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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 3:54:53 PM

fergus

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A picture makes a big difference, but I would not be outwardly suspicious if there wasnt't one.

I know this:
I female with a picture on this site can often garner FAR more attention that she is looking for!

A male on this site practically NEEDS one to get noticed.

fergus

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 4:11:20 PM

swtnsparkling

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Gosh I sure hope it isn't a warning. I am not here to cause trouble, hurt any one, or lie about who I am..I don't have a picture on CM or anywhere online for that matter and I don't intend to ever have one. I have sent pictures to people I have talked to for some time and developed a friendship with but I don't see why I need to have a picture just to read or post to message boards or even chat from time to time. Like or dislike me for me my opinions, thoughts, ideas, feelings not what I look like.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 4:14:44 PM

Littlepita

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I don't have a pic up because I have been going through a divorce and I didn't want to take any chances until it was over. Now that it is I'm waiting for my Sir to take a good one of me. I know I like to see what people look like, but understand they have their reasons for not showing their faces.

Of course since I don't have a pic up I rarely get bothered by unwanted mail so that is a good thing.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 4:24:34 PM

Lordandmaster

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A picture on a profile hardly tells you whom you're writing to.

I don't have my picture up because I have a public life and don't need colleagues and business associates to know anything about my sexual preferences. I don't mind sending my picture once I start to talk to someone. I assume that anyone else without a picture in his or her profile has the same concerns.

So, no, I don't consider it a warning sign. But I won't meet someone in real life without seeing a picture first.

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ORIGINAL: knees2you

I know I like to see who I'm writting to.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 4:41:36 PM

maybemaybenot

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

A picture on a profile hardly tells you whom you're writing to.

I don't have my picture up because I have a public life and don't need colleagues and business associates to know anything about my sexual preferences. I don't mind sending my picture once I start to talk to someone. I assume that anyone else without a picture in his or her profile has the same concerns.

So, no, I don't consider it a warning sign. But I won't meet someone in real life without seeing a picture first.

quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

I know I like to see who I'm writting to.

Ditto.

Sharing my pic is not an issue for me, just not publically in my profile. I don't think I have ever refused to send one if asked by some one showing interest or curiousity.

mbmbn

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 4:43:01 PM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

A picture on a profile hardly tells you whom you're writing to.

I don't have my picture up because I have a public life and don't need colleagues and business associates to know anything about my sexual preferences. I don't mind sending my picture once I start to talk to someone. I assume that anyone else without a picture in his or her profile has the same concerns.

So, no, I don't consider it a warning sign. But I won't meet someone in real life without seeing a picture first.

quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

I know I like to see who I'm writting to.

i have never had my picture on any profile i have had. Last thing i needed was a sibling, boss, collegue, friend, etc. knowing my pivate business. If they are to know i am a slave, it will be on my terms.

i met my Master online. He did not have a pic on his profile either. In fact, he had nothing on his profile and that was fine with me. At the time, profiles just seemed like ads anyway. We had instant chemistry (actually our very first conversation was an argument...hahaha), and by the time we talked a few times, i could care less what he looked like. When we did exchange pictures (a few days later), it ended up being an added bonus for us both.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 4:46:57 PM

KnightofMists

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it depends on my intent

generally a picture is of no consequence for me if we are talking about simple exchange of thoughts and ideas. If this person is at best only going to be a email buddy or maybe a face to face friend... then a picture is no importance

However, if my intent is of an intimate kind... then a Picture is a Must! I have to have a physical attraction to the person for intimacy to occur.... Period! of course, I have um a rather varied range of taste... which keeps my options open *G*

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 5:05:11 PM

MyCaptainsPet

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i don't have a picture because i'm not looking for anything.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 5:05:31 PM

WikedUncle

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ORIGINAL: knees2you

No picture? Is this a Warning for Some?

I can deal with a profile without a picture better than a profile without a profile, or worse, neither. One does wonder what's the point. Perhaps they're waiting for you to say "Hello, I really liked your second syllable: can we talk?"

Caution and prudence are understandable, but there has to be some fertile soil for interest to flower.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 5:27:13 PM

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 5:38:05 PM

gbgirlz2003

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If I see a profile of a male with no pic I immediately assume he is married and cheating. I know this is not always the case; but it has been that way enough to keep me from those no-pic profiles.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 5:53:56 PM

LadiesBladewing

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It isn't a warning for us. We don't put a picture up, nor do we request one. Of course, we tend to opt to meet quickly after contact, when possible, since we believe that the only way to determine whether there is any kind of fit at all is to meet and talk and see whether things will work or not. It is also important to note that we are more interested in the -person- than what they look like, though we are aware of the care that they put into themselves in preparing for our meeting, which may reflect the care that they will put into their duties to us.

Lady Zephyr

quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

No picture? Is this a Warning for Some?

Was just looking at a profile without a picture and
was wondering,
does this send a Warning sign up right away?

I know I like to see who I'm writting to.

Some Masters/Mistress/Switches like to wait before
sending You Their pic, but for me
I like to see who it is before hand.
Even if it is not their real pic,
I like for them to know that I have a pic and expect the same
up front.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 6:01:05 PM

brightspot

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Sometimes it's just too damn hard to get a pic approved now a days here. Have been trying for days

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edited to add: And for a while I had a problem with someone stalking me.

*Brightspot

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 6:14:45 PM

SweetEscravo

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I think that if you are a person who is on this site looking for a partner, then yes, you should have a picture up, just so people can take a look at you and know what they're getting into. However, in my case, I have two reasons why I don't have a picture up:
1. I am not looking for anyone, so anyone who wants to be a friend doens't need to know that.
2. There are far too many people I know who use the internet, and my cover would be pretty blown if there was a picture of my face on a BDSM website. It is mostly a secrecy thing for me.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 7:20:16 PM

artglfr

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Not only the no picture is bothersome but a lot of submissive females do not even write anything!

I am not responding if theres no picture and no writing either. Makes ya wonder.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 7:31:31 PM

amayos

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I generally state that I will not speak with you if you do not have a photo—for obvious reasons. It doesn't have to be in your profile, but you must be willing to provide one, if you hope to continue communicating with me for any period of time.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 8:04:27 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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If someone claims to want to get to know me or meet me from online, and they aren't close enough to meet at a party, I would consider it a big concern. It's 2006, everyone can have pics. If someone is so worried about anonymity that they don't want to send pics online, then they shouldn't be trying to chat up girls who aren't close enough to meet rt.

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 8:45:12 PM

DragonNphoenix

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No... I want to get to know them for them. Not what pics they have on thier profile. We have ours up, but that is just our choice. Just to let you know.. the one that we have chosen does not have her pick on her profile. We enjoyed talking to her for her, not her pic.

1st Girl Phoenix

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 8:58:59 PM

ProtagonistLily

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quote:

I tend not to reply to profiles that don't have pictures, and generally I'm suspicious of ones that don't.

Well, biatch, I should be ever so greatful you responded to me when I wrote you then, huh?

~smooch~

Kassie

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RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? - 2/22/2006 9:06:23 PM

Petruchio

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My own picture is so glorious that its very radiance blinds the eye.

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