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SimplyV -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 11:38:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: incognitoinmass

John Wayne or Alan Alda?

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Personally, no contest, based on the characters they've played not on the men themselves.

Alan Alda all the way.



Somewhere along this long thread I lost what this debate is about? Who is more manly? Who'd make a better sub? ??

While I'm at it.. let me throw out some names.. How about Dean Cain? Or John Travolta? Ooo or the "plumber" on Desperate Housewives?

Sorry. where were we again?

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incognitoinmass -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 11:48:14 AM)

I think we should not allow ourselves to be sidetracked into a discussion of ancient greek mythology but refocus on the subject at hand: forced masculinity. My thought had been that we should adjust our thinking from masculinity to manliness.

I disagree with TammyJo. Alan Alda = sensitive new age male. John Wayne = Manly man. Leonardo = metrosexual. Crowe = manly man. [speaking of the type of roles they typically play NOT the men themselves].

Think of the traits identified in the book being discussed. Confidence in the face of risk and easy assumption of authority. Not mentioned are 'horndog with good networking skills."

I think of a phrase that you used to here more often than you do nowadays: He's a man's man.




thetammyjo -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 12:52:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: incognitoinmass

I think we should not allow ourselves to be sidetracked into a discussion of ancient greek mythology but refocus on the subject at hand: forced masculinity. My thought had been that we should adjust our thinking from masculinity to manliness.

I disagree with TammyJo. Alan Alda = sensitive new age male. John Wayne = Manly man. Leonardo = metrosexual. Crowe = manly man. [speaking of the type of roles they typically play NOT the men themselves].

Think of the traits identified in the book being discussed. Confidence in the face of risk and easy assumption of authority. Not mentioned are 'horndog with good networking skills."

I think of a phrase that you used to here more often than you do nowadays: He's a man's man.


If he's a man's man, shouldn't he be with a man then? I mean, gay leathermen came about partly from a desire of men to find other man's man -- while I have wonderful friends who are gay leathermen I'm not attracted to them.

I mean, I thought the question was about what female dominants found attractive, if they found masculinity attractive, not what other men found attractive.

And I don't let a book decide what is masculine or manliness for me...

I don't see what there is to disagree with directly because Alan Alda was my preference, not a general defiition for everyone. I doubt that anyone other than me can see inside my head, heart or groin especially over the computer.

And I still do not see most of these so-called masculine traits as more than personality traits that can be applied to anyone but get gender-typed regardless of the evidence.




cloudboy -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 12:55:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I never should have responded to the part of about Achilles cause it has so side tracked this thread.


I'm glad you did. In a non university setting, out here in the backwash of America, its quite a pearl to find a discussion about Achilles, greek literature, and character and heroes.

Threads can and should take on a life of their own. They should be human and like the branches of a tree, sprout out in all directions. They should be revealing about the posters themselves, and they should provide a reasonable and exciting collision course for opposing views and personalities.

Anyway, the subject of Achilles IS directly tied into this thread, BTW, because the "masculinist" females here seemed mostly focused on outward male appearances (Johw Wayne v. Alan Alda) and also the derision of sissies (outwardly female) as imasculated. There was the rush of female power, discussed about dominating a Manly Man (tall, strong, rugged, etc.) as opposed to the low class endeavor of connecting to more "effeminate" men. Next, the whole idea of "forced masculinity" implies changing Alan Alda into John Wayne or Hamlet into Achilles or a man that likes to cook into a man that likes to fix cars.......(kind of funny isn't it???)

You have said that your tastes gravitate towards androgeny and character, and others have said they want more prototypical "masculine" types.

For some of the FEMDOMs here, a sub such as Achilles would be the ultimate prize --- a slayer of men and armies --- but submissive to them. A man who spits in a King's eye but who kisses her foot. He's basically the FEMDOM equivalent of a male trophy wife.

Both you and John Warren threw up a red flag here. I digressed to discuss Achilles strictly in terms of the Illiad.

Anyway, why is it good to limit our imagination and thoughts to the OP, the thread topic, and current threads in all instances? I say, THAT'S LUNACY. Human thought needs to lead a life of its own and be strongly encouraged where no harm is done. Often the greater harm is the actual censoring or self censoring of human thought itself. (Which in this case would mean, no discussion of Achilles and no awakening of my soul that that discussion fired.)




