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AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/1/2004 1:58:39 AM

ABBOY4U

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I would inquire of your knowledge to help me understand the differance of submitting completely as a sub in an D/s relationship compared to completely giving up all adult rights and be contolled and disciplined as a child by a loving mommy domme?
Are there any Mistresses that yearn to have the control and discipline rage inside them fullfilled and at the same time have their very true maternal desires fullfilled also?
Adult babies are just that ,babies ,in every since of the word , needing love ,needing direction and looking to their authoritive figure(mommy or daddy) for security.
The feelings of an true adult baby is in no way related to pedophiles or even remotely thought about precious littleones but they also have the same feelings and needs as the little ones and are very easy to show love and wants for their mommy or daddy !!
Is it possible for an adult baby to be considered an submissive in their desires to show their true feelings and needs as a baby ? I think so and I would love to have my Domme mommy to control and discipline me and keep me in babyhood for her enjoyment and pleasure having her need for a baby fullfilled and also having her domanant side also fullfilled knowing that her little baby will never grow up and will always be the baby she wants them to be! My question maam. Are there any Mistresses that would enjoy having such an relationship , a baby/domme mommy lifestyle ?

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/1/2004 8:02:17 AM

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Be careful ABBoy--some people here may accuse you of putting your 'classified' here on the discussion boards. Otherwise, I don't think we've had much discussion about the subject.
I think I would be greatly upset if anyone did impact play & torture with someone into infantilism--other than the gentlest of spankings or hand smacks.
Most men I disipline have--oddly enough--not even been spanked (modern parents!) I for one like hard impact sessions, CBT, etc.--the usual content of most sessions.

Infantilism is very different--probably a Domme committed to motherhood ('maternal instincts' as you put it) would be ideal. Or someone wanting a 'change of pace'--playing as you suggest would be a quieter pace. Great picture, BTW.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/2/2004 5:02:22 PM

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I'm not very familiar with AB play. I am a very maternal person and a natural caretaker. A sub recently brought up a mother/son or aunt/nephew dynamic idea. I'm very intrigued by it, but he's not ready to open up further about it yet. I plan to keep at him about it. In the mean time, I am looking into things. I've no clue what the dynamic will turn out to be. I wish I could be more help. I look forward to the replies you may get.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/2/2004 8:24:32 PM

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That is a challenge to answer. I for one am not experienced in this department; however, I have been a submissive. My submissive slave is a manly man. This is what I want. I don't like him dressing up in women's underware, and I would have a stroke if he came in wearing that outfit you have on. Most Dommes require 24/7, Total power exchange, CBT, Punishment-several creative ways, and sometimes Chasity. Chasity is something I will be learning about.
To answer your question if this is the same as being a submissive, I would say no. I am not an expert, but for me no means no. Besides, anything like that is done for humiliation on the submissive's part. You sound as though you enjoy it. That is probably the real issue. I don't think it has anything to do with the life at all. I think it is something you will have to come to realization on.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 4:57:53 AM

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You sound as though you enjoy it. That is probably the real issue. I don't think it has anything to do with the life at all. I think it is something you will have to come to realization on.

Adult baby play is a form of BDSM. If you have any doubts about it, visit http://www.hubbies.com/ and http://www.darknursery.com/

Also, what is wrong with a sub enjoying play as much as the Domme? Not all play needs to be painful. Domination is control, not pain. I've had sex with a man that was total domination. Did we both enjoy it? Hell yeah.. Was he totally controlled? Hell yes. Did it hurt? Not till the next day when the muscles started mentioning that they didn't appreciate overuse. It isn't any act in and of itself that is Dominant or submissive, it is one person controlling the actions of another.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 5:36:07 AM

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That is a challenge to answer. I for one am not experienced in this department; however, I have been a submissive. My submissive slave is a manly man. This is what I want. I don't like him dressing up in women's underware, and I would have a stroke if he came in wearing that outfit you have on. Most Dommes require 24/7, Total power exchange, CBT, Punishment-several creative ways, and sometimes Chasity. Chasity is something I will be learning about.
To answer your question if this is the same as being a submissive, I would say no. I am not an expert, but for me no means no. Besides, anything like that is done for humiliation on the submissive's part. You sound as though you enjoy it. That is probably the real issue. I don't think it has anything to do with the life at all. I think it is something you will have to come to realization on.

