusing myself now, as i absolutley love to give blowjobs, to both my Master and my vanilla lovers. So why shouldnt i do it as a sexual satisfaction thing for myself... it turns me right on... why cant I ?? A pal of mine is a FemDom too and she gives head to her subs and its turned my feelings about it upsidedown.
Do you Mistresses give your sub blowjobs... how do you feel about it ??
Sorry if it seems a stupid question but i never really thought much about it... now i am thinking about it !!!!!
thanksxx



Can you think of any time you have MORE control than when you have a man's cock in your mouth?!?!

Do what you like, you're a dom/me/ina.


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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 11:30:16 AM   
LadyofGael


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Status: offline 		Darlings, oral sex is just an extension of ALL sex. If i desire to taste my girl, I taste her. If I desire to touch my sub, I touch her, If I desire to enjoy her body in any way I wish, then I enjoy her. It is in the giving and the taking of the submissive NOT in the act.

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 12:00:06 PM   
SecretDomme


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ORIGINAL: MizSuz

Can you think of any time you have MORE control than when you have a man's cock in your mouth?!?!

Do what you like, you're a dom/me/ina.




I agree wholeheartedly :-) There is nothing like oral sex to tease a sub relentlessly. Having a sub tied up and helpless to what I choose to do to his body is pure heaven...

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 12:04:44 PM   
NATI


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Status: offline 		I second Suz's comment on this. Yes, you can give a sub a blow-job and no - it is not a contradiction. I have TEETH. And I used them thankyahverymuch. Somewhere around here on these forums is a subject on striping. Also a very effective method for getting a sub's attention (and how) maybe proudsub can pull that one up.

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 12:07:05 PM   
panthergoddess


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Status: offline 		While I'm sub...giving a blow job is "oral servitude"...while I'm Domina it's "oral torture"

Sucking him to the point of cumming and suddenly stopping to let him calm back down and doign it over a lengthy period of time is just great for me. And it is more of a power trip for me than any other form of "control" over my sub.

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 12:38:19 PM   
Jusey


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Status: offline 		I personally don't give my subs blowjobs because I don't really like doing it mostly, but I can see the power in both doing it and not doing it. I also personally don't feel guilty in the slightest in doing what ever pleases me with my subs. If the mood struck me I would not hesitate to torture my sub with a blowjob. I don't think it is a stupid question at all. I think that if you enjoy giving blowjobs you should be able to do it 20 times a day if you like. It is about what makes you happy right. that is my 4 cents.

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 12:52:04 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

Somewhere around here on these forums is a subject on striping. Also a very effective method for getting a sub's attention (and how) maybe proudsub can pull that one up.


striping

If you are giving the bj for your pleasure i see no contradicition. And "your pleasure" can include the fact that you sometimes like you sub to receive pleasure.JMHO

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 1:59:23 PM   
BeachMystress


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I once gave a sub the gift of a veeery good blowjob for Valentines Day. Afterwards, some online "Domme" told me that I wasn't a "real Domme" for doing such. My answer to her.. how did doing what I wanted to do make me unDominant? Anything I do to my sub that is my choice or anything I order my sub to do is Dominant.

Guess what, I occasionally like anal sex. My sub had never had anal sex and was afraid he'd hurt me. It took weeks to get to the point of getting my anal fix from him. Yeah yeah yeah, you can tell them to do X all you want.. but while the soul may be willing.. the flesh can go limp. I'd made the mistake of telling him once that I was a bit unsure of anal with him because of his large size.. whoops. I finally had to TRICK him into giving me what I wanted. LoL When you're on your side, it is pretty easy to change which hole they're hitting. I just didn't tell him for a few mins. *sweet smile* I always get what I want, one way or the other.

< Message edited by BeachMystress -- 2/13/2005 2:00:02 PM >

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 4:04:19 PM   
cuumsluut


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Status: offline 		i've seen this question come up in chat rooms "How can a dom/me give a sub a blow job?" with a ghastly rhetorical tone... but i just have to answer anyway...'with their mouth'.


