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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 4:24:13 PM   
KnightofMists


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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 4:44:45 PM   
Aileen68


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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 4:54:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: proudsub

None from CM. I have met about 20 all across the country from pogo.com, and i have plans to meet a few from my South Beach message board.



Pogo.com?... and BDSM?... thinks this ones been playing wrong games over there... lmao

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 4:58:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

None from CM. I have met about 20 all across the country from pogo.com, and i have plans to meet a few from my South Beach message board.



Pogo.com?... and BDSM?... thinks this ones been playing wrong games over there... lmao


i don't know about that, i am trying for a tumble bees badge and it is definately torture.

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 5:39:40 PM   
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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 5:45:32 PM   
angelic


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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 5:46:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: truesub4u




Pogo.com?... and BDSM?... thinks this ones been playing wrong games over there... lmao


LOL true, that's funny.

Haven't met anyone from here.

i am finding it oddly curious, however, how many people would do a background check and yet how many won't do references. Not necessarily the same people, but such overwhelming numbers on each option. i am perplexed!

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 6:23:35 PM   
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There are several that are planning to travel here to Nashville to watch me drive nails through a scrotum!!!

Sorry, I do have to keep bringing that up, for one very fun reason.


i get such warm fuzzies every time i read it....

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 6:58:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I dont do references nor use folks, but I do believe in networking and people helping peolpe.. When and If I can do a trip to the US i will take up all the offers to meet and coffee /dring good peat smokes single maly whisky and generally make new friends face to face.... Same with a trip to the UK... That would be something very special.

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 7:38:14 PM   
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I'm of the opinion that we aren't interviewing for a job here. So I really don't look to have someone as a references. If a person I'm talking to need references and we're looking at a relationship that will be more then just passing friends then obviously this person has baggage. Since I only deal with baggage when I'm traveling and only if it's mine, I'm not going to deal with this persons baggage. They can come back and try again when they're better equiped to handle a relationship on an adult level.

If we're just looking at being friends and they need references then I tell them "Don't let the door hit ya where the Lord split ya on your way out." This isn't a popularity contest.

MrDiscipine


Just an aside to the Dom i quoted: emotional baggage is part and parcel of being human and accumulates over time. I only object when a Man has negative patterns he uses to "handle" this aspect of his life. Most people are able to find positive ways, and make wonderful ADULT friends and lovers.

As for the Op:

If i gave references it might not be lifestyle people, since i've only known about D/s for 2 years, but it would be people i've know 20, 30 years. i think the idea of references is sound; helps a little to replace the "neighborhood" we all think existed, where people knew one another & looked out for one another. Just try to think of Yourself as a whole person. Many people in Your life can, e.g., attest to Your integrity.

Lastly STILL looking for coffee buddies in Cleveland, Ohio. *sigh*. We evidentially are a shy bunch here.

candystripper

< Message edited by candystripper -- 3/3/2006 7:49:13 PM >

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 8:27:29 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper
Just an aside to the Dom i quoted: emotional baggage is part and parcel of being human and accumulates over time. I only object when a Man has negative patterns he uses to "handle" this aspect of his life. Most people are able to find positive ways, and make wonderful ADULT friends and lovers.

candystripper

I'm not sure why it is that you feel the need to follow my posts in threads and respond to them, candy, but alright. I'll play this little game. LOL

I don't know if you really realize it, but other then a slight difference on what we probably consider baggage, we actually are in agreement on this point. What you said above is what I meant by they could come back and try again when they are ready to handle the relationship on an adult level.

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 8:39:40 PM   
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i don't know about that, i am trying for a tumble bees badge and it is definately torture.


psst.. the letters only have to be touching any other part of the word and not next to each other for your words to be accepted, so use the 's' and 'ed' and 'er' letters to extend the words even if they are not touching your last letter.
;)

Celeste

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 10:42:23 PM   
candystripper


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I don't know if you really realize it, but other then a slight difference on what we probably consider baggage, we actually are in agreement on this point. What you said above is what I meant by they could come back and try again when they are ready to handle the relationship on an adult level.

MrDiscipline


Not following YOU, Sir, just Your interesting ideas. You correctly assessed the ssituation; i took what You said to mean a person could have no baggage whatsoever, not in how it was managed.