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Mistress_Jan

In this lifestyle, what does if matter if someone is wearing nappies or a cock cage? Or a Dom carrying a dummy or a whip? Neither are exclusively normal or accepted by mainstream society. An AB relationship has all the elements of loss of control, the need for direction, the desire to be cared for, the need to be nutured, to feel special in someones eyes, the need for boundaries and limits, the need to escape. Would it suprise you to know a lot of women are AB's too?

I believe it is about regression...well thats the psycho babble line for it...

I'm suprised that with a claim of NO experience of something anyone would say that something does NOT fall within the BDSM lifestyle?

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 2:16:28 PM

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I know a couple of mommies. One is pro. I've actually had this conversation with them once. They don't assume that being a mommy is lifestyle related. At least the ones I know.

Being a mommy is about discipline. Also caring for the baby. Most AB's only really want the discipline though, the occassional bottle.

I've yet to meet an AB who also is a cross dresser. Of course, my knowledge is limited on this as well. Other than picking minds of those into it.

Pro mommies do blow away pro dominants though, when it comes to compensation.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 8:43:50 PM

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Mistresses I am very pleased with the responses and I am learning with all that is said.
I do not denote anyones reply and except the authority and the knowledge of all.
To quickly reiterate what Gloria was saying she didnt know of any AB crossdressers-------
Gloria yes there are many I would say more so than straight ABs as I am maam.
They are called sissy babies and they are very much sought after in the realms of the adult baby world
thank you for your replys
Mistresses and all
baby Larry

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 9:07:45 PM

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AB,

I'd say that BeachMystress and Jasmyn are right on. You have a "valid" fetish and just need to find someone to explore it with. In my experience, I do infantilism in a strictly "role play" setting. I do not consider it a lifestyle for myself. I'm sure people have different interpretations of infantilism as well. . .I'm the evil *naughty* step monster *muahahahaha*

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 10:19:03 PM

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i would love to be your male slave [email protected]

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 10:23:24 PM

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this male slave is looking for demmanding female to serve asap will obey all commands at all times [email protected]

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/3/2004 10:46:04 PM

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slaveee, please don't troll in the forums.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/4/2004 4:31:38 AM

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quote:

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this male slave is looking for demmanding female to serve asap will obey all commands at all times [email protected]

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i would love to be your male slave [email protected]

Why do you think either of these are something to post in a forum? These are trolling! This is NOT a trolling area. Please read the forum posting guidelines before your next post

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/4/2004 10:56:35 AM

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My very best Mistress Friend is in possession of two adult lifestyle baby's.
One is her husband and the other a third partner they brought into their mold 5 years ago. She is the utterly completely opposite from Me in that She has this smothering mothering fluffy type of personality and takes great pleasure in the baby play and attention that all three intertwine with successfully and are loads of fun to watch in session in their home for which I am always a totally sitting out watching from the sidelines participant as they hang on her like monkeys and She loves the attention. I however could never own such an adult baby be they submissive/slave or Dominant simply because I am One whom enjoys the giving of pain for pleasure and this role play does not fill any desire or need that I posses. I do however see that it does fill others and others in this type of lifestyle can be successfully with in it as well. Oh yes AB is a part of both D/s or BDSM alltho it is also practiced as simply a weirdness outside of both lifestyles in the vanilla world not ever having had the information on what a kink is. JMO

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/4/2004 10:32:01 PM

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I know a couple of mommies. One is pro. I've actually had this conversation with them once. They don't assume that being a mommy is lifestyle related. At least the ones I know.

Being a mommy is about discipline. Also caring for the baby. Most AB's only really want the discipline though, the occassional bottle.

