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service - 10/18/2005 6:32:59 PM

dukieshazam

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i would like to ask the mistresses/dommes if age is a barrier to them. i have been trying to contact a mistress in my area and the only thing i can think of is a deterrent is my age, although i am one of those (dont look or act it guys.im 70 .thank you in advance for any response.

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RE: service - 10/18/2005 7:05:40 PM

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quote:

i would like to ask the mistresses/dommes if age is a barrier to them. i have been trying to contact a mistress in my area and the only thing i can think of is a deterrent is my age, although i am one of those (dont look or act it guys.im 70 .thank you in advance for any response.

You might want to read through this recent thread:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_164669/tm.htm

To some, age is a factor; to others, it's not. One thing that WILL cause a problem is if you are not honest about it - your profile says you are 65 and your post says you are 70.

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RE: service - 10/18/2005 7:17:37 PM

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I think you wear your age well and your heart is young. So, If you are having bad luck here, send me an e-mail...I have some older women that would love to get there Paws on you.......................MOM...I was just kidding!

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RE: service - 10/18/2005 7:46:26 PM

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To some, age is a factor; to others, it's not. One thing that WILL cause a problem is if you are not honest about it - your profile says you are 65 and your post says you are 70.

To me age is a factor, but one I could probably accept easier than the hypocrisy of someone who says "I'm comfortable with myself/my age", but shaves off years in initial presentation.
I would much prefer an honest "I know I'm outside of your preferred range, but these are the things that make me a kool person to be with....
Good luck, M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 10/18/2005 11:12:29 PM >

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RE: service - 10/19/2005 5:42:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

To some, age is a factor; to others, it's not. One thing that WILL cause a problem is if you are not honest about it - your profile says you are 65 and your post says you are 70.

I noticed that too, Ms. Sonnet Marwood, and I agree with you. The profile was opened this year, so there's no explanation but a direct lie on the age section. (Not updating a profile is sometimes a believable excuse, when it's only a few years...but FIVE years?) I would then question if the handsome (more youthful) photo that is attached to the profile was also not a true reflection of the man.

Honesty, up front, is probably more important than age for many.

K

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RE: service - 10/19/2005 12:32:38 PM

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For me age matters. I wouldnt feel comfortable being involved with someone young enough to be my son/daughter or old enough to be my father/mother. I prefere people my age or 10 years +/-.
But I see nothing wrong if someone likes them older or younger (as long as they are of legal age).

Honesty about age is completely different matter. I never lie about mine, and I find people who do quite pitiful.

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RE: service - 10/19/2005 8:44:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

I would much prefer an honest "I know I'm outside of your preferred range, but these are the things that make me a kool person to be with....

If age is an issue, on either side, this is your best shot, though don't expect miracles. On the other hand, miracles sometimes happen, so memorize it, and when it [finally] works, credit M.

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RE: service - 10/19/2005 11:39:11 PM

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If age is an issue, on either side, this is your best shot, though don't expect miracles. On the other hand, miracles sometimes happen, so memorize it, and when it [finally] works, credit M.

I was serious M'Lady Misstoyou. I have dated men who were older because of their approach.

M

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RE: service - 10/20/2005 4:13:11 AM

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I was serious M'Lady Misstoyou. I have dated men who were older because of their approach.

I've dated those outside of my "age range" for the same reason.

I stopped putting an age range on my profile a while ago, because I wanted to pare down the requirements listed there to those that were NOT flexible in the least. I generally keep to the 10 +/- as well.

I appreciate when someone acknowledges that they think I will probably find them "outside" of what I would consider. But it does make me uncomfortable when people specifically target those younger than themselves. I honestly think anymore that it's an inability to accept themselves as who they are and try to hold on to THEIR youth no matter how silly it is....and then usually they behave as if they are bewildered that they could possibly be considered too old for someone.

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RE: service - 10/20/2005 7:00:43 PM

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to all that responded to my question about finding a mistress and having a problem with my age,--- my apoligies. i am trying to find someone and thinking age is my downfall, i backed off 5 yrs, hoping that would be a little better. i made a huge mistake. again my apologies to all. dukieshazam)(doug)

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RE: service - 10/20/2005 10:48:55 PM

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I was serious M'Lady Misstoyou. I have dated men who were older because of their approach.

M

Sorry, M, if I sounded flip. I was serious, too. I thought you gave perfect advice for anyone worrying about how to approach someone when they're outside the age parameters...older or younger.

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RE: service - 10/21/2005 7:04:14 AM

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I have to laugh....I got the most ridiculous email yet this morning from a "gent" 25 years my senior regarding the age difference issue...."You too will be 60 soon so there really isn't an age difference".

Perhaps senility is setting in early, as I turned him down earlier this week when he contacted me from a difference name of his due to the fact that he was married and cheating.

~S~

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RE: service - 10/23/2005 5:44:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: dukieshazam

i would like to ask the mistresses/dommes if age is a barrier to them. i have been trying to contact a mistress in my area and the only thing i can think of is a deterrent is my age, although i am one of those (dont look or act it guys.im 70 .thank you in advance for any response.

I do not see your age as much of a deterrant as your profile. Pardon my bluntness, but sometimes a brief profile does not say anything at all. If your age worries you, why include it? Certainly changing your age will NOT benefit you in the end. Starting off with a lie is not condusive to honesty.

If I received a post from you, it would need to be very intriguing...as your profile is so generic. You state you are willing to be taken where you truly belong. Where do you believe that is. Your willingness for training is almost without saying. Even the best trained submissive will need to learn the preferences of the one he serves.

Personally, I would spend the energy on the profile, not on the age.

Be well,

`Cloudz

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