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RE: Your thoughts? - 3/8/2006 8:51:34 AM

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Have you ever found the complete connection right away with someone and just knew that they were the "one"? i did, or so i thought i did, but maybe i am just jumping to conclusions. i met a man on here whom i thought was the missing piece. i took a chance, went up to meet him. we hit it off almost instantaneously. it was amazing how things went. we talked about me moving with him and such, i know it sounds crazy, but that isn't my problem. i thought it was mutual on both sides, and as far as i know, it is still. but in the last two days, after i got home of course, he speaks to me less. now, the man told me he loved me and i returned the feelings, but i'm wondering if i should be worried that something just isn't quite right. i do realize that i will get alot of criticism on the moving quickly thing and what not, but am looking for honest opinions please on the situation. maybe i didn't let him chase me...*shrugs*

Although it's not a BDSM book, there's a book i would recommend to anyone here who "falls" fast. i've done it hundreds of times and have painfully learned that second guessing, mind reading, considering all possible reasons, and any other mind fuck games we play with ourselves never work. The fact is if the guy is not acting like he's really into you, then he's just not that into you. And that's the name of the book "He's Just Not That Into You."

The most intelligent, logical and reasonable people seem to go whacko (myself included), when we meet "the ONE". Personally i love knowing i'm wanted and important and necessary and valued. The only way i've found to know that is by waiting to see if that's the message He's giving me - not in His words, in His actions. If He's saying "I love you, i adore you", but acting like you're the last thing on His mind, then move on baby.

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RE: Your thoughts? - 3/8/2006 10:10:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: verianah

but in the last two days, after i got home of course, he speaks to me less. now, the man told me he loved me and i returned the feelings, but i'm wondering if i should be worried that something just isn't quite right.

Usually when I get a feeling that things are not quite right.. They're usually not. Trust your insincts. There can be several reasons why as others stated he could be just in shock and adjusting. So be patient.

Its also true that in the heat of the moment.. he got all caught up in the excitement.. and now that you're not there he's just not that into you.

Have you mentioned your concerns? I know others mentioned his "dom drop".. but I'm also wondering about you. Are you bumming from the easing "rush" you felt while you were with him? and now you feel you need him all the time.. aka you want that "rush" back?

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ORIGINAL: verianah
maybe i didn't let him chase me...*shrugs*

Umm.. I don't even want to get into playing games... its not a good way to start. Think more on just being yourself and less on strategy. If he really loves YOU for yourself, he will come around. If not, you're better off without him.

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RE: Your thoughts? - 3/8/2006 3:03:28 PM

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you really haven't said much of your situation.. so really what is there to comment on?

Maybe you feelings of doubt?

Take a good look at those feelings.... where are they coming from? In the quiet darkness away from distraction... listen to those gut feelings! They are telling you something and it would be prudent to slow down and learn what they are telling you. In the end, you just might go forward and eveything will be wonderful, but the opposite is just as likely.

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