I've yet to meet an AB who also is a cross dresser. Of course, my knowledge is limited on this as well. Other than picking minds of those into it.

Pro mommies do blow away pro dominants though, when it comes to compensation.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/4/2004 10:45:25 PM

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sorry maam trying to figure this Quote bussines out:) hope I have it right not I am picking on no one but I do have to let my feelings be known if it involves a very important part of my life maam.

Gloria maam I cannot truly speak for other Ab 's maam but I have read many personals from them and I have talked to them and I know they only want the discipline to feel loved by their mommy and daddy and to know that thru disciplining them they are really loved as their baby!! I as an adult baby want the love and the warm feeling mommys give and the innocent feelings that are so strong and beautiful when baby talked to and coddled maam. There is nothing on this world any better, no words can describe it maam.
The clothing and the bottles and even punishments are all centered on one thing maam. That mommy or daddy or both want you and love you very much as their baby!!
Humiliation just increases the feeling of lost adultness and makes an adult baby depend on their mommy and daddy or both even more which is exactly where an adult baby is the most happiest maam. Having a mommy or daddy or both knowing that they are loved,secure,and wanted maam as their baby!!
I appreciate all that has the insight and the foresite to know it is all about being loved no matter what we enjoy if there is no love then we have nothing to enjoy!!
Love to all!!
baby Larry

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/5/2004 7:01:48 PM

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I am an AB/ageplayer, and one who plays on the sissy side of things. I have found the relationship to be very D/s oriented, but only because we decided that things are. Anything can be D/s if the mindset of the partners involved allows this to happen.

My Mommy Domme nurtures me and cares for me and I answer to her on a daily basis. She has a responsibility for my well being that is very similar to many D/s couples I see with one difference, that the D/s is less based in a protocol-type setting and more of a maternal, caring type of dynamic. But it is still a power exchange nonetheless.

Sincerely,

lil_d aka Mommy's princess

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/6/2004 11:06:10 PM

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Pro mommies do blow away pro dominants though, when it comes to compensation.

Very true, Gloria...and there is a definite reason for this, ABBOY4U. For many Mistresses (not all!) AB play may be distasteful, and it is often messy. You can find the Dommes who will have the necessary equipment (i.e. oversized crib, playpen, diapers, bottles and so much more) I have done AB play in session,. and I don't mind it...in fact it can be a lot of fun a limited period of time. An AB will generally pay a bit more in session, if only to compensate for the extra clean-up time.
But My honest take on it is this: I have raised My children, and it was hard work. I don't want another baby/child. This is a valid fetish, and also a valid power exchange activity, but not one that interests Me on more than a very limited basis. From your profile information, it would appear that you are seeking a 24/7 live-in relationship to be a permanent adult baby. you are honestly listing your interests in the areas of infantilism, enemas, spanking and of course, long term orgasm denial. I am sure there is someone out there for you. But you will need to be patient and look hard.

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/7/2004 9:58:01 AM

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Greetings,

ABBOY - Since when did anything in life, particularly this Lifestyle, come with a set of well-defined rules of engagement? Just like anything else in life take your interests, blend them into the combination that works best for you and find someone who'd like to fit into that mix with you. You don't have to ask permission to live your life the way you see fit since you're the only one that will be held accountable for it in the long run!

Well wishes!

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RE: AB lifestyle is it d/s or? - 12/8/2004 9:02:50 AM

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Age play is indeed a fetish. Some who participate are called "littles". It can run the gambit from infantilism to boys/bois and girls/gurls. Here is a nice article:

http://www.eros-guide.com/articles/2004-04-20/mommykatt/

And here is a list of age play resources:
http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=res&uid=default&category=AGE/INFANTILISM+PLAY&view_records=View+Records

But, don't forget, Dominants can be littles too. We are spoiled and get what we want, when we want (which is, for me, usually while I'm coloring). It's total role play for me...and a release into something more innocent and just fun. I can relax and be a kid that is free of all the shit I was dealing with when I was really that age.

Fire
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