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RE: My master just passed - 3/2/2006 8:19:00 AM

foxglove716

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verry sorry Edward. I know any advice I could give would be pretty useless, as I have never gone through this. I've lost a lover, but never a master, which magnifies things. Im not going to tell you to be strong, because if you put on that facade and never feel the spectrum of pain you will never get through it. Go slowly. Take your time, as this time is about *you* now. I think I speak for everyone that has posted when I say feel free to contact us if you feel like talking, venting, etc.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/2/2006 10:54:28 AM

kassiaethne

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there is one thing that helps me that i will tell you. stay busy. very busy. as in fall into bed so exusted you cant think. and only let yourself think about it only at most an hour a day.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/2/2006 10:56:02 AM

kassiaethne

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kassiaethne

there is one thing that helps me that i will tell you. stay busy. very busy. as in fall into bed so exusted you cant think. and only let yourself think about it only at most an hour a day

...well thats two things but still they have helped me. my Master wasnt the only one to die last year for me. 4 other friends died before him. and one was raped who later killed herself this year. so these are two things that i do to not just...give up. i hope they help you too

< Message edited by kassiaethne -- 3/2/2006 10:57:10 AM >

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RE: My master just passed - 3/2/2006 11:39:31 AM

mons

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edward

i am deeply sorry to hear of you loss i loss my sister some years ago not the same but the pain is so great i pray for you,please take care

with regret

mons

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Huge update - 3/4/2006 4:44:02 PM

EasyE

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Well it is amazing how life works out. I emailed my master one last time hoping his family would hear my condolences. As it turns out his fellow master brother intercepted this email.

Here is what I got back:

"hello boy

It is true from an accident.

I have read the messages between you and My Brother and He and I have talked
about you. I know that you are his slave boy. If you don't already know,
slaves are property and passed on as such. Therefore you are now mine as
well as the pics you have already sent.

I will address you as boy. you will address Me as MASTER or MASTER JAMES.
you will always capitalize these when you email. I will continue mailing
you from My Brothers address rather than converting you to My own.

<OMIT>

My brother liked you. He thought of you as being much more than a slave.
It shows in His emails and whenever he spoke of you. To Me, you are nothing
but a slave to be used. Had you not belonged to My Brother, I would have
turned you into a whore, begging for more and more sex. But in honor of My
Brother I will find someone who will take you where My Brother would have.
Make no mistake, I expect your full obedience to Me until I find you a
Master. you will acknowledge My message as soon as you get it. Because of
the times I see that you have sent your emails I know that you are online
everyday.

I wait for your reply and pics.

I just opened your second message. Maybe My Brother was right about you.
Maybe you do deserve more than slavery. Not mine to judge or know but I
will see that you have a Master by the end of April.

MASTER"

Wish me luck. This Master seems to be from a different school of thought but respects what his brother had going. I hope this will be a positive change. At least now I have someone I can talk to (thanks all that extended their compasion and friendship).

Edward

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 4:52:50 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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I am so glad when I adopt a "wait and see" method on threads sometimes- even if that perspective comes from a cynical/realistic/"this is probably all cyber games and overloaded unrealistic drama" perspective.

That way, when I'm wrong, I can feel good about the world, and when I'm right, I can feel good about myself. It always works out well.

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 3/4/2006 4:53:31 PM >

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 5:08:45 PM

ShadeDiva

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Um - just to interject a dose of reality here in regard to the brother's reply (and I am going to respond here as if I am giving the "brother" the benefit of the doubt):

quote:

If you don't already know,
slaves are property and passed on as such. Therefore you are now mine as
well as the pics you have already sent.

Is total bs unless YOU feel that way as well.

That is NOT the across-the-board generic default way dominants/masters handle their slaves in case they die. SOME do. Many do NOT. Unless your owner discussed this with you - you will not truthfully know if that is how he viewed things.

Only listen to this guy if you decide to make that choice. You did not consent to this fellow OR this situation unless you agreed to this possiblity when your owner was still alive and EVEN THEN if you do not agree with it now, please know you can decide to find your own way undeer your own steam.

Smells fishy to me, and I'd not agree to be passed over to a stranger no matter how much I trusted my dominant.

But that is just me.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 5:21:30 PM

michaelGA

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i agree with You ShadeDiva. EasyE, i realize that you are still at a crossroads due to your loss...but i believe that, with the death of you Master, your obligation died with Him. i don't mean to sound harsh, but if there was no written contract regarding the passing on of you as your Master's property, then you are free to seek your own Master...in due time...

you need time to grieve and reflect on things for your future

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 7:15:30 PM

krikket

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Hug, hon...i am truly sorry for your loss. It's natural to feel lost, sad, angry, depressed, and a whole host of other feelings right now, and it's okay to feel them. Just because y'all hadn't met doesn't mean the love or the loss is any less real. Like RavenMuse (and others) have already said, it's best not to look for another right away. The grieving process takes time, and it's a wise man who allows himself the time needed.

Please feel free to write if you need to as i'll always be happy to listen to the sorrow and venting we all need at a time of loss.

