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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 11:31:36 AM

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whats even more disturbing is that even though someone can talk or walk it they can change. how you maintain good love takes work and i do not see that of late people bail to quick at the first sign of trouble. in that i mean someone looses a job or run into health issues commited personalites are hard to find i never met more cheating dishonest people then in the lifestyle like its some competive race or gossip . now when you find the right person you have to grow it like a rose doms do not get this concept we are not a f uck toy but more then that anyone that does not respect us does not diserve that w hich we give and vise versa. keep it pure means one thing you build the relationship inward out not from everyones point of view in. all things come into play family friends kids pets even shrugs nilla if ou do the right things it will work do the wrong things it will fail and it takes two to make things happen make sure he or she has his shit together or you will be scrapping against sand paper. sexual gratifcation is a small part and transitory what one person likes maychange tommrrow i love this site its all about emotional love lovingyou.com check it out
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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 1:24:45 PM

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Really not sure what level your on latexbaby. The OP was simply two questions and yet twice your responded way off the planet from what I can see.. If your smoking some really good shit how a bout sharing?????

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 1:31:02 PM

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i re-read the thread again. Although my first response was a one-liner, i wanted to expand on it a bit. i find it very difficult to meet Oothers because of me. i have never been to a munch and am quite honestly afraid to do so alone. The Ones that are local to me, for whatever reason, i cannot (do not/choose not) to connect with. Yes i know these are my own personal demons i deal with, nevertheless they make it very very difficult to meet Others.

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 4:04:49 PM

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i haven't had a problem finding people to hook up with.
it seems to be more a question of -
finding someone that you would wish to be owned by... as time is the best indicator of words and deeds being equal(or at least damn close). t
here is PLENTY of PLAYERS out there....
but there is not alot of Gor Masters in my area.
its more an issue of learning to trust at this point in time....
and at times i do have that sort of give up feeling..............

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 4:07:07 PM

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That bloody huge duck pond gets in the damned way doesn't it?

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 4:20:48 PM

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This really depends on what your looking for. If your seeking simple play partners it can be quite easy. If your seeking a committed relationship, much harder. I for one am told by any who know me personally or take the time to really get to know me online that I should have no problem at all finding a slave to join me in my home as a part of a poly family. Yet I've been looking for the last two years for the right person. Why? I want something very specific and very real. I have no interest in simple play partners, and am only seeking a 24/7 poly slave. There may be no more than one or two using this site who both fit that catagory and can find a common chemistry with me. Others may find many people that click with them.

Understanding that you can't always find what your looking for in your local community is also important. Learning to overcome barriers like that is critical.

That's just how life is, rt or here online. How do I deal with it? Simple, I don't let all the wrong ones change me. I keep at it and stay true to who I am. ....And I exercise that thing I preach to so many submissives and Doms alike. Patience.

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 5:04:16 PM

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hum some people never learn form lifes lessons shrugs not my problem how i answer to someones post is my point of view you should study about culture it might advance your thinking :)

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 7:07:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

How difficult do or have you found to meet and even hook up with a suitable partner (submissive, slave or Master/Mistress), taking into account you available time, location, available transport, and size of your local scene?

How do you deal with the problem of not finding someone suitable after looking for some time?

greetings Master!

i have to agree with what some of the others have said..to me there is a lot of availability at least in my area when you look at local/regional groups, message boards and personal ad places and chatrooms. i have never had problems finding any kind of a play partner or Top. However, that isn't to say i've found what i wanted yet because i seek an ownership and that is difficult to find. There are many who say they are wanting or experienced at a full time ownership situation but i find that to be less then truthful. not to say that a lil slap-n-tickle is bad..i definitely enjoy those times..but in the long run the seeking becomes frustrating.

it isn't always the frustrations of not finding what i seek..sometimes i feel i've found it but the situations from my end hasn't been right. i think that is more frustrating then the overall search...finding what seems to fit in all ways except for 1 important factor.

as far as how i deal with the problem of not finding someone Master..i keep searching. it's frustrating..hard..and sometimes downright annoying..but i won't quit. i've had the privilege and opportunity to serve some really great Men. some were short term..some were longer term and others i'm still waiting for that chance to fully serve as we desire. if it's important then i don't see how you can ever give up searching..long as i'm true to myself and what i want..it will eventually come.

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/25/2006 9:15:28 PM

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hum some people never learn form lifes lessons shrugs not my problem how i answer to someones post is my point of view you should study about culture it might advance your thinking :)

I can live with that.... Study culture ehhhh Okkkkkkk Do I need a bio lab to study which culture????/

I'm reasonable up to date wuth a whole varieties of human culures but I guess seeing you know nothing about me you wouldn't know that. I do respect your opinions even when I fail to see their relevence to a subject, but what the hell I'm just an Aussie Old fart who wouldn't know shit from soap......

Hi yun and other posters,
I'm enjoying the variety of responces. My reasons for virtually withdrawing from the public scene is more due to not wanting to ride the roller coaster of hoping each time when some one contacts you that this person may be suitable.. I'll still keep the option for a potential kajira but will also be very open for a casual play partner so I can gain some much needed practical experience infder the discerning eyes on my mentor with shibari and needle play as well as later perhaps fire play. generally I'll head off to the club to keep Neets company but probably give munches a huge miss which will be to Neet's advantage too. The upside is I should start enjoying some Gold Coast Fishing... As for remaining here in CM? Strewth, I have far too much fun here and continue to learn much more than most of you know...

“You gotta play the game. It’s all in the game and how you play it!”

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/26/2006 9:42:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: angelic

i re-read the thread again. Although my first response was a one-liner, i wanted to expand on it a bit. i find it very difficult to meet Oothers because of me. i have never been to a munch and am quite honestly afraid to do so alone. The Ones that are local to me, for whatever reason, i cannot (do not/choose not) to connect with. Yes i know these are my own personal demons i deal with, nevertheless they make it very very difficult to meet Others.

from what i have seen they are pretty safe. you should at least get the courage to check it out because if its anything like here it should not take you long to find somone. Here there is about a 20guy to 1 gurl ratio of eligible singles.

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/26/2006 11:00:10 AM

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from what i have seen they are pretty safe. you should at least get the courage to check it out because if its anything like here it should not take you long to find somone. Here there is about a 20guy to 1 gurl ratio of eligible singles.

Okay i need more coffee. i thought you said "edible singles"

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/26/2006 11:14:13 AM

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Well R1 was refering to a Munch and I'd take that literally seeing the delectable sub/slaves about.........

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/26/2006 11:15:55 AM

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from what i have seen they are pretty safe. you should at least get the courage to check it out because if its anything like here it should not take you long to find somone. Here there is about a 20guy to 1 gurl ratio of eligible singles.

Okay i need more coffee. i thought you said "edible singles"

*hands owned a pot of coffee*

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RE: Meeting That Certain Someone... - 2/26/2006 5:44:01 PM

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from what i have seen they are pretty safe. you should at least get the courage to check it out because if its anything like here it should not take you long to find somone. Here there is about a 20guy to 1 gurl ratio of eligible singles.

Okay i need more coffee. i thought you said "edible singles"

well you arent that far off! some are very edible!

oh and i like mine with 2 cream if you made enough!

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