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MsKeira -> Submissive Scammers List (2/23/2006 9:44:39 PM)
Are there any other female dominants on here that might know of a submissive scammer list. You know, the ones that are online players, those wanting sex, and /or ones that don't show up for sessions etc..... Any info would be helpful....thank-you

ShadeDiva -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/23/2006 10:00:36 PM)
Nope, can't say that I do. I find them a bit silly myself. You see some ladies get kinda vengeful if a submissive doesn't do as they expect or want, even if that submissive is in NO way beholden to the dominant to do a single thing. I've seen WONDERFUL submissives listed on such lists that were placed there because the dominant expected things of them that they had no right to expect or they fumbled or abused the situation and the submissive balked. I've often laughed because they obviously weren't looking too hard if they were listing THOSE submissives as often they are among some oif the most genuine, sincere and honest submissives I'd met, and they just didn't yield to someone they didn't feel was right for them, or a good match for them, or just not what they were seeking in their dominant. Someone's "scammer" is someone else's prized pet after all. Oh yeah, and for those that are actually trying to pull one over on the dominants? To be listed is like a trophy that says in their minds - "ha! Look! She admits that I took her for a ride! What a schmuck!". The true scammers or troublemakers feed on that attention. Being listed by several dominants makes them feel successful and proud that they "fooled" so many and only encourages their behavior. It's kind of sad since all I ever hear of when folks think/speak of "lists" - it's always in a negative sense, and is prone to being suspisicous in nature as it's obvious the person has an agenda to at the very least - give cyber demerits to someone else and that is due to them not being happy with the other person they are "listing". I NEVER see folks suggesting a PRAISE list. Try positive reinforcement. It works better and puts forth no feeding for the beasties that seek to be assholes. JMO.

mantis65 -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/23/2006 10:07:12 PM)
wouldnt real scammers just change thier nick and start up new again? i dont see the point of a list

ShadeDiva -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/23/2006 10:19:48 PM)
Some do. That is usually the case. Just another reason why I never found them to have much value.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/23/2006 11:43:03 PM)
"Tis true that many boys just come back under a new user name. What makes Me laugh is that they contact Me to tell Me who they are. Now these boys are not necessarily scammers. They are more just confused wankers, and I can usually see through things pretty quickly, so I don't worry too much about it. Other than wasting a bit of My time, they are pretty harmless. It's not too easy to string someone along if you refuse to chat, refuse sexy pics, refuse to watch a web cam and expect certain behavior (read polite and intelligent conversation), even in the introductory phases of "getting to know you". It is surprising how many boys are really silly online chatters and such, and don't change their names. They try to get in touch with all the Dominas in the local area to set up a "quickie", and they haven't figured out that we talk to each other. I would rather get a reference, and speak with the Lady personally. If a boy claims experience but can't or refuses to give a lifestyle reference, I am more careful. So I don't think a list is too helpful. And I do think a list can be too subjective.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/24/2006 12:30:42 AM)
Just looked at your profile and realized that you are probably looking for Professional clients. There was a recent thread regarding no shows. And have been a P/T Pro, Myself. Best rule of thumb for Me is to insist on a meet beforehand (dinner, lunch, even coffee), sign a contract to include any and all disclaimers you may feel necessary (I also cover health issues in Mine) and then accept 1/2 up front to be applied toward the first session. If they are a no show, they default. If they arrive, they only owe the other half of the session fee. It is up to you if you want to allow a one time reschedule in case of emergencies with proper notification of cancellation. I also require ID at the first meet. I can't help you much with the online. I don't do that end of things except student tuition paid in advance for a specified set of classes.

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/24/2006 6:25:11 AM)
The problem with such lists is that you have to be able to rely on the Dommes who are posting to have their postings motive-free and totally honest. I'm not willing to give that kind of concession to people I haven't met and haven't spent time with. Frankly I think all of us could very well be blacklisted by someone we've run across that got pissed at us for some reason or another. I know of one very pissed off boy who contacted me the other day on AOL who claims I'm a total fake because I wouldn't cyber with him. My suggestion to you, Keira, is that you network with other prodommes in your area who are willing to discuss client issues with you. If any kind of 'network' is workable, it will only be among people you know and trust real time.

MHOO314 -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/24/2006 7:48:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsKeira Are there any other female dominants on here that might know of a submissive scammer list. You know, the ones that are online players, those wanting sex, and /or ones that don't show up for sessions etc..... Any info would be helpful....thank-you Yep, its right below www.politicalscammers.com and right above www.tvevangelistsscammers.com They exist in all walks of life, start a new DNA rewiring process and the tendency may go away.

yourMissTress -> RE: Submissive Scammers List (2/24/2006 9:24:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsKeira Are there any other female dominants on here that might know of a submissive scammer list. You know, the ones that are online players, those wanting sex, and /or ones that don't show up for sessions etc..... Any info would be helpful....thank-you Why, you've been here 3 days and want us to give up all our secrets so fast? How do we know you aren't a "scammer" yourself? A sub in disguise of a Domme wanting to join our secret society? We don't let you in until you've done the ritual sub/slave burning and the Domina test to prove that you yourself are who you say you are.... removes tongue from cheek Welcome to the boards.

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