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fastlane -> RE: surfing profiles (2/6/2006 1:26:40 PM)

I don't know how to search and never have....never searched......dayum, I have only met people from chatting ..... where is the search button? I must be missing out...LOL

Peace, Kevin



Slipstreme -> RE: surfing profiles (2/6/2006 2:22:32 PM)

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Most men are subs though and not as much fun.


Seems the exact opposite here, most I've met seem to be Dom, others Switch. I've yet to meet but one submissive male.



talmar -> RE: surfing profiles (2/7/2006 3:37:31 PM)

I do. But I find many of the profiles vague & I am not sure about if the person truly has a understanding of what a switch is.



SimplyV -> RE: surfing profiles (2/9/2006 2:48:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Slipstreme

quote:

Most men are subs though and not as much fun.


Seems the exact opposite here, most I've met seem to be Dom, others Switch. I've yet to meet but one submissive male.


*laughs* That is very odd. I seem to meet a lot of submissive males.. even some that believe themselves to be Dom. [:D] jk.. well kinda.




TexasMaam -> RE: surfing profiles (2/11/2006 8:06:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: fergus

Okay, this question might be better on another forum, but here goes.

Does anyone ever search the 'switches' catagory when surfing profile? I mean, anyone other than other switches?

fergus


Not I.

TexasMaam



MstrssPassion -> RE: surfing profiles (2/12/2006 6:38:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Oumae
I rarely do searches either and I don't have set preferences to block mail as I like making friends of all persuasions.

I have nothing against switches nor would I be anti having one as a sub, I like strong men who are confident in what they are be it switch or sub. Just once they don't hope to switch with me.

Oumae

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ORIGINAL: fergus
You make a good point Oumae that is probably obvious to some, but not to others. Some switches can be totally in one role with a person (totally Dom with one person, totally sub to another). Just because someone is a switch doesn't mean that you and that person can't have the type of relationship that you want.

communication, communication, communication.

fergus


So what becomes of the role of the switch that is not expressed in the primary relationship?

I have seen this dilemma unfold much like that of an individual who is bisexual. No one partner will truly be able to fulfill the partner with such diverse cravings/desires/needs. It is also a lot like those of us who have attempted to 'turn-off' our role & try living/dating vanilla... the core of our being won't allow us to deny this part of ourselves.

If the switch conforms to the role of a sub for the sake of having a partnership with a dominant, eventually those top feelings will scream out for recognition. (or visa-versa)

MUCH COMMUNICATION will be needed. The new couple will need to explore that this will most likely be the case & respect their switch partner for having a duality that they themselves may not & can not fulfill for them.

This is also why I do not seek a switch. As I mentioned in my earlier post... I recognize my current submissive to be my alpha & there would be no outlet for a switch to express their top side.



John665623 -> RE: surfing profiles (2/15/2006 7:19:04 PM)

I agree in that listing myself as a switch really limits contacts. True doms and true subs don't want to contact you for some reason. I can play either role equally as well, so I hope more will consider that in the future. There is no need or desire for me to try and turn the tables in any situatution. I think some worry about that.



fergus -> RE: surfing profiles (2/16/2006 11:54:48 AM)


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ORIGINAL: John665623

I agree in that listing myself as a switch really limits contacts. True doms and true subs don't want to contact you for some reason. I can play either role equally as well, so I hope more will consider that in the future. There is no need or desire for me to try and turn the tables in any situatution. I think some worry about that.


I think many worry about that more in terms of relationship, or at least they worry about that their sub (or Dom) will be unhappy and unfulfilled, which can lead to problems.

fergus



Laura -> RE: surfing profiles (2/21/2006 9:04:03 PM)

Any man that starts telling me what he wants before he even knows my name is a sub, in my never humble opinion.

Though I do meet the odd sub who is different, they are very few and far between. Most men begin with what I can do for them. Of course, there are also those who want to know what I like (sexually only) and never offer any information about themselves. Those aren't subs, just guys looking for a professional whore.

Now I remeber why I stopped coming back here! LOL


PS- Nice to see a whole flock of new people. But what did you do with the old ones?



champagnewishes -> RE: surfing profiles (2/22/2006 9:58:20 AM)

ORIGINAL: Slipstreme

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I am starting a new pet project: starting a BDSM related discussion group for the University of Florida


Wow...very impressive and most definately, Good Luck with it!

It never occured to me to search under "switch". One reason is I rarely search.
Second reason is if I do search, it's a search for potential LTR's as i prefer to meet friends on this side.
Third, i have to plead ignorance. Although i have been aware of the term "switch" for a number of years, until recently, i did not have a full understanding of what the person behind this term was all about. It's been a long time (almost 20 years) since i did the public route and to be honest, i don't remember ever having met anyone that called themselves a switch back then. Looking back, at least in the groups i frequented (in Houston in the 80's), we were ALL switches to some degree and we didn't necessarily find the need to conform to one label...we all lived outside and inside our own box at some point and time. So I think it's pretty damn cool that one could be comfortable and have both inside their own box.



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