Poly Families (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Polyamorous Lifestyles



Message

Thordom -> Poly Families (4/8/2004 6:05:47 AM)

Looking to start a poly family here in Virgina. Whats the pro's and con's of opening one? And is there anyone out there interested in helping me start one?



MistressDREAD -> RE: Poly Families (4/8/2004 7:38:41 AM)

I would be happy to discuss with You how MY Poly Family works and what pro's and con's I have faced in it. I will let You know that I am from a Third Generational Poly Family and Group and can give not only information on how My Poly Family works but also how that of My Parents Family Core Poly Family worked and My Granparents Poly Family worked and what as an Adult I seen even as a child growing up in such and what I perveive as a positive or negitive point of View. Our Familys Poly Practices and BDSM Practices go back farther then three generations but these are the only ones that I personally have had contact with and interacted with in from My lifes beginning. You can find Me in the Profiles under My name.

[image]local://upfiles/9526/550F320E8D05408E85BBBE4A128FCAB9.jpg[/image]



sub4hire -> RE: Poly Families (4/8/2004 11:07:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD

I would be happy to discuss with You how MY Poly Family works and what pro's and con's I have faced in it. I will let You know that I am from a Third Generational Poly Family and Group and can give not only information on how My Poly Family works but also how that of My Parents Family Core Poly Family worked and My Granparents Poly Family worked and what as an Adult I seen even as a child growing up in such and what I perveive as a positive or negitive point of View. Our Familys Poly Practices and BDSM Practices go back farther then three generations but these are the only ones that I personally have had contact with and interacted with in from My lifes beginning. You can find Me in the Profiles under My name.

[image]local://upfiles/9526/550F320E8D05408E85BBBE4A128FCAB9.jpg[/image]



Dread,
Could you exolain it here? Actually I have heard of poly relationships working. Yet in real life I have never seen one last more than a year and a half. How long has your's lasted?
What's happens when jealousy enters the scene?
How do you cope day to day?



masterdstar -> RE: Poly Families (4/9/2004 11:39:07 AM)

As I'm sure the Mistress can tell you it CAN work and when it does it is a wonderful, beautiful thing...BUT it never just happens. It is work and a lot of it. Coping is not what you need to be doing :-) I have found that if this is just about sex it will not last, also something, IMO, you need to determine and state right upfront is if this is open ended (a series of Family Members come and go) or it is poly-fidelious ( faithful to and only wit the members in the Family). I would also love to hear anything and everything from a 3rd generation poly such as M. DREAD
enjoy your wonder-filled day,
MDS



inyouagain -> RE: Poly Families (4/9/2004 1:43:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Thordom

Looking to start a poly family here in Virgina. Whats the pro's and con's of opening one? And is there anyone out there interested in helping me start one?

You need to be much more familiar with the pro's and con's BEFORE you plan to start a poly family. Looks like you have it backwards... as you have a plan, but no info or participants for your plan???

You might consider talking to people who state they enjoy polyamorous relationships. Your post infers you are seeking to hear from interested poly folks to help you start your poly family... that's often referred to as trolling, especially when you have only this one post on the board. [8|]

Inyouagain



MistressDREAD -> RE: Poly Families (4/9/2004 2:42:20 PM)

since when did asking for help become trolling?
LOL! I took Thordom's request for assistance in
this type of lifestyle and I offered sum assistance.
Any one whom has a honest desire to gain info on
this I am willing to help however My Familys Privacy will
be kept and I am not about to plaster details of My private
Home and Practice in public for everyone else's enjoyment.
My Poly Home has been running for 28 years now and it is a
open end Poly structure first controled by Two Masters and One
Mistress and now continues to be run by One Mistress with
the other Two Masters with in the relationship passed away.
We have Posessed between the Three of Us 26 slaves sum long
term sum short term over that time. I am the sole supporter now
of My Poly Homes presently and those with in My Home work with
in My Businesses and outside to support the Home and structure as
have for many years there. I was legally married to One Master
for 27 years and married to the Other Master for 13 years at
the same time but with out the legal paper, losing the 13 year
relationship first to death then the second to same. I have been
single for allmost 6 years now. I have 8 grown children whom were
brought up successfully in My Home alone with 13 children of
slaves with in My Home. I currently have 4 slaves whom are over
the age of 60 and whom I now care for in their ailing health, one
My belovid first boy whom suffered a stroke four years ago named
dread. I am now here in the USA starting a new Poly Home as well
from the ground up. 7 of My children are Dominant and 1 suplicant.



