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RE: serving two doms - 5/2/2005 12:02:40 PM   
darkangel


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It could also be said that as a christian - I serve two Masters.

I hate neither.

Peace and Love

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RE: serving two doms - 5/2/2005 10:35:49 PM   
ravenna


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Status: offline 		Very well said, Angel -- My masters and i all serve the same Master in Christ, and my submission to them in this world is not so very different from my spiritual submission to Him. i even consider them His temporal stand-ins...

And back to the OP: Yes, it is possible to serve two dominant men, i do, and i hope and plan to for the rest of my life, God and my owners willing. But it's really not because of me that our triangle works, although i give it everything i've got; it's because of who they are and their amazing relationship with each other that it works, and that it works so well.

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RE: serving two doms - 5/14/2005 11:51:39 PM   
darkfae


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Status: offline 		it might work but only if the 2 Doms like/respect eachother.....trust me i know...lol

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RE: serving two doms - 5/21/2005 2:38:50 PM   
TheSecondRebel


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Status: offline 		I am currently in a situation where I am sharing a sub. It is a situation I said I would never get into, but as they say, never say never.

We have all gotten off to a rocky start, but it is balancing out. He and I have been corresponding and conspiring more, and we are at the point of now including the other on the assignments that we give her. So it is quite interesting. Hell, one of us will punish her for not doing the others assignments.

Our sub has always been very upfront about what is going on, and the lines of communication are open. This is not a normal situation, but it is manageable. Neither he nor I are jealous or possessive, we just both care about her a great deal, and she us.

So for us, right now, it works.

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RE: serving two doms - 5/22/2005 7:49:50 AM   
rufus1969


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

My family currently has two Doms being served by one sub/slave. She is his submissive and my slave. It is not a feat for a slave to pull off; it depends on the Doms. We are in charge, and it is up to us not to put her in a position of conflict between us. If we both give her instructions, and they conflict, I have told her to notify that she has a conflict and assume my request to be immediately rescinded. It is not a good thing for a slave to be in a two Masters conflict where she has to choose; not fair to her. The end solution is how the Doms interact. If they get along and solve issues without confusing their slave, then all is well. Our Princess absolutely beams when in public and able to show that she has two Husbands to serve and make happy. (We call inner family Doms 'Husbands', and outer family - don't live together - Doms 'Brothers'.)

So, in addressing a comment in a later post, in regards to serving to Doms who don't know about each other, this sounds like an impossible feat. It takes two caring and understanding Doms to make it work with when they know each other. If they don't know, or don't get along, I think you are doomed for failure from the beginning.

Paul Joseph

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RE: serving two doms - 5/27/2005 6:49:08 PM   
LadyBadger


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Status: offline 		my partner & I are both Tops/Doms; I have one collared sub; he doesn't...

my sub will serve my partner as it is MY will that he does so and he is happy to be thus serving Me... for my sub, he is always happy to be "in his Lady's service" no matter what he's doing...

my partner is careful to ask for my sub's services if they are needed, but knows I am always happy when he too is served as I am... we have had few, if any, "discussions" over whose tasks take precedence... thank goodness! LOL! if anything, we will jointly decide the day's doings and have even had to throttle back the boy because he is so enthusiastic in his service to us...

before I collared my sub, I seriously considered sharing him & his time (like a timeshare) with another FemDomme friend... however, she & I didn't see eye-to-eye on his management & treatment and I withdrew the consideration... we have not remained friends unfortunately...

in deciding which course to take, I received lots of [very welcome] counsel from trusted Domme friends which basically came to "Don't do it!" I am glad I listened to their sage advice, as is my sub -- as he sees it, he was rescued/protected from a potentially very bad situation...

at this time, our first year anniversary of his collaring is coming up fast... I'm looking forward to more years to come with him, as is my partner!

LadyBadger

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RE: serving two doms - 5/27/2005 6:55:35 PM   
knees2you


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Status: offline 		Yes But A Slave and a Master and Christ is DIFFERENT,
then a Slave and 2 Masters on Earth~ Or 2 Masters and a slave on Earth~

quote:

"So often times it happens that We live Our lives in CHAINS and We never even know We have the Key? The Eagles"


Sincerely, Ant

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RE: serving two doms - 5/28/2005 9:21:22 PM   
LadyBadger


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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

Yes But A Slave and a Master and Christ is DIFFERENT,
then a Slave and 2 Masters on Earth~ Or 2 Masters and a slave on Earth~

quote:

"So often times it happens that We live Our lives in CHAINS and We never even know We have the Key? The Eagles"


Sincerely, Ant


um, I did NOT write the original post for the above response... [the screen says "(in reply to LadyBadger)"]

LadyBadger


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RE: serving two doms - 5/29/2005 2:43:37 PM   
darkangel


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Nope


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RE: serving two doms - 5/29/2005 5:56:40 PM   
knees2you


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RE: serving two doms - 5/29/2005 8:27:18 PM   
LadyAngelika


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quote:

what are the ramifications of serving two doms, especially if they are totally different? is there any possibility, at all, of a submissive pulling such a feat off?


