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mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 4:47:14 PM

LdyArtist916

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I found later in life that the mental aspects of a D/s exchange of power is what makes me feel 'whole' with the right-for-me-Dom that is in this for positive yin to Yang reasons. In all the twenty two years of my married life I'd never known that we had had that type of relationship except he was merely 'domineering' not a compashionate Dominant as I've found after I was divorced in 92', and yes, it's been a long path from where I was so very naive and believing everyone who called themselves 'Doms' were 'Gods', to where I am now in my submission. Dominants aren't perfect, and to expect them to be was putting them too high on pedistals, or so say my Dom friends....smiles. I suspose a 'Daddy' type of Dom is what this more mature, oh ok..older, submissive woman needs, a guide, helper, gentle and compashionate and patient man. I fear I've wandered off my prior path. apologies all! and please stay safe!

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 5:00:04 PM

Petruchio

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Dominants aren't perfect, and to expect them to be was putting them too high on pedistals

I'm not perfect? (gasp!) That can't be right.

(scratching head) Oh woe, oh no. What possibly can be imperfect about me?

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 5:01:28 PM

Driver1961

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Smiles to you LdyArtist916!

It's excellent how you've obviously grown

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 5:20:42 PM

amayos

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LdyArtist916

I suspose a 'Daddy' type of Dom is what this more mature, oh ok..older, submissive woman needs, a guide, helper, gentle and compashionate and patient man...

A guide I always may be, but gentle and compasionate are not qualities I'm always praised for. ;)

Good luck in your search for a Daddy.

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 5:24:28 PM

MistressOfGa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LdyArtist916

I found later in life that the mental aspects of a D/s exchange of power is what makes me feel 'whole' with the right-for-me-Dom that is in this for positive yin to Yang reasons. In all the twenty two years of my married life I'd never known that we had had that type of relationship except he was merely 'domineering' not a compashionate Dominant as I've found after I was divorced in 92', and yes, it's been a long path from where I was so very naive and believing everyone who called themselves 'Doms' were 'Gods', to where I am now in my submission. Dominants aren't perfect, and to expect them to be was putting them too high on pedistals, or so say my Dom friends....smiles. I suspose a 'Daddy' type of Dom is what this more mature, oh ok..older, submissive woman needs, a guide, helper, gentle and compashionate and patient man. I fear I've wandered off my prior path. apologies all! and please stay safe!

God forbid I get on another pedistal <s>

Seriously, it sounds like you have come a long way. A guide, helper, gentle and compasionate and patient man? Sounds like a winner in either world-vanilla or bdsm.

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 5:27:37 PM

HouseofBear

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Way to go. You have discovered something that many fail to recognize. That lifestyle or otherwise, people are human, and that loving, caring relationships can exist within the lifestyle.

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 5:31:02 PM

KatyLied

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submissive woman needs, a guide

They are out there. And they are awesome. Good luck!

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 6:03:25 PM

MHOO314

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Cmon Mistress of Georgia, get on that pedestal, speak what's there---smiles

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 6:09:45 PM

MistressOfGa

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Cmon Mistress of Georgia, get on that pedestal, speak what's there---smiles

LMAO! Ok ok, but let's have a martini first shall we? May as well, can't dance <s>

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 6:36:02 PM

Sensualips

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I'm not perfect?

I am sure she didn't mean YOU, Petruchio. No no.

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 6:41:53 PM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

quote:

ORIGINAL: LdyArtist916

I suspose a 'Daddy' type of Dom is what this more mature, oh ok..older, submissive woman needs, a guide, helper, gentle and compashionate and patient man...

A guide I always may be, but gentle and compasionate are not qualities I'm always praised for. ;)

Good luck in your search for a Daddy.

Sometimes, Amayos, when i read your posts...i wonder if you are my Master in disguise..... ~ grin ~

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 6:54:14 PM

truesub4u

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Petruchio

I'm not perfect? (gasp!) That can't be right.

(scratching head) Oh woe, oh no. What possibly can be imperfect about me?

Oh Lord........... this is too easy....How can you have a war... when the battle gets thrown in the first round?..... LMAO

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 6:55:59 PM

truesub4u

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Cmon Mistress of Georgia, get on that pedestal, speak what's there---smiles

LMAO! Ok ok, but let's have a martini first shall we? May as well, can't dance <s>

Well this should be damn good..... wish my martini's were as good.... LOL... but I'm trying.

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 8:20:47 PM

PlayfulOne

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Not Perfect? I'm with Petruchio, I'm confused. I've been sitting here thnking and I can't figure out how I am not perfect. Does this mean I need to make my little one start lowering my pedestal? It has gotten rather high, my ears are popping from pressure changes when I am on it.

Seriously as my little one will be happy to chime up, I am compastionate, patient, gentle, and have guided her in many ways. She has grown tremendously as I have helped nuture and guide her. Daddy is what she calls me most of the time. Now sometimes people seem to think that is all a Daddy is good for and a Daddy Dom is of a weaker less physical subset. The hand prints on her backside and being flogged in to subsapce earlier can atest, this Daddy also has a bite.

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/13/2006 9:32:07 PM

Littlepita

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Nothing like a Daddy/Dom in my opinion. I am almost 40 and it has taken me a long time to understand myself and what I want. Thank God I found what I was looking for when I didn't even realize what that was.

Best of luck to you LdyArtist916

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/14/2006 8:32:25 AM

KnightofMists

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HEY... I love being on a pedestal!

Of course The height is at "Sea Level" Much safer height for Me!

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RE: mental needs met through D/s - 2/14/2006 8:49:59 AM

MistressOfGa

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

HEY... I love being on a pedestal!

Of course The height is at "Sea Level" Much safer height for Me!

LMAO!! But who wants safe? <g>

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