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moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 11:34:20 AM

LadyElizabeth

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Would you, submit, or Dominate to someone who's morals and ethics did not match your own in all areas?

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 11:35:15 AM

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Depending on the circumstances, yes.

But for all the major ones- no.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 11:43:25 AM

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No one sees things exactly as i do, so yes, if the differences were not terrible.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 11:47:01 AM

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That would very much depend on which areas, a mismatch on something that one or other considers to be important to the relationship itself (Honesty being the one that springs to mind for myself) then the person would be entriely incompatable. But otherwise it wouldn't automaticaly be a major obstical.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 11:51:26 AM

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I guess it would depend on whether you truly mean submitting or if you are just referring to bottoming. I can be a bottom to someone in a casual sense without getting into a morals and ethics debate. Submitting as in to a life partner...our morals and ethics would have to pretty closely match.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 12:12:32 PM

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luckily i have no morals so its not an issue.

As others have said it depends. If I was submitting to someone who didnt believe in abortion as I do, it would be fine. If it were someone who didnt brake for animals in the road it would not be fine.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 12:24:16 PM

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Off course. The odds of finding some one else with exactly your morals and/or ethics are near impossible, I believe anyway.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 12:27:45 PM

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I would want them close enough to my own so as not to be in conflict.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 12:30:24 PM

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a girl would have to match me in the major things such as ethics. Morality? No I am neither a moral or immoral person but an Amoral. She would need to match me in the most as far as a rightness of things went.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 12:37:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth

Would you, submit, or Dominate to someone who's morals and ethics did not match your own in all areas?

It would depend on which ethics and morals they differed on.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 1:08:14 PM

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In total and complete agreement with everyone else here. It would depend on which ones, and how far apart matched we were.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 1:18:49 PM

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Agree with everyone so far: They would have to be compatible with my own.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 1:51:52 PM

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My heart tends to be darker than that of the girl wishing to serve me. More often is it a question of whether or not her morals will limit her ability to serve at the level I wish.

Generally speaking, I prefer the mindset of a girl to be an approximate female equivalent of my own—ready to be made an extension of me. This is not to say I will not make a slave of one less in step, rather that when I am training them I will aim to mold their preferences and tastes to suit mine.

Incongruent ethics, on the other hand, will certainly sway me. If you hold dearly to an overarching doctrine that I find displeasing, I will most likely not attempt convincing you away from it. Undoing is a lot of work, and seldom worth the effort.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 1:54:07 PM

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quote:

Would you, submit, or Dominate to someone who's morals and ethics did not match your own in all areas?

I have very few morals ::as in codes of conduct:: and for any 'one' of them which is not shared, it's a deal breaker.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 3:00:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth

Would you, submit, or Dominate to someone who's morals and ethics did not match your own in all areas?

It would depend on which ethics and morals they differed on.

Ditto

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/17/2006 4:59:44 PM

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no one is a prefect match! However, with regards to moral/ethics the compatiablity needs to be as close as possible in my opinion. Key moral/ethical area's of personal importance need to match. The farther away you get from them the more tolerance a relationship can endure with differences in opinions. In my opinion this is true in most areas of relationships.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/18/2006 10:32:27 AM

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quote:

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luckily i have no morals so its not an issue.

As others have said it depends. If I was submitting to someone who didnt believe in abortion as I do, it would be fine. If it were someone who didnt brake for animals in the road it would not be fine.

Braking for animals is one thing, but never swerve. You do that and you're lucky to wind up upside down in a ditch, if you're unlucky you've hit a tree or telephone pole and you're dying. Hijack over ...

As far as a partner in a relationship instead of a casual affair, no way. I can't submit to someone I don't respect and if their morals are more lax than mine, then I won't respect them. This is one of the things that most attracted me to my Dom, the fact that he feels just as strongly about what's important as I do.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/18/2006 10:48:59 AM

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It would depend on the morals. This recently came into question in a particular situation. i found myself for the first time quite torn as to what to think. A decision was to be made (by him) and i found myself quite concerned - - if his decision went against my core value system, then what? Fortunately i did not have to answer that question.

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/18/2006 10:51:29 AM

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I would consider it, since the moral and ethical code of our household isn't one that most people would come to without being exposed to it -- and it is unlikely that they would be exposed to it in daily life in our current society. To discover whether an individual is a moral/ethical fit with our household actually requires them spending time -in- our household, and if they were dedicated to exploring their own premises, I would accept them even if their current premises didn't match ours.

That being said, if I discovered, after taking on a servant, that his or her ethical and moral framework were inimical to our household, I would not -keep- them in service to us, for their own good, as well as ours.

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ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth

Would you, submit, or Dominate to someone who's morals and ethics did not match your own in all areas?

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RE: moral/ethics.. - 2/18/2006 11:06:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth

Would you, submit, or Dominate to someone who's morals and ethics did not match your own in all areas?

Like most the others, it would really depend on which one they didn't match and also .. since I'm a switch.. which position i was in.

If i'm to be submitting, then oh hell yes they'd better match up pretty closely.

If I'm in the dominant mindset, then it doesn't matter so much to me. My morals/ethics tend to be more stringent that some I've run into, so it would all be part of the "rules" set up in the begining. If theirs are more stringent, depending on the issue.. there may be concessions made.

As for breaking for animals.. unless its a domesticated one.. most of the others already know about roads, and as such if they're in my way.. they're taking their life in their hands. Who am I to stand in the way of a suicidal squirrel.

I will however.. brake for deer, cows, elk, and other large animals... but then mostly for my own safety.

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