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polynoob - 10/2/2005 12:26:47 PM

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Hey, I've recently decided with my partner that for the duration of the school year (while I'm at university and not living with him) that we should have an 'open relationship'. Our agreement is that he can have intercourse with other females, if he's careful, uses protection, etc. but he can't have relationships with them. My end of the deal is that I can have relationships but not intercourse. Therefore, I'm looking for a bdsm play/romantic partner to keep me company during the lonely months.

Has anyone else had this kind of agreement/commitment before? I'm totally new to this and would appreciate any helpful advice and horror stories.

Thanks

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RE: polynoob - 10/2/2005 1:30:50 PM

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I suspect he has the harder end of it. One has absolute control over one's cock or pussy, but to command the heart is much harder. It's relatively easy to be "friends" and "buddies" without a certain (intercourse) action than it is to have sex and not discovering an effection for the person on the other end to cock... regardless of whose cock it is.

BTW: Has he agreed to inform his sex partners of the fact that they presumedly have no chance of a conventional relationship with him?

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RE: polynoob - 10/2/2005 6:48:51 PM

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Can I just ask WHY you guys decided on such a complicated scheme? What are your different priorities such that you would design things in this way? I mean, ultimately I don't care if you decide you can do everything BUT have partners who use blue toothbrushes, it's your world. But this just seems to be a set-up thats set up to make things harder on everytone rather than more enjoyable? So, if you would care to, I'd get a lot out of an explanation.

Otherwise, just be honest. Anyone who you date, be completely open and comfortable with discussing your relationship and the limits you would have in any other future relationships.

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RE: polynoob - 10/3/2005 6:02:01 AM

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Sounds like you are poly and he is swinger - or whatever the current in-vogue labels might be. Why not agree to have it all?

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