wolfsong -> RE: Poly Families (4/10/2004 9:37:58 AM)

This one has spent time in the Mormon faith and has seen poly relationships that have worked and failed. The main objective for any family is to work together the same goes for a poly relationship.
1 set your goals and objectives
2 list what you seek in your potentional family members
3 carefully seek and screen potiential members
( you need to seek ones who are not the jealous or ones always seeking to be the
center of attention.)

This one has been told she makes the perfect canidate for a mistress or a polymate as she seeks to please and feels no need for jealousy( sorry my spelling is so bad) .

If this one has spoken out of place she is sorry just voicing my opion[sm=kiss.gif]



iwillserveu -> RE: Poly Families (4/10/2004 11:05:02 AM)

Dread is right, sort of.

Although the original post can be seen as looking for volunteers to join the poly family he wants to start, it can also be read as a request for information on poly families. The last sentence can be a request for information on starting one. (Yeah, it needs a whole lot of slack cut, so? [:D])

Give the guy the benefit of a doubt.

Dread,

I’m still not a supplicant. [:)]



Voltare -> RE: Poly Families (4/10/2004 12:12:46 PM)

I think I wrote a lengthy intro to poly a couple months back, though I think it was eaten when the forum moved to this site.

In short, try http://www.polyamory.org/ for an excellent resource on poly lifestyles.

My own perspective, is many choose to pursue poly relationships because they are uncomfortable with intimacy, and thus seek to be part of a group, to have social interaction, without actually having to contribute emotionally. Instead of seeking to start a 'poly' house, perhaps starting with a triad, i.e. a base couple, then adding a third partner, before investing in a 6 bedroom, 4 bath house to house 20 people in.

Just my thoughts, best of luck to you in your endeavor.Stephan



zuchtstute1969 -> RE: Poly Families (4/15/2004 9:44:59 AM)

please contact U/us. Mistress DREAD. zuchstute tried to email Madam, but was unsuccessful.



LadyBeckett -> RE: Poly Families (4/15/2004 11:17:12 AM)

I am going to disagree with you on one point here, and that is:
quote:

many choose to pursue poly relationships because they are uncomfortable with intimacy, and thus seek to be part of a group
I have found, in my personal experience, that it isn't a discomfort with intimacy at all, but a desire for more intimacy. There are other factors involved, of course, but I wanted to address that.

I also wanted to address jealousy. Those in the polyamorous lifestyle practice what is called "compersion" which is the opposite of jealousy. I think it is pretty much human nature to be possessive. That "mine" attitude, or to feel a little bit left out when we see someone we love experiencing that nre (new relationship energy) with someone else. I use the word communication a lot, and it really comes into play here. Like Mistress Dread (the more I read, the more I realize she and I have a LOT in common lol) I have always been Poly. For those of us who have always been Poly and/or BDSM or D/s, it is not "second nature" it is actually a way of life, simply understood.

p.s. I didn't think he was trolling either.



Thordom -> RE: Poly Families (4/18/2004 2:33:29 PM)

You've assumed way too much, no one else seemed to assume this so far. I am thinking about it and collecting pro's and con's, by help is just that, asking questions. Just because I have one post does not make me unfamiliar with the secene or lifestyle. I am usually in the lobby chatroom making friends, not trolling. But, I will Thank you for being so concerned and take it as a helpful hint.

Peace



Thordom -> RE: Poly Families (4/18/2004 2:35:14 PM)

Thank you for your support I also answered this troll accusation but hadn't finished reading the thread, so again Thank you.



