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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 3/4/2004 4:21:30 AM

londonswitch

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Brevity, ecomony. Good plain English, no repetitions or snaking trains of thought. I like it when they speak direct.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 3/4/2004 6:02:08 PM

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feline,

Thank you for prejudging me. I am anonymous for a reason. I will be fired if someone casually comes across my smiling face. (It may sound severe, but I believe I know my line of work better than you. Sorry for the presumption.

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If you think the real world understands us, maybe you should talk to Marv Albert.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 9/28/2005 6:44:16 PM

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oh hell... Nno Oone (sorry that's how i was originally trained to 'type').. told me i had to READ the damn things... i just like to look at the pictures..

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 9/30/2005 12:53:03 PM

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what londonswitch said.

Plus key words that match what I am looking for. That and the tone I'm looking for.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 9/30/2005 2:56:10 PM

RainGod

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I must have written and re-written My profile about a thousand times, trying to make it attractive and irresistable to the casual browser who would happen by. I tried fancy wording, openly displaying My skills and abilities, My experience, and My charm.

No success to speak of. Then one day as I was again brainstorming a new way to say "it", I had an epipahany. Why not just be straight up, unrehearsed, and blatantly honest about who and what I am and what I want? So I did. I just tossed it out there, and posted it.

I have had more compliments on that impromtu profile than anything I ever composed before. I guess real, simple, and to the point works best for Me.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 9/30/2005 4:01:45 PM

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I just sort of answered this question in another post so it's very easy me to do it again.

I like to feel that someone is friendly and approachable. Cold, stiff or demanding profiles don't attract me at all. I also like to feel that someone is comfortable with the English language. They don't have to use big words necessarily just put things well and write how they might speak. I like to feel that I'm getting an idea of someone's personality from their profile. Intelligence is important but not to the point that someone make their profile stilted or ridiculously wordy.

It's nice when a profile doesn't list too many sub/slave requirements also. I like to think that a person is open to meeting different kinds of people and not completely rigid in terms of what they want. A nice pic is important, too. It should be reasonably flattering but also look like the person.

Best of luck in your search,
Ophelia

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 9/30/2005 6:50:20 PM

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quote:

I have a question for the female subs and slaves on this site:

"What do you look for in a male dominant's profile and why?

Quin

This doesn't actually answer the question directly, but this anecdote might bring something to bare on this discussion.

I had seen my owner's profile on CM about 3 months before we were introduced at a local munch. His profile turned me off; it wasn't gross or disgusting, it just didn't speak to me in any way that made me say, "this could be the one." It said "this guy couldn't be father from what I would want." Again, it wasn't because of physical appearance or his interest list; from what he described in it, he just didn't seem like someone who would be compatible with me.

Profile aside, he's the one. And frankly, his profile rings very true to what he's like and what he's about. But without the human animation factor, his profile didn't attract me.

And guys who's profiles had really touched me, who I ended up meeting, we're light years away from the people they turned out to be.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/1/2005 12:58:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShadowHwk

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ORIGINAL: DarkQuin

Ok, how do you show such things as soul and heart in your procile?

Quin

First you learn how to spell "profile" - *laugh*

You reach inside and describe, with as much honesty as you can muster, what it is you seek, what it is you really need. Tell about your interests, your hobbies, and your passions. You cannot be all things to everyone, so don’t even try. Be honest, be yourself, because in the end the truth will come out.

Talk about your passions, your interests – not just lifestyle, but life interests as well. Avoid too much negativity, it is contagious (like the flu – not like a smile) and a turn off for most folks.

Before you submit your post, take a minute to check your spelling and your grammar. It is often the second (the first being your photo) impression you will make.

Speaking of photos, while seeing a lovely nymph naked always puts a smile on my face, I have always thought that naked or near naked primary photos were a bad plan. If you’re female (sub or Domme), a naked photo almost guarantees you will be deluged with email from people that like your photo but have never bothered to read your profile. If you’re a male, showing your penis as your primary photo tells everyone you haven’t got squat for a personality or brains, for if you did, you wouldn’t be displaying your dick as your best feature. If you want to show more of yourself, then do so with additional photos. But your first one should be as attractive as can be, without exposing too much.

Just my .02

ShadowHwk

Well, I guess I don't agree with this at all, being I have my backside for the whole site to see~! lol,.... but I will tell you, I had a much more subdued pic on here to begin with, and I got so many emails from Doms asking is that really you? I just got sick of it, and took the one I have on there now right there and then. I can't tell you how many horror stories I've heard from Doms that when they finally met the sub they were talking/emailing too, that person had forgotten to mention, oh yeah, I gained 50 lbs since that picture I sent you. Not that their is anything wrong with BBW, there isn't, but we all have preferences, ...I think it's much better to be honest up front with not only who you are, but what you look like. Too many on here put up old pics or none at all. And in my opinion, I don't care what any one says, looks matter to a degree. You have to be turned on by this person~! I usually won't answer Doms that don't have pics or offer to send me one right away. I know what I seek. I keep myself in shape, ...I would like for my Dom to be the same, after all if he can't take care of himself, how is he going to take care of me? No one is perfect, and the mind is the main stimulant, but there has to be that primal level as well.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/2/2005 7:26:41 AM

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What do I look for in a male Dominants profile..,
As far as the personal stats -
Age, location, body type or height/weight

Those are items I have found that are of some importance/preference to me. I will not relocate at this time, and I am not interested in long distance relationships that exceed a comfortable driving distance for weekend travel.

