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sub protcal - 12/2/2005 1:36:47 PM   
arson982


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Status: offline 		I need help. I am new at this and yesterday I meet my new Mistress and with out knowing it I did somethings that where wrong so for my punishment the only contact that i can have with her is emails. What I need help on is protical the do's and don't
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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 1:42:19 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Only she can give you those. And she should. And your job is to remember.

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 1:44:45 PM   
LilWhiteWolf


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Status: offline 		i do have a question...did your Mistress explain to you what she wanted of you in regards to protocol? Masters and Mistresses all difer in what they expect and in my opinion, i think it should have been discussed with you in the beginning. Also, did she explain to you what you did wrong before she gave you your punishment?
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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 1:50:38 PM   
arson982


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Status: offline 		no she did not. so what should I do now write her and ask what she is looking for

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 1:55:48 PM   
Aileen68


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no she did not. so what should I do now write her and ask what she is looking for



Sounds like she's playing major head games with you.

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 1:58:25 PM   
shylittleheart


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no she did not. so what should I do now write her and ask what she is looking for

Arson I would most definately write to Her and ask Her what she is looking for. Its unfortunate but some think everyone knows without speaking, but most give you rules and guide lines they wish you to go by and do or not do. I wish you all the best , and remember it is trial and error in any relationship, but to be punished for something you dont know or did not do when never told what it is in advance.......nope id have to ask to speak freely on that one.
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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 2:00:52 PM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		SHE needs to tell you what she expects of you, It is her responsibility as your Mistress

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 2:10:03 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		You need to let your Mistress know of your doubts and questions. Only she can tell you what she expects from you.

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ORIGINAL: arson982

no she did not. so what should I do now write her and ask what she is looking for



Sounds like she's playing major head games with you.


Unfortunatly, I also agree with this statement. She should have told you beforehand what the do's and don'ts are. Since she did not, or since she did not CLEARLY define them, I would take a gander that she is doing nothing more than playing games with you :(

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 2:16:11 PM   
arson982


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Status: offline 		so do you think that She will call me this weekend or do you think that She is wanting to make sure that I want to be a slave

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 2:29:34 PM   
JohnWarren


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no she did not. so what should I do now write her and ask what she is looking for


You mean you are being punished for violating a rule she never told you about?????

[sheesh!!!!!!!!]

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 3:05:32 PM   
imtempting


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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 3:09:33 PM   
obis


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, my eyes are rolling into the back of my head so quickly that I'm having trouble typing.

If you are new and your "Mistress" knows this, she should be the one making sure you understand what rules you need to follow. There are no universal rules.

Best thing to do to ensure she isn't simply overlooking or assuming something is to write a polite message stating very clearly that you are new, you don't know anything about that she may consider common behavior, and you don't wish to displease her by unintentionally breaking a rule. If she would please let you know what rules you need to follow, how you should address her and behave, you'll be happy to comply.

If that doesn't get you a decent answer (it might take some back and forth to get specific enough for you to understand everything) then I would say this relationship is probably not a good way to start your education. Poking around in the dark guarantees to get somebody's shins banged up pretty badly.

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 3:17:06 PM   
LilWhiteWolf


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so do you think that She will call me this weekend or do you think that She is wanting to make sure that I want to be a slave


i think you need to step back and think all this over. i too think she is playing head games with you. it is totally unfair to be punished for something you weren't even aware of. i also think you need to express this to her and if she can't take the time to tell you what she does require of you, i think you need to walk away. how can you know you are disobeying if she never took out the time to tell you what she wants of you, rules she has for you?
lil wolf

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 3:33:36 PM   
MistressOfGa


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so do you think that She will call me this weekend or do you think that She is wanting to make sure that I want to be a slave


I am a little confused. Why would you consider being her slave when she has not given you all the information for you to make an educated/well informed decision? How long have you known her? Have you talked to her before on the phone? I am shocked that this Domme has punished you for something that clearly isnt your fault. It is her responsibility to make sure you are aware of her protocols. My suggestion is for you to take a moment to breathe and really think about what it is you would like out of this relationship. I would also email her and ask what it is that she is looking for. Good luck to you.

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 3:45:43 PM   
arson982


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Status: offline 		we have talk over the phone and have meet in person and she did talk a little bit about protcal and I as Mistress when we are in public what sould I call her.she did explain that if we went to a party that there is protical and mabe I should have ask more. Also I want to be a slave and I will look on here for someone in my area just in case she is playing with me

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RE: sub protocol - 12/2/2005 3:58:03 PM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: arson982

we have talk over the phone and have meet in person and she did talk a little bit about protcal and I as Mistress when we are in public what sould I call her.she did explain that if we went to a party that there is protical and mabe I should have ask more. Also I want to be a slave and I will look on here for someone in my area just in case she is playing with me


I'll stick to the "you can't obey rules you don't know about." During my 41 years in the scene, I've been to lots of parties and gatherings with all kinds of different rules. There is nothing absolute in the scene. Anyone needs to be informed about any special rules in place.

Oh, and word is protocol.

< Message edited by JohnWarren -- 12/2/2005 3:59:16 PM >

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RE: sub protocol - 12/2/2005 4:05:10 PM   
arson982


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Status: offline 		Her what she said and I know that she is new at this to and can you share with me how I should write back to her
do need to discuss some issues that bothered me after our meeting-- i would like you to read more on protocol about Mistress /s relationships- You are not to use friendly gestures to me in public unless - you have permisson to do so-- Also you are not to talk about your erections and episodes of cumming unless you have been giving premission to do so -- I t is an issue of protocal - If you wish to be my slave - i must insist that you adhere to this-- while i know you are very new to the lifestyle - i feel it necessary to tell you-- when you don't comply - i am not able to help or direct you in the appriopate manner-- this is a must for me-- if you change your mind - i will understand- as your punishment for these infractions- you are NOT to call me this weekend-- i feel you you need to do this research in order to comply with our relationship-- If you want it to progress-- you can e-mail- if you wish to continue- but i will not be available to speak with you- this weekend

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RE: sub protocol - 12/2/2005 4:09:24 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Arson, no offense...but I think you need to back off a bit, and think this through very, very, deeply. I am sorry, but for her to be telling you NOW, after the infraction has occured...and from reading what you have here.....you need to slow down and think things through. Just my opinon is all, but that is what I feel from this.

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RE: sub protocol - 12/2/2005 4:13:22 PM   
arson982


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Status: offline 		How do I resond in a way the show her that I want to be her slave. To respect her. She did tell me that she is new at this.

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RE: sub protcal - 12/2/2005 4:16:22 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

I need help. I am new at this


You are new.

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She did tell me that she is new at this.


And she is new?

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