Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right?

Join Our Community

As the Collar Turns:

Collarchat.com - BDSM Forum

Home Login Event Calendars Search

Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right?

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/15/2004 5:28:39 AM

iwillserveu

Posts: 1641
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

I know Dominatrix is not right, but easily explained concept to "vanilla" people.

It is like saying Sci-Fi to SF fans. At least, however, SF fans only have one alternative for Sci-Fi.:)

_____________________________

When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/15/2004 8:35:07 AM

SherriA

Posts: 553
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

It's an individual preference. Ask the person you're talking to what she prefers, would be my suggestion.

-- Sherri

_____________________________

-- Sherri

Fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity.

(in reply to iwillserveu)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/15/2004 5:04:09 PM

iwillserveu

Posts: 1641
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

SherriA,

You mean actually talk to them?:) (Yes I'm being sarcastic. SherriA has a great answer and it is so obvious that I'm embarrassed I never thought of it.)

while shuffling his feet hoping no one realizes how stupid the original question was: I mean when I'm doing a fiction story and she is not really there. Yeah, yeah, that's the ticket.

OK, that is stupid.

Thanks, SherriA, for pointing out what should've been obvious.

_____________________________

When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.

(in reply to SherriA)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/17/2004 8:47:33 PM

sub4hire

Posts: 3834
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

I'm not sure...I agree with Sherri. But...the one thing I do know is domme is not a word.
Its Domina for female Dominant. Although..whats to say it is'nt fem dom?

All I know is Domme is not the right word..

Gloria

(in reply to iwillserveu)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/23/2004 8:53:37 AM

Jasmyn

Posts: 428
Joined: 2/6/2004
From: New Zealand
Status: offline

My personal preference is 'Dom' , or if speaking about women as Dominants as a gender then 'Fem Dom', or 'Male Dom' when talking about men.

I loathe the term Domme.

(in reply to sub4hire)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/23/2004 6:10:38 PM

MizSuz

Posts: 1416
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4hire

I'm not sure...I agree with Sherri. But...the one thing I do know is domme is not a word.
Its Domina for female Dominant. Although..whats to say it is'nt fem dom?

All I know is Domme is not the right word..

Gloria

I agree with Sherri, too. Ask, we've all got different preferences.

However, Domme has been coined, is widely used and may one day become standardized if it's used often enough. Frankly, in the formal usages Dom is not an appropriate term either for a woman (at all) or a man (unless he's a benedictine monk especially of medieval time or portugese nobility).

Domina, in it's correct usage, is a title formerly given to ladies who held a barony in their own right. The loose translation is now simply "lady."

Neither of the terms, correctly used, have anything to do with dominance.

I like "Ma'am" by those I do not own (and from those I do) if an honorific is offered. I know women who will bristle if you call them "Ma'am." I prefer "Madame" from those who wear my collar although some hear "Madame" and think "senior woman at the house of ill repute." <shrug>

_____________________________

Suz

In honor of the impending ski season: If you're not livin' on the edge you're takin' up too much space!

(in reply to sub4hire)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/28/2004 4:56:42 PM

BlackGoddess

Posts: 68
Joined: 2/1/2004
Status: offline

I've heard all the above terms used. Femdom seems, to Me, to refer to all Female Dominants as a whole( like Kingdom). I refer to myself as a Dominatrix, or Domme (my girlfriend's mentor says Dom-may LOL).

(in reply to MizSuz)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 2/28/2004 7:01:02 PM

iwillserveu

Posts: 1641
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

Actor = Actress, Waiter = Waitress, Dom = Domtress?

Domette?

(Yeah, I'm not serious.)

_____________________________

When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.

(in reply to BlackGoddess)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 3/8/2004 1:21:03 PM

Myste

Posts: 12
Joined: 3/4/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: iwillserveu

Actor = Actress, Waiter = Waitress, Dom = Domtress? Domette?

(Yeah, I'm not serious.)

LOL - but I like!

_____________________________

Myste

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/kinkytexans/

(in reply to iwillserveu)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 3/12/2004 11:51:41 AM

MistressDidi

Posts: 58
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

DOMME is a word because I said so. Whatever the Mistress wants is correct. Understand? It's like wearing fetish clothing -- whatever the Mistress feels like wearing is what is correct and the same goes for her title. I use whatever term I feel like using at the time.

As a gift, because I am a benevolent despot, I gave you the link to how to approach a Mistress below.

Mistress Didi*
www.thedekadans.com/article.htm

< Message edited by MistressDidi -- 3/12/2004 12:03:42 PM >

(in reply to Myste)

Profile

Post #: 10

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 3/12/2004 1:47:01 PM

iwillserveu

Posts: 1641
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

What should I use to refer to dominant women in general. (DWIG doesn't sound right.

)

_____________________________

When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.

(in reply to MistressDidi)

Profile

Post #: 11

RE: Domme, Domina, or Femdom which is right? - 3/14/2004 8:08:37 PM

dkitty

Posts: 6
Joined: 3/6/2004
From: Seattle, WA USA
Status: offline

I've served and known women who prefer all sorts of titles, and many who loathe titles altogether. Personally, I'm down with Domme and shake my head at FemDom. FemDom seems too much like a mainstream coined phrase. It's like referring to myself as a lesbian. I almost never use that term. I'm a dyke, dammit. *tongue out* And likewise, I'm a Domme.

If I'm speaking to or of someone and I don't know her preference I'll usually simply use her name or I might use the title Lady.

For dominant women in general... why not just the two words "dominant women?" It's obvious, to the point, and eeeeeeasy.

(in reply to iwillserveu)

Profile

Post #: 12