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mental health - 2/5/2006 12:15:53 PM

saltie

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Is it ok to ask a question about mental health in the health boards? It does have to do with bdsm. Do not know if it is only for physicial health or not. I am trying to see if there is another place or not but not found any other boards yet.

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RE: mental health - 2/5/2006 1:11:24 PM

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It's probably approprite to post here. There are some members who are familiar with mental health issues.

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RE: mental health - 2/5/2006 5:49:11 PM

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Thanks Katylied. I wanted to be sure. Here it is. Having session helps me with my depression and just love it anyway. I only do this for seesion, not a lifestyle.My therapist said he thinks it helps in the short term but not in the long term. That maybe I am doing it because of something that happened long ago. That it could be bad for me. Was just wondering if others was told the same thing. I dont want to give it up. Does so much for me.

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RE: mental health - 2/6/2006 12:44:30 AM

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You don't say what sort of session you indulge in. I guess that would inpact on what affect it has on the depression. For example, my daughter loves to cut herself when she's depressed - she feels as though it helps (at the time), but even she realises this isn't a healthy way to deal with things.

I'd discuss it more with the therapist.

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RE: mental health - 2/6/2006 7:06:22 AM

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You might be interested in reading this topic.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_86869/mpage_1/key_depression/tm.htm

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RE: mental health - 2/10/2006 6:14:22 PM

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As it is only for session for me I do not know much about this so dont know the different kind of sessions there is. It is always in private. There is a lot of pain for me and me doing worships and me pampering him, some humiliation.And thanks for answering

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RE: mental health - 2/10/2006 6:20:34 PM

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Thanks peppermint. I will read it. To Wetsub I no longer see the therapist but if ever do again will talk about it more.

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RE: mental health - 2/10/2006 6:20:59 PM

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Becarefull of just taking your therapist word. They mean well but are not always right or accurate. My last therapist tried very hard to convince me bdsm was for me unhealthy since I was sexually molested all my child hood, and in her eyes was a way for me to be sexually abused again.

Which it's not. Not even close. And she wouldn't hear that bdsm is all about safe sane andc onsentual to good honest players, or that I'd have to consent to everything that would happen before it did. She also told me that ageplay was dangerous and people couldn't effectivly "raise" a partner less they were trained professional therapists trained in these matters.

And that's just not true either. you don't have to be a trained professional to sucessfully reparent an inner child of the adult you're with

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RE: mental health - 2/10/2006 10:49:27 PM

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I don't think anyone should take the 'word' of a therapist, but then neither should they take the word of one of us posters on the board. I just thought that if the OP had already discussed this with the therapist they could delve further into why he thought it wasn't good long term. You listen to others, reflect, use what is useful and discard what isn't and make up your own mind. At least that is what I do.

Therapists are like the rest of us - human. Good/bad and indifferent.

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RE: mental health - 2/10/2006 11:02:33 PM

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as someone who has dealt with depression/anxiety all of my life, i can only tell you this...what works for one person may not work for another. if talking to someone about your past situations helps you, then, by all means, find someone to talk to...face your past the best way you can. if pills are the only thing that helps, be very careful about this as alot of meds can be adictive and may only add to your problems.

(this is not a boast) i probably know as much...if not more...than most shrinks out there as this has been a part of me for so long and i have tried every form of treatment imagineable (except electroshock therapy...which i adamantly refuse to undertake) and, thus far...nothing has helped me at all...but that's just me

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RE: mental health - 2/13/2006 3:15:47 AM

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I dont take his word (therapist). It is for the same reasons as you FelinePersuasion is why he said I could be doing this. I also told him it is agreeded on what is done to me/what I do. It helps me and gives me something to look forward to. I heard of ageplay but never did or know about it. Thanks for answering. I was hoping to meet somebody to talk to that is in this lifestyle but not able to or go to any munch so have nobody so I use these message boards. Though just a session for me want to learn things besides needing info. sometimes. You are right wetsub000 about me wanting to know what others think/been told but I know I am a awful typer so not always clear on what I mean. Thanks again. MichaelGA yes I know some meds can make things worse. Several meds had to stop taking as did that. Do not think you are boasting.

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RE: mental health - 2/13/2006 3:47:43 AM

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I have a therapist who agrees its helpful now and in the long run.

How can something that helps now...not be useful in the future...even if you stop BDSM activities you take away that knowledge.That knowledge helps later down the road.

I saw you no longer see that therapist...maybe finding one with more of open mind would be better for you.

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RE: mental health - 2/13/2006 3:21:36 PM

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I stopped for other reasons MistressSassy66. He did not put me down or anything like that but just said maybe not good in the long run. I love this and if not bad not going to stop. I dont see how it could be. Some women been abused by a man or men and think it is normal but that did not happen so why am not doing this. Thanks for answering.

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RE: mental health - 2/16/2006 2:28:11 PM

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I'm going to take a wild stab in the dark (no innuendos please!) and say that it sounds like the therapist in the equation wasn't so much saying such things are harmful, but maybe that they are too effective ...hear me out...and that if you get so much help from them then you may not have an incentive to investigate the root cause of whatever it is that causes your inner suffering. Well, if I was a therapist that's what I'd think. I'd also be concerned that you might vanish into the world of BDSM forever and stop paying me for my help!!!

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RE: mental health - 2/19/2006 6:26:47 PM

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Really interesting way to look at it, Penelope.

Also, in case some of you don't know, there is a small but somewhat useful site called Kink Aware Professionals. It lists therapists, medical doctors, and others who are accepting of WIITWD.

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