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what was it like - 4/26/2004 1:44:37 AM

slaveseeker

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Not long ago,i read an ad that said "she grew up in a s/m family.Since then I've seen several ads that say they have children.So my question is did you or anyone you know grow up in a s/m family.I would want to talk to anyoneone that had this experience.
I will ask such things as how old were you when you first noticed it,how did you feel,was it exciting,did you cry and feel sorry for mommy,how was it explained to you,after you found out were you asked to watch or participate???????????things like that.I do not believe you can hide something like that if living in the same house,
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RE: what was it like - 4/26/2004 3:26:20 AM

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Ill bite Raymond
as I have stated in the past I come from a family of lifestylers
and personally know three generations not including My children which make the forth generation with in Our Familys structure of both BDSM and Poly Practices.
if You like We can keep this here in the public forum for the information to the general population of Our Lifestyle or if You are more
comfortable asking Your questions in private so be it.
I will answer what I feel does not in any way infringe on My Families
personal lifes or information.
I do however want to make a note here that in the struture of My granparents that were of the life the structue was that of Mistress, Mistress, Mistress,Master-slaves as apposed to My Parents Home which was Master, Mistress, Mistress-slave and then My Own Home which to date has been Master, Mistress,Master. The positions being the order in which chain of Command and the Alpha sat in the Homes in Dominance.
I was one of 18 children and the first born. I had 8 children,6 My Own and 2 that were My ALPHAs and slaves. This info can start You off. Ohh yes one more note of importance. My Main Poly Home is NOT in the USA. These two Homes I have here in the US are secondary Poly Homes and I have delt with laws covering Our lifestyle in more then one Country.
sum of the questions You have posed I will try to answer all tho they do not seem to be geared to MY side of the S,M life Me and My FaMily have
lived. I have always known and seen the practice of Dominance and the applcation of Sadistic ways with in My living personally and take it as second nature just like any other practice one would learn in growing up as these actions were concidered * normal in My Home and it was not untill I was a pre teen that I even realiZed that My upbringing was the one NOT of the norm. I never cried for mommie becausse My mommie was one of the practictioners of pain towards the slaves of the House. the tools used in applications of submission hung in the home and garage along with other tools used n the Home as well and were simply looked at as a impliment that was used for a certain service be it a whip used in Domnance or a wrench to fix the leakie hose. When you are brought up with things n the open and taught this is a natural occurance and what is normal you do not really look at the tools as being any thing special and its not any thing a second thought is made towards. when you see sumone in the family pick up the tool and use it for what its made you look over whats being done with it as a child and then when you want to learn first hand take down the tool and try to use it. We were never taught that sexuality is a bad thing nor that Our daily Dominant actions were any type of abominantion but instead was taught that this is how this Livestyle worked. I dont ever remember thinking this as being unusuall or out of place and I feel this would only be the thought of sumone as an adult whom is new to a lifestyle not only trying to figgure out what their place is in it but how to bring exsisting kids into a new found way of living however I was born into this Home and Lifestyle an it is the Vanilla way of living that I look at and say how can anyone live like that?
the only ones that I feel must hide a practice of what they do in their lifes are those whom do not accept what they do as right there for hiding it or thinking it wrong when in all actuallity it is simply a different way to live and not wrong. those whom have sumthing to hide are actually hiding what it is they are doing from their selfs in other words going agaainst what they were taught them own selfs. Even Your own questions Raymond assume that all SM relations have the mommie as the suplicant and this simply is not the fact. Im ready for Your next question.

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RE: what was it like - 4/26/2004 6:31:03 AM

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Im going to put my two cents in here and wait for the bombs to hit..

I agree with you in a truly dynamic D/s relationship you cant keep it from the kids... and thats why I dont have kids..

For me and only for me kids and the lifestyle dont work.. these are adult situations and as such children have no place at all..

Families need to be child focused..they need to be THE most important aspect of the family unit in which they reside ... Faced with the obsticles of simply being a kid it today they dont need to be dealing with our adult sexuality and power exchange issues... It is hard enough just making it with straight parents. Just my humble opinion.

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RE: what was it like - 4/26/2004 7:32:22 AM

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I also find it interesting that you would assume that "Mommy" would be the submissive in this scenerio. I was raised in the lifestyle, like Mistress Dread, I was raised in a Poly family, the second of fourteen children. In My situation the "Playroom" was in the basement and the tools were hung along one wall, as well as other equipment being in the room. We weren't, as children, involved in, or observers of all aspects of activity, but we were certainly aware of it on some level. It was simply part of life.

My lifestyle choices differ from that of my parents, and I also have children (all grown now with the exception of my daughter). They are all aware of my lifestyle within reason and as is age appropriate. When and if they ask questions, I answer them honestly.

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RE: what was it like - 4/27/2004 9:03:45 AM

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I wish to say thank you for replying to my question.
Lady becket and MistressDread, You are both right,I was being short sighted in only mentioning female sub.Its just in my tiny world thats what I know just as it it is female mistress in your world, so sorry.To Mistressdread being new to this site,i was unaware of you or your past.
I wish to say that when my children were young ,I was vanilla so it never came up.Honestly I asked only to satisfy my curiosity.
My thinking was that any violence at all would have put my vanilla kids into shock and fear and who knows what else.I guess I was wrong but I'm not totally convinced even yet.I also know that if we walked around naked in the house,sooner or later the whole block would know because one of my kids would have slipped and told a school mate or even another adult.How could I be wrong about that.I just know that a kid 5--10 years old doesn't know the importance of keeping home activities in the home.
Then I was wondering at what age do you allow the child to participate,and would it be with family,i guess it would have to be.
The fist time you punished a mother or father,how did you feel,what would that parent say to you.when did it become sexual for you.or did it become just the activities alone that excited you.
Now I want to say infront of everyone,i am not asking these things to pry into anyones past i do not wish to ruffle anyones feathers and if you do get to know me,you will find I'm that I am really a nice guy most of the time,i consider honor and dignity to be charished traits.Again I want to say thank you for what you all shared with me.

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RE: what was it like - 4/27/2004 4:12:26 PM

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Ill bite Raymond

Hope you don't bite too hard, but maybe he likes that.

sry couldn't resist.

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RE: what was it like - 4/28/2004 8:20:20 PM

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MisstressDREAD,
Thank you again i checked out the fist link under your reply and it had more info about growing up.It was a little more than general but it still left out the kind of personal inside info i'm looking for.

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