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RE: age and sincerity - 4/17/2004 5:02:44 AM

LadyBeckett

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ORIGINAL: SherriA

Personally, I don't consider you anything of the kind. I simply disagree with a lot of your assertions, because they don't work *for me*. That doesn't make you wrong, or evil. It just makes you different from me.

So long as you try to impose your personal paradigm on others (for instance, calling what you do "our normal alternate lifestyle" when there IS no "norm"), you're likely to run into disagreement.

-- Sherri

Of everything I've read in this thread, and everything that has been said, I do believe that Sherri said it best right there. It is never as important to be right as it is to work together to do things in the right way. We are individuals that have come together because our lifestyles agree (in part).

Again I quote Sherri:

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Bottom line, there is NO One True Way. We're not all cast from the same mold, nor do I think we should try to be. We all need to find what works for us personally, and understand that that may change over time and with experience. It's not a matter of making everyone fit into little labelled boxes, I don't think. What we really need to do is to learn to communicate our personal needs/wants more clearly so that we don't end up in situations like you're describing.

That pretty much sums it up, I think. Thank you, Sherri.

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RE: age and sincerity - 4/17/2004 5:13:01 AM

londonswitch

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Thank you Sherri. First for the patience and concentration given to reading text employing so much phonetic spelling. Very tiring. Secondly, you have expressed all my main opinions to this.

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RE: age and sincerity - 4/17/2004 8:27:05 AM

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i've read this thread with interest and have to say something.

as a young person who came to BDSM after the introduction of the internet, and got most of her information, at first, through the internet, i am upset by those who say that the internet is a wholely bad thing for so-called "alternative lifestyles."

i've had what i describe as "submissive tendancies" toward sexual experience my entired life. we're talking the pre-barbie phase here. because i could find people on the internet who had similar proclivities, i was able to find my kinks early, instead of having to struggle with my competing vanilla identity and "alternative" identity.

yeah, i did my share of cybesexing with losers, but i also met honest-to-god people who were able to guide me, and teach me. i tried my hand at online dominantion, sure, because when your a junior in high school in a conservative town living with your parnents and without a car, meeting people that don't attend your high school can be a bit difficult.

i get tired of people telling me that the internet has ruined The Lifestyle, becuase as i see it, it's opened it -up- to people.

i grant you that the internet has probably changed things a lot. i wouldn't know, i wasn't around before it.and i can definatly see how it has removed BDSM from the realm of a clan of people all doing something one way, with certain protocals. frankly, though, in my opinion this isn't a bad thing.

i would relate this to the GLBT movement. the internet has allowed young people to see that there ARE other gay, transgendered, bisexual people out there, at a much younger age than they were previously able to. it has allowed young queer people to make contacts and, i think, helped many to avoid hiding themselves in a heterosexual lifestyle for years, at the detriment of themselves and their families. i feel the same has been done for alternative types of sexuality.

um. yeah. again, sorry this is long, but i get personally hurt when people blame the internet for ruining their life. i'm invovled -now- because of the internet, and because it allowed me to see that other people were interested too. bascially.

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