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written contracts? - 6/12/2005 11:42:07 PM   
asissyforher


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how many actually use a written contract?

i have never personally been asked to do so..
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RE: written contracts? - 6/12/2005 11:46:39 PM   
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I never have and never will. My submissive knows what is expected of him and what he can expect of me. In our case, writing it out is superfluous


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RE: written contracts? - 6/13/2005 1:53:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		A contract can be a nice way of making sure that your domina will do her fair share of the house cleaning. If you get it down in writing you can always wave it at her later when you decide she isn't doing enough.



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RE: written contracts? - 6/13/2005 7:59:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: onceburned

A contract can be a nice way of making sure that your domina will do her fair share of the house cleaning. If you get it down in writing you can always wave it at her later when you decide she isn't doing enough.




That would not work with my Domme. i can not imagine waving a contract any where near her person. Although i can imagine being slapped silly, not to mention the single tail marks.

Although i do love serving her.
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RE: written contracts? - 6/13/2005 8:14:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlespike
That would not work with my Domme. i can not imagine waving a contract any where near her person.


Maybe if you were fanning her?
(although I suppose one of those big feather things would work better)

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RE: written contracts? - 6/13/2005 10:50:42 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: onceburned

A contract can be a nice way of making sure that your domina will do her fair share of the house cleaning. If you get it down in writing you can always wave it at her later when you decide she isn't doing enough.




-small grin- You just love being all helpful and such, don't you? I'm sure your advice will uh... help many a submissive lad and lass. Good on you for your constant support!


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RE: written contracts? - 6/14/2005 11:45:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		A contract can be a nice way of making sure that your domina will do her fair share of the house cleaning. If you get it down in writing you can always wave it at her later when you decide she isn't doing enough.

i'm sorry but the house is MY job. i am the domestics service slave.....it would be an insult if found Ma'am doing anything.

but tis just me.

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 12:01:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a bit curious about that... If you saw her dusting or washing the dishes... would you ask her why she was cleaning up? Would you be hurt that she was doing it? Would it essentially be a form of punishment for you?

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 12:12:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MadameDahlia
Would you be hurt that she was doing it? Would it essentially be a form of punishment for you?


In all seriousness, I would feel like I failed. That I didn't do enough, or wasn't quick enough, or that she was somehow impatient with my work.

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 1:01:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Many thanks for your response.

Would you express that concern to her? Would you explain how it made you feel?

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 1:12:53 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: onceburned

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlespike
That would not work with my Domme. i can not imagine waving a contract any where near her person.


Maybe if you were fanning her?
(although I suppose one of those big feather things would work better)


Maybe fanning is a good idea, butt still risky....lol..

Actually she was talking about a six month contract today. i did some research on slave contracts when i was just starting out and in a LDR with my first Domme. i guess that if the contract pleases her, i will be a numbered slave under contract.

Respectfully
little spike

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 1:41:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a bit curious about that... If you saw her dusting or washing the dishes... would you ask her why she was cleaning up? Would you be hurt that she was doing it? Would it essentially be a form of punishment for you?

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yes,,,and no...i would call it punishment...but would sure be an insult that my cleaned house wasn't good enough?????/ i would be so hurt.
NO Lady of mine should ever be caught doing anything in the house!

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 1:43:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Would you express that concern to her? Would you explain how it made you feel?


i shouldnt have to..She knows the day i come into the house "i" am THEE caretaker and it is MY job to ensure it is spotless...........

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 2:26:45 AM   
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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 6:23:09 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MadameDahlia
Would you express that concern to her? Would you explain how it made you feel?


Well, yes. If I had dissatisfied her I would want to talk about it. And if she were simply helping because she wanted to... it would be a relief to know.

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 9:59:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's unreasonable to expect one person to do all the work, and as horrible as I am at maintaining a schedule of doing any housework, it is my mess too, and I can't expect our boy to always clean up after me ... now, when it's his mess, yeah, that's his job and I'm not touching it until I just can't stand it any longer. I do realize that not everyone has 3 adults and a herd of animals in it, but still. For one person to have to keep the entire house spotless ... I would feel incredibly guilty asking rob to do that.

Hehe, oh yeah, on topic ... Holly's and my reply to rob asking about contracts was "we don't need a silly piece of paper to be allowed to tell you what to do" and we still feel that way. We want him here because he loves us and wants to be here, not because some piece of paper says that he 'has' to.

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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 10:01:42 AM   
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madame dahlia;
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i only hope the one i am waiting to hear from by friday 17th is still interested or i have to keep looking. and that is a real pain at times.

thanks
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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 10:55:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I do use a contract...but only with the submissives I feel I may wish to keep for a lifetime. The first contract they will sign will be for a 4 month period which I consider to be the honeymoon period. If "both" of U/us still feel the magic of Domination and submission I will offer a lifetime contract.
I have one slave under a lifetime contract...tattooed with My ownership and in chastity. he has been Mine since 1999. I have a submissive who has passed his 4 month contract and will sign the lifetime contract within the next few weeks. he has been Mine for almost a year. I have other slaves and submissives that will not be offered a contract even though I value them highly.
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IF and WHEN I feel like washing the dishes or dusting the furniture I better not be hearing the "my job" crappello...your job is what...I dictate it is. Any sub that draws a line in the sand better be damn sure he or she is prepared for the consequences.


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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 11:13:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		IF and WHEN I feel like washing the dishes or dusting the furniture I better not be hearing the "my job" crappello...your job is what...I dictate it is. Any sub that draws a line in the sand better be damn sure he or she is prepared for the consequences.


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well i guess i had that coming to me. well? this is what i refer to, when i tell people, living out here, vanilla, and not having contact inperson, i THINK and FEEL vanilla.
thank YOU for showing me once again the errors i cause without knowing.
i am put-in-my-place...by this. THANK YOU! so so much. this is the kind of thing "i" need to know, when i over step myself, because of my pride in service.

i humbly offer my apology.

a sissy


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RE: written contracts? - 6/15/2005 11:45:54 AM   
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