Good luck...

jimini

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 8:34:48 PM

HoosierScorpio

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Please accept my condolence for your loss and allot time to heal your wound you feel for you lost. I know some do not understand that you can build a deep bond with some one you never physically meet yet. Both your sprits touch and became one as Master and slave but you need to recouped and go through the grieving process before you look for another Master.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 8:35:16 PM

SimplyV

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShadeDiva

quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE
If you don't already know,
slaves are property and passed on as such. Therefore you are now mine as
well as the pics you have already sent.

Smells fishy to me, and I'd not agree to be passed over to a stranger no matter how much I trusted my dominant.

Smells fishy to me too.. If he was to be passed on to someone else... then his deceased master should have cleared that.

To me, sounds like someone's greedy and feeding upon a greiving sub.

If I was EasyE.. I'd be running like the wind.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 10:18:41 PM

BitaTruble

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quote:

To me, sounds like someone's greedy and feeding upon a greiving sub.

Hmm.. sounds like something completely different to me.

Celeste

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 10:34:30 PM

angelic

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EasyE: first i am very sorry for your loss, you need time to grieve before doing anything. Second, as to the "brother".... as another has suggested, run like the wind... don't walk, don't saunter, don't trot... run like the fucking wind. You have no idea who is actually on the other side of 'his" screen. BE CAREFUL. If i could put that in big neon flashing red letters i would.

Take time to grieve, but DO NOT engage this brother any longer. This is of course just my opinion.

Again, my deepest sympathy to you.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 11:25:46 PM

slave4Darby3d

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Dearest EasyE

My sympathy at your loss. But, to heal you need to allow yourself some time. Out of respect for your Master, and caring for yourself, you may want to hold off searching for another just yet.

You are not alone... you are all one.

And, as for the brother, please really think about this. It doesn't seem right - there is something very off there and i feel like caution, or avoidance, is safest for you. I am a slave myself. I know that you NEED to be owned by someone - but just not anyone. You and your Master chose each other. You are a consensual slave. There is not legality, or propriety either, in his brother laying claim to you. My internal alarm went off. Doesn't sound like dear brother has the sensitivity to greive or that quality that attracted you to your Master. If your Master never mentioned his brother there may be a reason why...

< Message edited by slave4Darby3d -- 3/4/2006 11:34:44 PM >

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RE: My master just passed - 3/4/2006 11:31:50 PM

submission22

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i said it in an earlier email..and now it rings even more clear. Something smells fishy...does anyone else feel this way? to the OP i know you are in pain and cannot see it but you are being played and in a major way....please do not send this individual anymore personal information about yourself. Get away from this person as he is playing games with you. Good luck.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/5/2006 5:44:18 AM

conflicted

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Hi EasyE,
i'm so very sorry to hear of your loss, however i am with the other posters here about "the brother"
i understand that his offer may have made you happy, but really i believe your emotions are still very high, and the prospect of having a "link" to your Master through his brother is something that has given you hope.
Perhaps you believe that you will "see" your Master in the brother.......but then again maybe you wont!!
Did your Master ever speak of His brother to you? Or did He ever mention that His brother was also a Master?
If not, i would be very wary.
Please take care, i think now is the time to think with your head, and not your heart.

n
xxx

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RE: My master just passed - 3/5/2006 7:38:28 AM

submission22

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honestly i would ask the brother for a copy of the obituary. How does the OP know its even the brother, and for that matter how does he know his Master had died to begin with. It all smelled fishy to me from the beginning. To the OP i am truly sorry that any of this is happening to you...but please before you start grieving, find out all the facts. Just because someone o/l claims to be family of your Master doesn't mean it is true. Call the local papers where your Master lives and get an obituary..some kind of confirmation. I wish you luck with this.

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RE: Huge update - 3/5/2006 7:48:19 AM

RavenMuse

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Your choise of course but the whole tone of that sounds WRONG to me, looks far more like a predator than a brother who just lost someone close.

Even if he is who he claims, the one who passed away was your Master not this new person. You owe him NOTHING and he has no right to make assumptions nor demands unless you CHOOSE to submit to him.

Take time to think clearly and make a choise based on what YOU want for your future and about the kind of Master YOU want to have.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/5/2006 9:01:57 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: submission22

i said it in an earlier email..and now it rings even more clear. Something smells fishy...does anyone else feel this way? to the OP i know you are in pain and cannot see it but you are being played and in a major way....please do not send this individual anymore personal information about yourself. Get away from this person as he is playing games with you. Good luck.

Let's just say it's not unheard of for a fully cyber relationship to suddenly have a partner die- only to come back later (as some sort of huge weird miscommunication on that death thing) or to reinvent themselves as a new character.

One always hopes it's not actually what's occurring, but unfortunately it certainly can be.

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RE: My master just passed - 3/5/2006 9:06:32 AM

angelic

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quote:

ORIGINAL: submission22

honestly i would ask the brother for a copy of the obituary. How does the OP know its even the brother, and for that matter how does he know his Master had died to begin with. It all smelled fishy to me from the beginning. To the OP i am truly sorry that any of this is happening to you...but please before you start grieving, find out all the facts. Just because someone o/l claims to be family of your Master doesn't mean it is true. Call the local papers where your Master lives and get an obituary..some kind of confirmation. I wish you luck with this.

a VERY good idea. To even make it a bit easier. search on line for his local paper and check there. Most local papers put the same info o/l as they do in print.

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