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my experinces - 7/13/2005 10:55:06 PM

hardxdrive

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I had a few poly experinces. Most were great. I wanted one with my slave geargirl. She would do it for me, but deep inside she wouldn't be happy, so I decided to just have playxx friends who are female subs. To the male doms onthis site if your slave didnt want you to go poly. Would you listen to her or do as you as you want since your the master.

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RE: my experinces - 7/14/2005 5:19:35 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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ORIGINAL: hardxdrive
To the male doms onthis site if your slave didnt want you to go poly. Would you listen to her or do as you as you want since your the master.

As a polyamorous slave, I wouldn't even attempt to get involved with a monogamous person.

If the Owner decided for whatever reason that he wanted me to be his only partner, I would accept that (and begin to seriously suspect someone had gone bonkers), however, I would not want him to become monogamous because he was just trying to make ME happy. I understand it's his choice to do what he wants, for what reasons he wants, and I would accept it. But it would feel wrong to me for him to completely change what would fulfill him just because of compatibilities.

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RE: my experinces - 7/14/2005 6:11:53 AM

Slutsub

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did you say that you are a polyamorous "slave". i didnt think that if one was a Masters ..slave that she could do that......i may be only new to this lifestyle but for me..who has been collared for nearly 2yrs to my Master. it seems incredible to me that any slave could have more than one owner.........have i missed something..... .

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RE: my experinces - 7/14/2005 6:16:56 AM

JerryInTampa

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Any relationship is about the needs of all involved. No, I would not (in fact, did not when I had a monogomous slave) use her slavery to force a monogomous slave into a polyamorous relationship that will, in the end, make her unhappy.

I won't always give a slave what she wants, but I will make sure to allow for what she needs.

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RE: my experinces - 7/14/2005 6:26:51 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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ORIGINAL: Slutsub

did you say that you are a polyamorous "slave". i didnt think that if one was a Masters ..slave that she could do that......i may be only new to this lifestyle but for me..who has been collared for nearly 2yrs to my Master. it seems incredible to me that any slave could have more than one owner.........have i missed something..... .

No, but slaves can have more than one owner. There are threads on that here if you want to do some searching and slaves here who have more than one owner now.

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 6:23:24 AM

wolfsprincess

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ORIGINAL: Slutsub

it seems incredible to me that any slave could have more than one owner.........have i missed something..... .

i think it's safe to say that with all the different styles of O/c, M/s, D/s, bdsm, and xyz relationships in the world, all things are possible. i'm another one, however, who finds it impossible for a slave to be "owned" by more than one. i believe in "absolute" slavery - nothing more, nothing less.

princess
"...slave isn't just a word - it's who and what i am ... walking forever in His light and seeking shelter in His shadow"
http://absoluteslavery.com
http://absoluteslavery.com/secure/forum/

< Message edited by wolfsprincess -- 7/17/2005 6:46:00 AM >

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 7:45:47 AM

ShiftedJewel

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quote:

......i may be only new to this lifestyle but for me..who has been collared for nearly 2yrs to my Master. it seems incredible to me that any slave could have more than one owner.........have i missed something..... .

quote:

i think it's safe to say that with all the different styles of O/c, M/s, D/s, bdsm, and xyz relationships in the world, all things are possible. i'm another one, however, who finds it impossible for a slave to be "owned" by more than one. i believe in "absolute" slavery - nothing more, nothing less.

ScooterTrash and I are an extremely happily married couple who are also both Dominants. When we collar a submissive/slave they are collared to both of us, we share in the "care and feeding" of each of our submissives/slaves. Having two owners, IMNSHO, isn't much different then having two parents... in that instance as well you answer to two people.

I'm at a loss concerning the statement about "absolute slavery"... could you elaborate please? My concept of "absolute slavery" would be that you would have no choice in the matter...

Jewel

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 8:03:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

ScooterTrash and I are an extremely happily married couple who are also both Dominants. When we collar a submissive/slave they are collared to both of us, we share in the "care and feeding" of each of our submissives/slaves. Having two owners, IMNSHO, isn't much different then having two parents... in that instance as well you answer to two people.

I'm at a loss concerning the statement about "absolute slavery"... could you elaborate please? My concept of "absolute slavery" would be that you would have no choice in the matter...

Jewel[/color]

i know there are many who believe this, thus my statement about so many different lifestyle variances. i just don't believe it possible for "me" to ever serve 2 at one time. If i were required by both at one, which would i serve?

