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separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:29:45 PM   
asissyforher


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Status: offline 		please? any Ma'am out there willing to answer please?

what is this, meet, and then separate to test the feelings out?

i am one serious slave and i know my answer today will be the same one at the end of this week.
why do i need a separation to see if She is Whom i want?

i find this, personally, illogical, irrational, and lacking in common sense..

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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:35:15 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		I find it far more lacking in common sense to jump into something without thinking about it. If we met someone once and only once (unless it was for an extended period of time ... say, over a week) - and they wanted to commit to something with us more than just as a trial, we would be quite sceptical as to whether it was US that they wanted to submit to, or just any Domme willing to look their way.

Taking the time apart gives both parties a chance to analyze the meeting, see what went well, what things may cause some hesitation, to think about what level of committment the situation really is asking for, etc. I find it perfectly acceptable to ask for some time to think about things and would find it amiss if someone insisted on a decision on something that important the same day as meeting.

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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:36:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		But are you the one She wants?
W/we are not getting enough information. But if this is the Lady you are under consideration with, and I would assume the same Lady you just spent a marvelous 48 hours with, then you just need to follow Her rules. Does it occur to you that She may want some separation time to think things though also? Maybe the 48 hours was not as marvelous for Her as it was for you. Maybe She still needs some time and space to think things over Herself. you may feel you know where you stand immediately, but She may not.
She is the Dominant, and you are the submissive. She will make the final decision. Some time apart is not a big deal.


< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 6/12/2005 11:40:48 PM >

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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:44:16 PM   
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If you are questioning her desires for a week to think about things, you are NOT a slave. What type of slave questions the desires of his Dominant? For that matter, from what you say, she isn't yet your Dominant. Who calls themselves a slave before they are even accepted by someone? You need to reconsider your attitude. You also need to learn what a slave IS before you claim to be one!


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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:45:16 PM   
asissyforher


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tee hee giggles.......sorry.
out of topic here, but i could not resist.

SO cute!
and gee, just bwecause i have some One on a pedestal, i would not dream of doing so to Her. i was taught respect for Ladies.

just a comment.
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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:49:58 PM   
asissyforher


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Status: offline 		If you are questioning her desires for a week to think about things, you are NOT a slave.

well? i am just wondering... do i not have the ability to ask?

it is just something made me wonder.

i'm sorry.
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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:50:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Beach, I do believe this is garylee, who has had no less than 4 personnas that I know of in just a few months on this site. I am not surprised that he would ask these questions. I hope things will work out for him at some point with some Lady, but I have to say I have My doubts. he is not very submissive, and I imagine he is in for a rough road.
SweetDommes nailed it with their post:

quote:

If we met someone once and only once (unless it was for an extended period of time ... say, over a week) - and they wanted to commit to something with us more than just as a trial, we would be quite sceptical as to whether it was US that they wanted to submit to, or just any Domme willing to look their way.


Good call, Ladies!

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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:51:09 PM   
asissyforher


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Status: offline 		Beach, I do believe this is garylee, who has had no less than 4 personnas that I know of in just a few months on this site. I am not surprised that he would ask these questions. I hope things will work out for him at some point with some Lady, but I have to say I have My doubts. he is not very submissive, and I imagine he is in for a rough road.
SweetDommes nailed it with their post:

yes it's garylee.. and yes i may have a rough road but i am SO happy!

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RE: separation/space - 6/12/2005 11:59:08 PM   
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No, as a matter of fact, a slave does not have the right to ask. A slave is owned and shuts up and takes whatever the Dominant wants within the slaves hard limits. They are not there to ask questions or whine when not given what they want when they want. A submissive can ask questions. Any submissive worth his salt doesn't whine when told what the Dominant desires. They deal with it.

Yeah Dusty, I was had to edit my first post before posting it, because I had posited with the attitude shown, that no matter what the person wished he could be, he was neither slave or submissive at this time. Not everyone who wishes they were a submissive is cut out to be one. It is hard to give up the sense of self needed to serve another.

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RE: separation/space - 6/13/2005 12:00:50 AM   
asissyforher


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Status: offline 		No, as a matter of fact, a slave does not have the right to ask. A slave is owned and shuts up and takes whatever the Dominant wants within the slaves hard limits. They are not there to ask questions or whine when not given what they want when they want. A submissive can ask questions. Any submissive worth his salt doesn't whine when told what the Dominant desires. They deal with it.




i back off, and stand-down.

thank You thank You

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RE: separation/space - 6/13/2005 1:47:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: asissyforher
i am one serious slave and i know my answer today will be the same one at the end of this week.


Waiting is always tough, and its especially true after an interview when you've decided you want the position. I imagine is rather like waiting for that phone call after a job interview.

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RE: separation/space - 6/15/2005 8:44:43 PM   
asissyforher


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Waiting is always tough, and its especially true after an interview when you've decided you want the position. I imagine is rather like waiting for that phone call after a job interview.

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problem is;
i think/feel/live vanilla. how in hec do i be slave alone out here? ya know?

i was told.........hands on or none!!!!!

a sissy

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