Pictures -
Dic pics - I don't even look further. Pics that express a hint of one's interests or personality catch my eye, as do pics that show ones eyes. Pics of playpartners who features are not blurred while theirs are to provide their own discretion - definate no interest. Okay, and simply a pet peeve- guys who take a pic of themselves looking in to the mirror and they don't crop out the camera!

Written word -
Content helps tremendously. Blank profiles or those that contain 'looking for xxx' I pass by. While the written word is not always evidence of who one truly is as I have learned, it does give me an idea if how they communicate speaks to me. Did they put effort and thought in to what they portray they are seeking? Does it make sense.., from a real perspective - not repeating what they've read elsewhere. Experience level or at minimum a knowledge of the lifestyle and a desire to learn all that is needed to safely and sanely reach mututally agreed upon levels of pleasure. Do they refer to themselves in a superior manner regardless of the audience (forum posts, profile content, how they address and refer to themselves). Do they come across as demanding of or expectations of being treated with a higher level of respect vs letting who they are earn that respect from others? We all deserve to be treated with respect if shown to others.., but to feel you should be referred to by all as Master or Sir simply based upon your perception of self does not fly with me. While I am submissive.., I am not submissive to all and I do not expect to be treated as less than an equal until such a time that the the respect, trust, and desire to be submissive to him is reached.

I'm rambling.., so I'll wrap up. Basically whether in an email or chatting online - I look for signs of stability, consistency, honesty, openness, respect for others, and a strong sense of self. Don't tell me to send you pics of blah, blah, blah. Don't ask in the first 5 minutes of getting acquainted for pics of my pussy, for details of my encounters, or when we can meet.

Be real, be honest, and be open.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/2/2005 7:45:07 AM

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darn an old thread!!

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/5/2005 4:43:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: CanYouMakeMeFly

Be real, be honest, and be open.

I think that you're read my profile at some point (or maybe I'm being presumptive here). IF so, does it fit these three criteria in your opinion?

MG

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/6/2005 8:49:28 AM

atenderheart

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ok i have to admit when it comes to males ... im shallow.. i look at basicly one thing and that is height... and then i will read from there... but im not really looking either... but yeah it pretty much boils down to i am a height queen lol

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/6/2005 8:53:52 AM

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The first thing I look for is the ability to speak without resorting to 'txt' speak.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/6/2005 8:58:41 AM

RainGod

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The first thing I look for is the ability to speak without resorting to 'txt' speak.

Hi, julia! I am curious... does this mean not resorting to simply rewriting things One reads time after time online? Sounding more like a cookie-cutter version of a Dominant rather than speaking from the heart about One's self?

If so, I agree... wholeheartedly.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/6/2005 9:05:38 AM

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Hi, julia! I am curious... does this mean not resorting to simply rewriting things One reads time after time online? Sounding more like a cookie-cutter version of a Dominant rather than speaking from the heart about One's self?

If so, I agree... wholeheartedly.

I'm afraid 'txt' speak is something that triggers a deep reaction inside me.... I equate it with laziness, i.e. they cannot be bothered to use whole words.

That and being a teacher probably totals up to me being somewhat unresonable about 'txt' speak but it's something I cannot help!!

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/7/2005 1:36:51 PM

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DQ,

I only respond to profiles that are down to earth and realistic, and that describe his basic looks and personality traits and non-Dom lifestyle, not ones filled with fluff, fantasy and hot air. It's more important to me to know if we'd be compatible in real life, the fantasy can come later. There is a whole column of interests and desires, so I wish men would use the "describe yourself" column to actually do that, not go off into (their own) fantasy. And don't try to tell me what my fantasy is.

I want to know the man first, the Dom later.

windchymes

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/7/2005 1:42:18 PM

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And he needs to be able to spell the words "dominate" and "dominant" correctly, and know the difference between them!!!

One of my pet peeves.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/7/2005 1:58:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

And he needs to be able to spell the words "dominate" and "dominant" correctly, and know the difference between them!!!

One of my pet peeves.

"i am a dominate bow down and worship me" (grammatical errors left intact for accuracy's sake) ... in discussions with several subs/slaves, I've heard this was either a point of amusement or irritation. In either case, the inability to understand the difference between a verb and an adjective used as a noun was but one really good reason to sigh, shake one's head in amazement and move on.

But, to be fair, I've also seen a couple submissives who were looking for a dominate as well so maybe there's hope that they'll find each other and be mutually cancelling.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/7/2005 2:55:57 PM

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really i find it interstingg you are interested in height. I look at what a mn is like first. Of course i am only 5' maybe that explains it. I know this Dom who is 5"4" but he it the greatest guy. Height is not an issue for me.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 10/7/2005 7:00:30 PM

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