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RE: What is reasonable from your sub? - 10/10/2004 8:19:52 AM

theroebabe

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Hi Russ and well as mentioned by so many, take care of yourself first.

No you did not mention her propensity to lie.

And after what you posted i would say this, let her go. She might give you something that you need, but with that type of attitude sheesh why bother making yourself crazy over her. get better and then find the one that gives you all of what you need.

Good luck and take care of yorself first!

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RE: What is reasonable from your sub? - 10/10/2004 9:01:01 AM

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quote:

Are Doms always perfect, do we never make a mistake?

I know some 'Doms' who think they are perfect...the Reality is that they are not...this kinda goes without saying. *shrugz*

As far as making mistakes: Dominants are human too...they make mistakes. The defining factor in those mistakes is how they choose to deal with it. Own up to the mistake and move on....Do the Next "Right" thing. Make sure Your actions speak even louder than Your words.

I have my own views on the rest of the post...but those are neither here 'nor there. You are going to do what You are going to do....to each their own.

It's Sunday and i have not had near enough coffee yet...

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RE: What is reasonable from your sub? - 10/10/2004 7:56:55 PM

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Tal, DaddyDom...

if You made the best choice You could with the information You had... that's all anyone can ask...

if the situation has changed such that You believe the relationship can continue, My answer is once... if she's going to continue to berate You in spite of Your Honest belief that You were doing the best thing for her... then mebbe letting her go is in fact best...

all relationships have to be able to move forward, through mistakes, aches, pains, and heartaches... if she can't, then there is nothing left to do...

I wish You well,

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RE: What is reasonable from your sub? - 10/10/2004 8:32:24 PM

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Did I mention that she has a propensity to lie?

IMHO You don't need the added stress of a lying sub while you are dealing with your health issues. You need all the support you can get. Maybe a more mature trusting sub could be part of your support circle. My first r/l Dom had quad bypass while i was with Him. We didn't play for over 2 months after his surgery, but i did give him all the support i could by visiting and takaing walks with Him while He recovered. Somehow i can't see your current sub doing that. Hope it goes well for you.

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RE: What is reasonable from your sub? - 10/10/2004 9:29:33 PM

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Was this "lil girl" who was less than a month into a live-in relationship with you willing to emotionally support you and put up with the trials of a DaddyDom going through a serious medical crisis? As a DaddyDom, was He willing to allow this, or did He make the decision and now is being emotionally blackmailed? I honestly don't know what I would do if I found I had cancer. Communication, of course, is appropriate, and I mean big long heavy communication. If she can't handle it, then let her go. If You can't handle it, then let her go.
I would hope if I had an LTR, either way, the emotional support and love would be there. Of course, less than a month is not LTR. I knew a Dom whose slave of many years died in his arms. They never left each other.
she has only been with you less than a month? 19 years old? I am so sorry this is happening, but DaddyDom needs emotional support right now. It isn't a matter of how you treat her. It seems you had the right intentions, albeit, these intentions have been twisted around. IMHO, it is a matter of how she is treating you.
Let her go.

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