SweetDommes -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 1:07:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

Anyway, the subject of Achilles IS directly tied into this thread, BTW, because the "masculinist" females here seemed mostly focused on outward male appearances (Johw Wayne v. Alan Alda) and also the derision of sissies (outwardly female) as imasculated. There was the rush of female power, discussed about dominating a Manly Man (tall, strong, rugged, etc.) as opposed to the low class endeavor of connecting to more "effeminate" men. Next, the whole idea of "forced masculinity" implies changing Alan Alda into John Wayne or Hamlet into Achilles or a man that likes to cook into a man that likes to fix cars.......(kind of funny isn't it???)


Simply focusing on this paragraph here ...

I don't recall a focus on the outward male appearance - I recall discussions of men who are manly enough to do things like cook (stereotypically feminine) and still remain manly. Yes, appearance is a part of that, but it's more about attitude, which is what I remember most of the discussion on here being about. If you didn't get that, perhaps you are looking at this thread from the wrong perspective.

I believe you will also find that the "derision of sissies" happened after a couple of sissy-type submissives decided to come in here and be rude to us because we prefer non-sissies. Not a good excuse, of course, but I do have to point out that it was started by their antagonism, and multiple attempts were made to get them to understand that we DON'T have a problem with them as people, it's just that we don't want them to serve us.

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Threads can and should take on a life of their own. They should be human and like the branches of a tree, sprout out in all directions. They should be revealing about the posters themselves, and they should provide a reasonable and exciting collision course for opposing views and personalities.


I have no problems with threads taking on a life of their own, but when someone who apparently has issues with the topic decides to side track it for his own purposes (which, honestly, is how I see your additions to this thread) - that I have a problem with.




incognitoinmass -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 1:19:45 PM)

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And I still do not see most of these so-called masculine traits as more than personality traits that can be applied to anyone but get gender-typed regardless of the evidence.


In specific cases, sure. But as a general rule, no. Male power or manliness is a reflection of nature, of our biological reality as much as testoterone is. Despite 30 years of trying to re-educate the young re sexual stereotypes they still pretty much hold true. Men still drive trucks, fly planes, fix cars, and mow lawns. Women still teach kindergarten, empty hospital bedpans, and clean the kitchen, etc. Manliness has a moral element too, it's not just about assertiveness and aggression.




incognitoinmass -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 1:22:08 PM)

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For some of the FEMDOMs here, a sub such as Achilles would be the ultimate prize --- a slayer of men and armies --- but submissive to them. A man who spits in a King's eye but who kisses her foot. He's basically the FEMDOM equivalent of a male trophy wife.


Wonderful. Well said.




thetammyjo -> RE: forced masculinity (3/8/2006 2:32:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: incognitoinmass

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And I still do not see most of these so-called masculine traits as more than personality traits that can be applied to anyone but get gender-typed regardless of the evidence.


In specific cases, sure. But as a general rule, no. Male power or manliness is a reflection of nature, of our biological reality as much as testoterone is. Despite 30 years of trying to re-educate the young re sexual stereotypes they still pretty much hold true. Men still drive trucks, fly planes, fix cars, and mow lawns. Women still teach kindergarten, empty hospital bedpans, and clean the kitchen, etc. Manliness has a moral element too, it's not just about assertiveness and aggression.



I'm sorry but as a historian I just can't buy this naturalness of personality traits.

And 30 years is nothing compared to centuries of patriarchy even just in the United States.

It also ignores the simple fact that not everyone is attempting to re-educate as you say -- many people promote gender roles and gender stereotypes as though they are their very being and without them they'd disappear or worse yet change sex or gender or god's know what. Your comments above are part of this promotion in fact because you are trying to show something is natural when you admit there are specific cases where these stereotypes and traits do not hold true.

If it were really natural, if it were really biology, could there be specific cases that didn't fit the mold?

Give me a few centuries of everyone trying to do this re-education and everyone getting with the program and then we can see if its natural or not.

Good luck getting such universal cooperation though -- there are several religious and political groups who would rather kill everyone or kill themselves than give up their rigid gender stereotypes and roles.




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