"Absolute slavery" means being found obedient and subservient solely to the will of the Owner in ALL that he/she does. . . that once enslaved, a slave becomes property and loses the rights to make decisions regarding his/her life; the moving from rights to priviledges.

princess
"...slave isn't just a word - it's who and what i am ... walking forever in His light and seeking shelter in His shadow"
http://absoluteslavery.com
http://absoluteslavery.com/secure/forum/

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 12:11:54 PM

domtimothy46176

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I think it's critically important to be honest in both spirit and letter of whatever you've agreed to be bound by. If I started out as mono, then I would have to give my girl the option of release if I decided to go poly and she wasn't cool with it. Even within a master/slave or owner/property dynamic, if the underlying assumptions changed I think I would consider it only fair to give a girl an out.
In my own personal experience, I've done just that. When toy came to me, it was to serve me while my ex and I were still together. toy was looking to serve within a poly house. When the ex bailed, running off with her boyfriend, it changed the underlying assumptions and I offered toy her release because the situation was no longer what she had signed up for. In my mind, it was the only fair way to handle the situation.
Timothy

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 4:42:30 PM

slavedesires

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

quote:

ORIGINAL: Slutsub

did you say that you are a polyamorous "slave". i didnt think that if one was a Masters ..slave that she could do that......i may be only new to this lifestyle but for me..who has been collared for nearly 2yrs to my Master. it seems incredible to me that any slave could have more than one owner.........have i missed something..... .

No, but slaves can have more than one owner. There are threads on that here if you want to do some searching and slaves here who have more than one owner now.

I think it is an uncommon practice for one girl to have 2 Masters.
Its more common for a Master to have 2 slaves or one slave and one sub.

~~shy

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 4:48:02 PM

slavedesires

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wolfsprincess

quote:

ORIGINAL: Slutsub

it seems incredible to me that any slave could have more than one owner.........have i missed something..... .

i think it's safe to say that with all the different styles of O/c, M/s, D/s, bdsm, and xyz relationships in the world, all things are possible. i'm another one, however, who finds it impossible for a slave to be "owned" by more than one. i believe in "absolute" slavery - nothing more, nothing less.

princess
"...slave isn't just a word - it's who and what i am ... walking forever in His light and seeking shelter in His shadow"
http://absoluteslavery.com
http://absoluteslavery.com/secure/forum/

ok...now i am confused..."absolute slavery"...will need to look at the web sitelink.
Maybe princess needs to contrible to the "define slave" forum in general BDSM discussion.

running off to lookat the link on absolute slavery.

~~shy

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....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 4:51:51 PM

slavedesires

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OMG...i didnt realize Scooter Trash and Shifted Jewel were married dominants.....

keep reading i might find other partners!!

LOL

~~shy

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"i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable."
....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 4:56:24 PM

slavedesires

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wolfsprincess

I know there are many who believe this, thus my statement about so many different lifestyle variances. i just don't believe it possible for "me" to ever serve 2 at one time. If i were required by both at one, which would i serve?

"Absolute slavery" means being found obedient and subservient solely to the will of the Owner in ALL that he/she does. . . that once enslaved, a slave becomes property and loses the rights to make decisions regarding his/her life; the moving from rights to priviledges.

princess
"...slave isn't just a word - it's who and what i am ... walking forever in His light and seeking shelter in His shadow"
http://absoluteslavery.com
http://absoluteslavery.com/secure/forum/

Well like ShiftedJewel said...absolute slsvery to me means i do it His way or the highway...no choice... and if He wants 2 girls, i want what He desires, happily and make it work, or i walk.

~~shy

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"i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable."
....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 4:59:15 PM

ShiftedJewel

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quote:

I think it is an uncommon practice for one girl to have 2 Masters.
Its more common for a Master to have 2 slaves or one slave and one sub.

I agree here, it does seem to be more common, but having two owners is not unheard of either. Personally, I think it's gaining popularity... lol

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ok...now i am confused..."absolute slavery"...will need to look at the web sitelink.

I did glance at the link, it is their personal website. I would love to see some links that would back up her definition though. Even in the literal sense of the word slavery many slaves were owned by a family and answered to all and you don't get much more "absolute" then that.

Jewel

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 5:03:24 PM

slavedesires

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ORIGINAL: domtimothy46176

I think it's critically important to be honest in both spirit and letter of whatever you've agreed to be bound by. If I started out as mono, then I would have to give my girl the option of release if I decided to go poly and she wasn't cool with it. Even within a master/slave or owner/property dynamic, if the underlying assumptions changed I think I would consider it only fair to give a girl an out.
In my own personal experience, I've done just that. When toy came to me, it was to serve me while my ex and I were still together. toy was looking to serve within a poly house. When the ex bailed, running off with her boyfriend, it changed the underlying assumptions and I offered toy her release because the situation was no longer what she had signed up for. In my mind, it was the only fair way to handle the situation.
Timothy

This is a most honorable thing Timothy.

When i "signed on" as a submissive......lol...it struck me funny to say that....my deepest desires were unleashed and found them to be His as well.
So He told me the way it was gonna be and i found comfort in the way He wanted it and the way the search was to be conducted...and that's that.

happy shy girl

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i speak only my personal opinion, sometimes O/ours.

"i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable."
....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

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RE: my experinces - 7/17/2005 5:06:13 PM

slavedesires

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to answer the OP...if she is slave, it is what Master wants or she walks... IMHO

~~shy

edited to say.....
if a Master is not Master of His desires and Himself and His girl...has he not lost control?

< Message edited by slavedesires -- 7/17/2005 5:08:06 PM >

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....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

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