Good to know W/we agree.

candystripper

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 11:26:58 PM   
orfunboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

i don't know about that, i am trying for a tumble bees badge and it is definately torture.


psst.. the letters only have to be touching any other part of the word and not next to each other for your words to be accepted, so use the 's' and 'ed' and 'er' letters to extend the words even if they are not touching your last letter.
;)

Celeste


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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/3/2006 11:59:21 PM   
SimplyV


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Status: offline 		Well I've met/know 8 people? That I know of anyway. Half of which won't remember meeting me in the first place. One isn't really even on here anymore though his profile is. Another is so rarely here, that she might as well delete her profile. Another keeps changing his ID on here as if the mafia is out to get him (or maybe he's just hiding from me.. hmm)

I've been doing the meet people from online .. for like 10 yrs now. If I feel the need for references, then something is fishy and its just safer to stay home.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
I'm of the opinion that we aren't interviewing for a job here. So I really don't look to have someone as a references. If a person I'm talking to need references and we're looking at a relationship that will be more then just passing friends then obviously this person has baggage. Since I only deal with baggage when I'm traveling and only if it's mine, I'm not going to deal with this persons baggage. They can come back and try again when they're better equiped to handle a relationship on an adult level.


What? you mean I'm not just supposed to show up with my moving truck and a list of references?

quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
This isn't a popularity contest.


*runs to stop the order for her tiara*

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/4/2006 12:06:52 AM   
krikket


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ORIGINAL: orfunboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

None from CM. I have met about 20 all across the country from pogo.com, and i have plans to meet a few from my South Beach message board.


just about there on tumbleweed, now i have to do squishies for my prsonal badge..lol (OT, sorry about that..lol)

i know a few on here i wouldn't mind giving them a reference strictly as a person and a friend, but mostly i don't do the reference thing either. How do you tell someone yes, and another """no way in hell""" -- and knowing my luck, they'd be meeting each other..oy!!!

What i am always pleased and touched (when asked) is to be someone safe call. That says a great deal about our relationship...and one i treasure.

Happy Saturday, y'all...

jimini



Pogo.com?... and BDSM?... thinks this ones been playing wrong games over there... lmao


i don't know about that, i am trying for a tumble bees badge and it is definately torture.




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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/4/2006 1:27:30 AM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper
Just an aside to the Dom i quoted: emotional baggage is part and parcel of being human and accumulates over time. I only object when a Man has negative patterns he uses to "handle" this aspect of his life. Most people are able to find positive ways, and make wonderful ADULT friends and lovers.

candystripper

I'm not sure why it is that you feel the need to follow my posts in threads and respond to them, candy, but alright. I'll play this little game. LOL

I don't know if you really realize it, but other then a slight difference on what we probably consider baggage, we actually are in agreement on this point. What you said above is what I meant by they could come back and try again when they are ready to handle the relationship on an adult level.


Probably my friend, because you don't talk shit or trash talk people.. You have demonstrated honour, integrety and common sence. Makes your posts worthy of following or agreeing with even if some times it is to agree to disagree.

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/4/2006 3:11:37 AM   
ScooterTrash


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

If someone specifically asks me about someone...I will certainly be honest with them. However, I will only make commentary on those I know well enough to do so....and I won't get into the "Well...I heard....." or "So and so told me". I will also not say anything to someone else that I would not feel comfortable in saying if the person being discussed were standing right before me.


Pretty much ditto here too (hi erin), I know a half dozen or so personally, that have a profile on collar-me, and generally only offer information if I'm given a heads up that they offered me as a reference. Even then I limit the information to basics unless asked to do otherwise, like yes I know them and yes they are real. If someone expresses interest in visiting, we usually do offer a contact, like the moderator of our local munch group as a reference, just so they do know a real life person that will say that we are, who we say we are. Not sure how much that really proves actually, but it's better than them thinking we don't know anyone.

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/4/2006 4:12:31 AM   
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psst.. the letters only have to be touching any other part of the word and not next to each other for your words to be accepted, so use the 's' and 'ed' and 'er' letters to extend the words even if they are not touching your last letter.
;)

Celeste


I never realized that. Shit...now I'm going to get hooked on Tumble Bees again.

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RE: How many people do you know on collarme for real an... - 3/4/2006 4:48:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL:
What? you mean I'm not just supposed to show up with my moving truck and a list of references?



That only works for lesbians, but if i remember correctly you bring the u-haul on the second date....

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