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kyraofMists -> RE: What's your story? (2/24/2006 2:50:51 PM)
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what was your experience like? What did you go through emotionally? How did you adjust if you had certain issues (whatever they may be)? What is it that you loved the most about your first experience in a poly relationship? Was there a tough period you went through then overcame it? What type of bonds did you have with the others in your relationship?
My first poly experience was almost 10 years ago and it did not involve BDSM at all. I had always been attracted to women and one woman in specific at the time. The boyfriend I had then encouraged me to explore the attraction. So I became involved in a relationship with him and with her. They did not have a relationship together. Unfortunately, my boyfriend had some rather unrealistic expectations and quickly regretted encouraging me in this direction. Both relationships eventually ended, but I cherish the experience.
What it showed me was that it is possible to love more than one person and that loving another does not diminish your love for someone else. The experience prepared me to be open to the idea of a long term poly relationship and gave me an appreciation of the challenge in managing time.
I am currently in a poly M/s relationship with my Lord and alandra. The three of us have a relationship together. He is our primary focus, but we are all committed to having a life long relationship between us. Our relationship is made even more complicated because it is long distance. We have found that that distance magnifies some issues and hides others. We deal with things by openly and constructively discussing our thoughts and feelings. Keeping things to ourselves would be a recipe for disaster.
The house is even larger than the three of us, since my Lord and alandra are good friends with denika and her husband. My relationship with them is slowly evolving since I have limited time to spend with them and I am very reserved. denika bottoms with my Lord and they have a very informal D/s relationship. The four of them are intimate with each other. Because of the distance there are times that I feel left out and isolated; because of the distance it is difficult for me to form a connection with denika and Rob.
The relationship that I have with my Lord just resonates with me; it gives me the opportunity to demonstrate my authentic self. My tough periods come when I question and start to doubt who I am. When I am aware and accept my need to submit to him then I am at peace, but getting rid of some of the old thoughts and ideas of how I am supposed to behave have been a challenging process.
My relationship with alandra satisfies my bisexual desires. For me there is something that I get from being intimate with a woman that no man could ever give me. She and I share in the responsibility of meeting our Lord’s needs and wants. We complement each other. On the surface people would think that we are a lot alike, but it is the differences that make us a good match for each other and for this house.
The three of us are deeply committed and devoted to making this relationship last. We are not perfect, but we seek to be the best we can be at any given moment.
Knight's kyra
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