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RE: First submissive urges - 2/12/2006 10:58:30 PM

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Cowboys and Indians, Pirates, Combat, Secret AGents (Girl From Uncle!)

Ah! The girl from Uncle - had forgotten all about Her! Thanks for the reminder. And while we're at it - what about Mrs. Emma Peal? Oh lord!

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RE: First submissive urges - 2/13/2006 6:47:46 AM

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ropesubby, you hit on something.
Most of us think we're something akin to possessed when we discover ourselves at such an early age. Then after how many years? decades? we get comfortable and THEN we encounter somebody we care for who takes us back to the dark ages with zero understanding of what we find erotic and zero desire to try to understand.
Recently i was speaking with a sex therapist and i equated being in the bdsm "way" to being gay. The therapist said that it's actually a lot easier being gay. Maybe not in the "coming out", but in finding like minded individuals it's a lot easier. He's right.

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RE: First submissive urges - 2/13/2006 7:09:27 AM

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I stayed away from this topic until now, because for me, it's hard to answer. I was with my husband before I even realized there was a word for all those wonderful urges and feelings. No, I did not understand them, and I fought those feelings for a long time. I spent alot of years learning to accpt myself for who and what I was. Alot of time soul searching, alot of tears, alot of rebelling. Even to this day I still struggle with it to some degree, mainly in trying to understand and accept that there is nothing wrong with me or how I feel.

I can say with absolute certainty though that yes, once I accept myself, it is very satisfying and rewarding.

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RE: First submissive urges - 2/25/2006 5:30:59 PM

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I've pretty much always been a people pleaser, ever since I can remember. I first found out about submission through a chat room and I've realised that I am a sub myself.

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RE: First submissive urges - 2/27/2006 12:52:43 PM

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i also discovered it quite young, but it arose from the conduct of others "taking advantage" of me. Those early events have been the source of a life of imagining and hoping.

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RE: First submissive urges - 2/27/2006 8:09:41 PM

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Ok, I give! I was pretty young too but "forgot" all about it till last year. lol....The older neighbor girl and I played "slavegirl" together...I was 10 and she was 13. I had all kinds of captive/kidnapped by pirates/carried away fantasies from age 8 on. Big crush on Yul Brynner in The King and I. lmao! And I provoked all manner of boyfriends and lovers into spanking me, holding me down, getting ruff, etc.
It was difficult to finally admit it, but actually a welcome relief---a lot of things made sense.

I too have always been and have been seen as a strong/powerful/assertive woman; I've had to be especially so as a single mother. Allowing myself to connect with and express my submissive nature is like taking a deep breath and finally relaxing.

p.s. 3 CHEERS for Emma Peale and her "kick me" boots...lol...always loved her style

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RE: First submissive urges - 3/4/2006 5:57:28 AM

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In response to the first urges thread under Ask A Dominant.
What were your first urges as you realized that you were submissive?
Did you act on them? Did you understand them? How did or didn't they satisfy you?

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