Thordom -> RE: Poly Families (4/18/2004 2:36:37 PM)

Thanks, more for me to think about at the deeper emotional level.



stormiKnightBEAR -> RE: Poly Families (4/19/2004 6:37:46 AM)

ThorDom Sir,

Poly families can work but they are hard work in the beginning.
There is currently 3 of us in this house hold and at times it's
trying. But the thing that makes it all worth while is that all of us
are still here a year later and that all of STILL want to be here.
We have our ups and downs. As Master's slave, it's hard at times
if there is a disagreement for the slave not to jump in at HIS defense.
It's a lesson that's been hard to learn and very hard to keep pace from
at times.
My instinct is to protect and make sure that nothing happens that would
put Master in a bad light.

Many best wishes to you in the path that you chose. Please feel free to
contact stormi or Master anytime if you would like to chat one on one about
the poly here. We have some great resources to fall back on sometimes.

stormi
property of Master Bear.

P.S. not that it's any of my business..... but it seems from going thru all the post
on the board that the only person doing *trolling* on a regular basis is inyouagain.
Not sure that anyone can be considered trolling when they are seeking advice/guidance,
or knowledge............ wow .........wonder if inyouagain has considered printing a rule
book/page so we know what is correct in HIS opinion. OOoooooh but wait, inyouagain is
doing nothing BUT making the JUDGEMENT calls HIMSELF!!!



inyouagain -> RE: Poly Families (4/19/2004 1:52:40 PM)

FYI stormi, the board guidelines/rules have been published since the board started (for all board members to read), and yes they do still apply, no one is making up rules.

Message Board Guidelines/Rules

I stand by my point, and if you are not trolling you would appreciate the board guidelines like other members do once reminded there are in fact rules here. Those who do not appreciate or acknowledge the "pool rules" usually don't intend to abide by them anyway and have a tendency to dive right in and make a big splash. While this is very creative, it pays to find out which is the deep end of the pool before making your head first leap.

Thank you for your ill advised opinion, and good luck in finding your Master's Domme wife a male sub. Sorry to hear about your life's circumstances, they are indeed unfortunate and it is good for you that you were surrounded by caring people, some don't have that benefit.

If you wish to accuse me of trolling, then it's obvious you don't know whats happening on this board around you, and simply speaking "knee-jerk" defensively and not intelligently. If you can find ANY troll post on this message board from me, please quote it here. I won't hold my breath, there are none.

Inyouagain



inyouagain -> RE: Poly Families (4/19/2004 1:57:52 PM)

Thank you Thordom. I appreciate your appreciating the nature of my comment, and wish you the best in your poly family goals.

Inyouagain



blue^elf -> RE: Poly Families (4/19/2004 3:27:19 PM)

I think the topic of poly families is interesting. I have to admit that I have absolutely no expecience with it, other than that I have talked a tiny bit online with a couple of people who live in such relationships. I don't know if a poly family would work for me, but... it does fascinate me. I suppose I am a kind of "family person", for good or bad. (Sorry if that sounds silly.) So it would be interesting to talk with someone who has experience with it.

My impression so far is that many people are fascinated by poly relationships, but that it really doesn't work for many people who try it. At least not in the long run. Maybe people have too big expectations about it, or maybe jealousy creeps in too easily... I don't know. I can get jealous, that's why I don't feel sure if a poly relationship would work for me. But if one could manage to not get jealous... I am fascinated, I'll easily admit that.



stormiKnightBEAR -> RE: Poly Families (4/19/2004 5:04:41 PM)

<yawning>....... you might consider getting in touch with Cajun bass boats for all the expertise you have in trolling. It is surely a trait you could profit from with your vast and totally biased opinions and the fishermen could benefit from it as well.
LOL



ProDomme -> RE: Poly Families (4/19/2004 5:12:48 PM)

http://www.collarme.com/forum/Top_10_perverta_ID%27s/m_5634/tm.htm


quote:

If you can find ANY troll post on this message board from me, please quote it here. I won't hold my breath



Page: [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Collarchat.com is a member of the Free Speech Coalition
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
3.515625E-02