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sexual self control - 12/4/2004 4:43:00 PM

ebonylapdog

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Hello,

i have a question i thought might be good to ask the wisdom of the Dominas here: If a slave is unowned / and - or not kept in chasitity how do you maintain self control and not masturbate.

Personally i find it difficult to keep my hands to myself but i know this behavior/ mindset is improper for a slave and will not be looked at kindly by a Domme interested in me. i'd appreciate any suggesting the group might have.

respectfully,

dog

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RE: sexual self control - 12/4/2004 4:51:39 PM

proudsub

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ebony--you only need to post the same question on one forum, the moderators will delete one of the threads.

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RE: sexual self control - 12/4/2004 7:48:06 PM

BeachMystress

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If you aren't owned, why do you think anyone cares about your masturbatory habits? Also, if you curtail it yourself, it is not something you can gift to a Domme. I have a sweet sub who is refraining from masturbating for a week for me. I'm very touched and made happy by this because I know it isn't his choice. He's doing it for ME. How would it be a gift to me if he just did it all the time? Think about it.....

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RE: sexual self control - 12/5/2004 4:29:51 AM

MistressDREAD

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what makes you think that All Dommes
prefer slaves whom practice self
control? When you are free and your
own person the litteral word free, means
just this slave. you do as you please
till you give that right to another to DICKtate.
If you desire to teach yourself control
then invest in a cock cage and use it.
if you desire to wank off every hour of
the day then do it.

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RE: sexual self control - 12/5/2004 1:37:35 PM

alwayzron

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... It all comes down to an issue of where the Domme wants to take the sub. I have one Domme who insists that I masturbate without ejaculating so during our play time, she can bring me to the brink of orgasm, and then stopping, as a means of torture. It's excruciating. I have another Domme (friend) who could care less if her sub orgasms. Her sub's orgasm is never a part of her scenes and is of no consequence to her happiness - which is what this is all about.

So there you have the yin and yang of orgasm control. Some Dommes employ ... some Dommes could care less.

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