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D/s outside of your relationship

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yes, but... (explain please)

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no, but... (explain, please)

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D/s outside of your relationship - 5/21/2004 5:38:05 PM

iwillserveu

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Are you D/s outside of your relationship?

I mean within reason: if you are a sub/slave do you call grocery clerks "Sir"? I doubt you "get on your knees, bitch" for anyone who asks.

If You are a Domina (or Dom) do you feel the grocery clerk owes you a level of respect without telling him to kneel before his superior?

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/21/2004 5:43:29 PM

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I have reiterated time and again, in many other forums I belong to..
I am not "a" slave or submissive. I am Wolfs slave/submissive. If there is someone he fels is due respect from me that I do not already provide, that is his command

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/21/2004 8:17:08 PM

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I work in computer user support. People come to me with their problems and need technical assistance.

I am polite, I call them sir or ma'am, I smile, I am extremely helpful, I am deferential.

I also have root privilege and can destroy them utterly like the crawling mewling little worms they are.

Clear as mud?

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/21/2004 9:07:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwillserveu
If You are a Domina (or Dom) do you feel the grocery clerk owes you a level of respect without telling him to kneel before his superior?

The grocery store clerk is no different from the person at tech support who answers your trouble call. You are the customer, and they are an employee who is expected to treat the customer with respect and courtesy at all times. If the clerk or tech support person does not treat the customer accordingly, the problem is usally addressed to and with a superior, or supervisor of the errant employee.

This vanilla process is somewhat universal, and there's no provision that I know of that allows for D/s... it's simply C/e (Customer/employee).

Courtesy often varies by geographical location. In the south for instance, it is not uncommon if your name is John to be referred to as "Mister John", or if your name is Sally to be referred to as "Miss Sally"... simply in courtesy. If I referred to Sally as "Miss Sally", I am not saying "Mistress Sally"... as it's vanilla, and totally non D/s, simply courtesy.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/21/2004 9:18:24 PM

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Interesting question,

i do wonder about those roles in every day life: for example, i've met Doms who work as police officers, fire fighters, serve in the military, or work in some authoritative type of work.

i'm not sure of what types of work many subs do, but i work in social work, which is serving people, and i wonder if how one identifies: D/s or switch plays a role in what type of work one gets into?

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/22/2004 5:24:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rain

Interesting question,

i do wonder about those roles in every day life: for example, i've met Doms who work as police officers, fire fighters, serve in the military, or work in some authoritative type of work.

i'm not sure of what types of work many subs do, but i work in social work, which is serving people, and i wonder if how one identifies: D/s or switch plays a role in what type of work one gets into?

~rain~

Not necessarily - I have read many profiles that state something along the lines of 'I am in a position of authority at work so all I want to do when I get home to you is submit to your every desire and not have to make any decisions'

just my tuppence

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/22/2004 6:57:15 AM

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I also have root privilege and can destroy them utterly like the crawling mewling little worms they are.

ROFLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

And here I thought I was the only one who had that running through their brain!

LOL

I shoulda known better!

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< Message edited by ShadeDiva -- 5/22/2004 6:58:39 AM >

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/22/2004 10:53:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rain

Interesting question,

i do wonder about those roles in every day life: for example, i've met Doms who work as police officers, fire fighters, serve in the military, or work in some authoritative type of work.

i'm not sure of what types of work many subs do, but i work in social work, which is serving people, and i wonder if how one identifies: D/s or switch plays a role in what type of work one gets into?

~rain~

I serve no one in my everyday life. They serve me. Well, if we have to use that word serving. Basically I am the boss and people listen to me. I have more than one career, but in both it is the same for me.

Although you could look at police officers, firefighters and the military as subservient work just as easy. They are really serving the public and they have to obey strict orders.

I think it just depends on how you look at life and certain occupations. As a social worker are you not guiding others to a better life?

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 5/22/2004 11:06:57 AM

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I also have root privilege and can destroy them utterly like the crawling mewling little worms they are.

You mean you are Nick Burns, the corporate computer guy? Jimmy Fallon's skit on SNL was funny, esp the one where Christopher Walken was Guest Host and played Nick Burns Sr, and shouted MOVE!!! to the cocky Nick Burns Jr (Fallon)!

A drive, what the hell is a drive? CD-ROM device... no-no, that's my cupholder!

I used to love slipping blank floppies into A: drives and watch the fun at bootup, but those were discrete PC's and not network terminals.

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