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MistressSteele -> RE: Romance and Domination (5/15/2004 12:09:32 PM)

I personally feel that you cannot fully submit if you do not love your Master or Mistress and the same goes for the Dominants as well. To surrender you must be able to trust them with your whole being. Also I think Love is needed for any relationship to last long term.

Just my .02

Mistress Steele



original_sin -> RE: Romance and Domination (5/18/2004 2:17:50 AM)

I sometimes feel I dont belong in the 'lifestyle' as I want to find someone with whom I can have the best of both worlds .... I want to be with someone who I love first, and who is a Dom secondly. I cannot let myself truly be submissive with someone unless they inspire the feelings of submission in me .. which is only usually once I am completely besotted with them and WANT to submit to them. Being a brat, its hard for me to be submissive at the best of times [:D]

So if my Dom sent me those flowers with that note, my knees would go weak and by the time he got home that night there would be a 3 course meal home cooked and me all grovelly and subby, waiting to fawn over him in gratitude.

If S/HE gains pleasure from making you happy, there is nothing un-Domly about it whatsoever.

Blessed be [:)]



sweetieboop -> RE: Romance and Domination (5/18/2004 9:29:51 AM)

I haven't read all the posts on this, but I'm curious why most of the ones that I have read, assume that showing affection and appreciation is a weakness. I would feel wonderful if my Master sent me flowers (only I like white roses. LOL!) and a note like that. I wouldn't even consider the thought of it being a weakness. I would think of it as a reminder of what I mean to him. Personally, it's a wonderful feeling when I know that my Master is proud of me, or appreciates me, or loves me for who I am. Knowing that I can please him doesn't make me want to take advantage of him. It just makes me want to please him more.



SylverWolf -> RE: Romance and Domination (5/23/2004 7:07:54 PM)

From a Dominant who views Dominance and submission as a multi-pieced jigsaw puzzle, I feel the roses would be a symbol of love, respect, and affection for the submissive (or slave) in question, and not a sign of weakness. To me, being a Dominant is not (only) being a hard-ass, forcing control or showing only a hard, controlling exterior. The human side of each of us should be embraced and shown, for better or worse.

Just my thoughts, thank you,



SylverWolf -> RE: Romance and Domination (5/23/2004 7:09:09 PM)

And a well-written .02 it is, thank you for the mirror to my thoughts, Mistress Steele


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSteele

I personally feel that you cannot fully submit if you do not love your Master or Mistress and the same goes for the Dominants as well. To surrender you must be able to trust them with your whole being. Also I think Love is needed for any relationship to last long term.

Just my .02

Mistress Steele



ShadeDiva -> RE: Romance and Domination (5/23/2004 8:21:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetieboop
I haven't read all the posts on this, but I'm curious why most of the ones that I have read, assume that showing affection and appreciation is a weakness. I would feel wonderful if my Master sent me flowers (only I like white roses. LOL!) and a note like that. I wouldn't even consider the thought of it being a weakness. I would think of it as a reminder of what I mean to him. Personally, it's a wonderful feeling when I know that my Master is proud of me, or appreciates me, or loves me for who I am. Knowing that I can please him doesn't make me want to take advantage of him. It just makes me want to please him more.


I think that says it all right there.

He's a lucky man. *smile*

I know I know, the normal response is to say "Actually *I'm* the lucky one" but there isn't a need to say that cuz you already did with your post, hehehe, I just wanted to say HE was lucky too, and I'm quite sure that he is aware of that.

~ShadeDiva



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