I've done it in co-topping situations. Either one of my boys or girls or another Dom's boy or girl. What I found tricky in one instance was that a boy I met via another Dom (for the record, the submissive was a free agent, ie not collared) clicked with me big time. I did have him talk with the Dom, who was a friend of mine, to get his ok before pursuing me.

I've read some of Ravenna's posts on the subject and it seems to work well for her and her Masters. I can see myself co-domming if I had a dominant or switch partner and we had a submissive third. My boy is switch, but sub to me, and we have been considering finding a submissive play partner to co-top.

- LA


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RE: serving two doms - 5/31/2005 8:11:11 AM   
LadyBadger


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Status: offline 		I often co-Top with other FemDomme friends -- it's a mutual play scene and all involved generally have lots of fun...

what my partner & I do, I wouldn't characterize as co-Topping, though we have done that at times as my partner brings that extra "oomph!" that only a man has when flogging... LOL!

my partner & I consider ourselves equals, but we do recognize where the line/boundaries are and respect those for each other... should he have a collared sub, I would treat their relationship as he treats mine right now -- it would be *their* relationship, not mine... and yes, he would very much like to see her serve me for his pleasure... ::smile::

does this make sense?


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RE: serving two doms - 6/3/2005 1:34:17 PM   
DominateCouple1


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Status: offline 		Hi all
Serving two doms is not hard as myself and husband are both dominate. We own a slavegirl and have owned her for several years now and have found it not hard at all. We find it handles will with communacation and honesty. We have never had issues with the situation as we took our time in finding a person to fit our situation. There is someone out there that will fit what you seek if you have the patience to look.

Renee and Bill

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RE: serving two doms - 6/3/2005 6:41:24 PM   
MistressJan


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Status: offline 		Ramifications can vary in this type of relationship. It can work; however, I will advise you to use caution when talking with certain groups in the lifestyle. Some of the groups that are more traditional in nature will rip you into shreads.
It is not what they think because they usually do not realize that the relationship is non-sexual in nature. They automatically think the incorrect thoughts because they go by what they see and their own values.
While I was training to be a Mistress, I had a Master as well as a slave. People did not understand this, but the Master was for Leadership and teaching me how to manage myself and my slave.
Now the tables are turned, and I would eventually like to meet someone who could get me to be a submissive. It will be tough.
I really think it comes down to one thing and that is SM verses D/s. I know I am Sm. Most of my groups I belong to are D/s.
There you have it.

Respectfully,

Mistress_Jan


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RE: serving two doms - 6/4/2005 7:39:06 PM   
MistressJan


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Status: offline 		Ramifications in serving two masters are a very serious issue that you have to ask yourself, why am I doing this?
I had a Master and a slave at the same time. The Master was my teacher. No kind of sexual activies were going on with him.
He taught me to manage my slave. I had two collars. One I collared my slave, and I was collared by the Master.
It can become very confusing, and if you are new to the life, it can really get confusing. It is very difficult to give absoulte power exchange to more than one person.
Sooner or later one of the parties becomes jealous of another. I am not saying it is right or wrong because I there is a submissive part of me who always wants to be controlled.
We will see how it goes. Be cautious. Some people see this type of relationship as sexual regardless of whether it is or is not. I have seen very intelligent people go off the deep end over this kind of stuff.
Be good to yourself. Don't worry with it. That is my advice.

Respectfully,

Mistress_Jan

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RE: serving two doms - 6/6/2005 12:06:44 AM   
shay


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Status: offline 		Having been in past poly relationships and seeing this on the poly board, i thought i would post that serving two Masters can be done. Mainly because i see the word Master and dont neccessary see gender as the issue. i have served a wonderful Master and Mistress (a Married Couple) in my past. Although i am no longer with Them, i did feel myself in service to BOTH of Them. i loved Them both, loved interacting with Them and learned alot from Them.

i have a friend who has Two Male Masters, lives with One and bottoms to the Other. Because the Two Men have open communication and are content with the service my friend offers, i see her relationship definately work. i don't figure its easy, but what in life really is?

i think it can be done in the right circumstances. i eagerly look forward to serving a Couple again. In fact, i think i like it better when the Couple are both dominant. (maybe its that bisexual side of me on the forefront, maybe its because i love being Lady's maid as well as Master's pet).

good question, of which answer is as individual as the person themself!

hugs~
shay

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