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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 4:18:41 PM   
NATI


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Status: offline 		Thank you proud

I find it curious though that this subject comes up and often with respect to the female dominant and the male sub. I think this is a clear example of sex stereotype. I'd like to hear what others might have to say about this...


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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 4:54:06 PM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		A lot of the problems or issues people have with Fem Doms giving male submissives' blow jobs stems from the individuals idea of 'male submission'. Or ideally how the male submissive is viewed.

If you view your submissive as an equal and your relationship is based on TPE where each party is consider of equal value having a consenting exchange of power and the underlying dynamic is that of erotic power exchange then it would be safe to assume an erotic head job wouldn't go astray.

If the relationship is based on the belief of male inferiority then no a head job would never happen. And the male submissive, seeing himself as inferior to the Female would never in a month of Sunday's expect such to happen.

I am of the latter persuasion. A male slave will never feel My lips around his tackle...but an erotic lover...hell yes.

Mistress Jasmyn

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 5:09:54 PM   
Dave8544


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Status: offline 		I see no problem with it at all, course I'm a guy If a Domme wants to and still feels shes in control, whats the problem I think she shows her sub he's important to her and she cares about his wants. Besides she really controls with oral, a sub would give away the farm with a good BJ. No different than a Domme wanting oral and how many guys pretend like they hate it. (Make me eat you, ya right) Dave

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 5:16:49 PM   
Whipenrod


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Status: offline 		Doms do it to their lady subs--what's wrong with a Domme doing it to her male sub?

I do it because I mix torture with pleasure until my subject can't decide what's going to happen next. It's always unexpected--and I don't have a toy that works as well as my oral talents. I love biting too.

--Lady Whipenrod



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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 5:26:26 PM   
cuumsluut


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Status: offline 		seems to me being able to give someone an organism is a fairly dominant thing

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 5:30:59 PM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		Which is all good if the basis of the relationship is one of TPE etc like I explained above. Where the needs of each person are considered and taken care of.

I don't like that Women who do do TPE relationships are being undermined by Women who don't by implying they are doing something wrong...hence My pointing out the difference of Fem Surpemist seeing the male as inferior would be the underlying reason why they are appalled at the thought of another Fem Dom giving their sub a head job.

My only suggestion to any Women feeling berrated for what She chooses to do in Her TPE relationship is to knowingly ignore it. Their kink is vastly different to the Fem Supremacists and Fem Supremacists would do well to keep this in mind and allow their sisters freedom of choice.


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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 5:32:55 PM   
NATI


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ORIGINAL: cuumsluut

seems to me being able to give someone an organism is a fairly dominant thing


Or not. I'm a huge fan of taking a sub right up to that plateau - aaand tah-tah, baby.

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 10:56:39 PM   
BeachMystress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jasmyn
I don't like that Women who do do TPE relationships are being undermined by Women who don't by implying they are doing something wrong...hence My pointing out the difference of Fem Surpemist seeing the male as inferior would be the underlying reason why they are appalled at the thought of another Fem Dom giving their sub a head job.

My only suggestion to any Women feeling berrated for what She chooses to do in Her TPE relationship is to knowingly ignore it. Their kink is vastly different to the Fem Supremacists and Fem Supremacists would do well to keep this in mind and allow their sisters freedom of choice.


You can only be undermined if you buy into their preaching. I did not feel in the least bit less dominant because someone else told me I wasn't a "real Domme." My Dominance doesn't come from others granting it to me. It comes from me.

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 11:10:15 PM   
malepleases4ever


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ORIGINAL: cuumsluut

seems to me being able to give someone an organism is a fairly dominant thing


I love it when my mistress gives me single celled organisms. And you should see how she uses the flagellum!

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RE: Oral sex on a Sub - 2/13/2005 11:18:47 PM   
PrincessMercie


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Status: offline 		u can give ur sub a blowjob as a punishment to keep his balls blue & not cum almost like handjob or milking. or u can give ur sub a blowjob as a reward if he's good....it's all up to u in ur play & imagination if u r in control!

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