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Wildfleurs -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/30/2006 4:50:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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Like the other women have said, I don't like the term BBW. I never heard that until I started going on the internet, but I guess it's better then lardass.


Same here. I personally hate labels of any kind, no matter what they are ( BBW, thin, skinny, model material...caucasion, white, black, african american...pfft...labels are EVIL EVIL EVIL ) The only use I can see for a label is to distinguish oneself above or below another.

On that same note...why does a person feel the need to label themselves in ANY way? Not being sarcastic...generally curious [:)]


Well the word label is a label, as is the term woman. Labels help describe what we are like: I am a tall woman, I am a short woman, It is a blue sky. I think what people tend to mean (I'm not saying it s what you mean) by being against labels is being against what people read into labels rather than being against the label itself.

C~




LadyElizabeth -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/30/2006 5:14:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

HAC (here's a clue):

Once you post something in public, it ceases to be under your direct control. Threads can and will be taken in whatever ways the people who post want to take them. That is the way of the cyberland board discussion.

I responded to the "how's it going for you." The answer: For most people it's going exactly the same as it does in the big wide world of non-kink.



Ya what was I thinking. Manners in short supply and all. I try to adhere to the topic at hand when posting. Occasionally I may stray, but never in the distance this topic has. I certainly would not continue to try and debate or hijack someones thread after they clarified the original OP.

I have been here awhile, and I have noticed some differences between this site and others. You see I also moderate at a simuliar lifestyle website and it's interesting to see the differences in the way moderating takes place or the inter action between members. If you read the Forum AUP here you may note that hijacking is frowned upon. But like you said that's the way of cyberland,lol. I guess a web forum is only as good as its members.

Oddly enough, I followed your posts in other threads with interest. I actually hoped you would contribute here in some way( I Didn't think you were a BBW though), because I had grown fond of your responses and thoughts. You seemed reasonable and bright.

Sadly I see that even you can find yourself trying to justifying the very behaviour, you seem to dislike in others, but exhibit willingly when it pleases you.

I'm sorry, I didn't realize that asking people about how they've been doing out here was concidered a silly question. How else should someone get an idea of what people of a simuliar stature or possition are like or interested in? Is that not the very essence of the forum board? Should we all pass our ideas by you first? Not.

With that, enough said. Trash me all you want. I will not be dragged into some school yard squable over whos rules apply to this sand box or whos ideas are better then whos. But I must ask, if you feel so strong about the BBW label, why not start your own thread and debate the hell out of it?




FTopinMichigan -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/31/2006 5:50:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth
I have been here awhile, and I have noticed some differences between this site and others. You see I also moderate at a simuliar lifestyle website and it's interesting to see the differences in the way moderating takes place or the inter action between members. If you read the Forum AUP here you may note that hijacking is frowned upon. But like you said that's the way of cyberland,lol. I guess a web forum is only as good as its members.


So you insult ALL of us, 'cause your thread took off in a few interesting directions?

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ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth
Manners in short supply and all.


Couldn't agree more!

K






Nuke718 -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/31/2006 1:35:02 PM)

As one of the guys...

BHM just sounds kinda weak. I say I'm a big guy, and if I dount the point has gotten accross I say "think Farley not Shaq".

Buuuuuut what are my expereinces like in the lifestyle? Well, jst like outside it I have a harder time finding partners than a non-fat guy. I don't even think twice about that fact. Some of it is the weight and some of it is from the blow to the old self confidence (aboutt the weight). On the other hand, with a VERY few exceptions I don't feel ostricized when out and about in the community, even in clothing optional environments. My lack of exhibitionism and public play is on MY side, not that people would flee the room. And women I have been involved with over the years have been into me for more than my body (and dealt very nicely with any invonvenience).

So while it has definately not been a plus to be so damn big, I find it easier at a BDsM event than at work.

N }:-


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ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth

Just curious as to how many BBW's there are out here and what their experiences have been like. Good or bad. Or any advice that you might wish to share would be awsome.

In the same thought. how about you BHM? I wouldn't want to leave you gorgeous guys out,lol. Anything you have to say would be just as valuable.






Haileypain -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/31/2006 2:07:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan
So you insult ALL of us, 'cause your thread took off in a few interesting directions?


I think she was referring to a specific person.




Haileypain -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/31/2006 2:44:26 PM)

As I have come to like this site as much as a canker sore. Due largely to people like you that think it's ok to bully your point across, this will be my last post. Ya I know, good riddence. Right?

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

HAC (here's a clue):

Once you post something in public, it ceases to be under your direct control. Threads can and will be taken in whatever ways the people who post want to take them. That is the way of the cyberland board discussion.

I responded to the "how's it going for you." The answer: For most people it's going exactly the same as it does in the big wide world of non-kink.


I read the OP twice, just to make sure I wasn't missing anything. Still I could find no call for any of this. Then when the original poster asks just to keep on topic, you take that as an afront to your way of posting. Wow. Now I'm no huge fan of the term BBW, even though that is a good term to describe me. I think Lady Elizabeth was just trying to get a feel for how many woman of a larger then playboy stereo type stature were kicking around here. I now her intensions were not to start a war over a silly acronym, or how people feel about it. So for civilty's sake just mention that you CHOOSE not to use that term to describe yourself, but you have found this BDSM world to be a wonderful place, or not. And move on.

HAC for you Lucky. Just because you have the ablity to take a thread off topic does not make it right. That is such a unique and endearing American theory and trate, just because one has the ablity to do something, that means they must therefore have the right to do it. And still you wounder why most of the free world looks at you with such distain.

I must ask you though Lucky. Do you write American foriegn policy, becuase your reasoning sounds just like GW's. I can therefore I have the right to and I will. You think right along with those you protest against.

BTW, here's a news flash hunny, no you don't have the right. You have the ablity to, but you lack the manners, civility or moral values to acknowledge the difference between ablity and right. A good trate to have learnt along with that "ablity" would have been restraint or self control or perhaps a little compassion or empathy.

To finally answer your question Lady Elizabeth, I have met some extremely wonderful people out here. Even a few from this site too, but they are few and far between here.

And in my last breath. To all those that will no doubt flame the hell out of me for my comments. Bite me. If the truth hurts, go look in the mirror. That's the person you should be mad at. Not me. BTW, I don't think all Americans are bullys, and dispite how you guys are viewed on the world stage, I have always been treated well when I've been down south. But like in any culture, country, city or town, there is always one loud mouth that dips the brush that paints you all.




LadyElizabeth -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/31/2006 4:24:19 PM)

Not only did my use of the perfectly harmless term BBW offend so many, but now when I question the quality of the membership here, I'm being insulting?

I could have sworn so many of you posted to another thread I started here, that these places were full of trolls and half wits as well as honest people. Umm so which is it. Is everyone here tip top notch, or are there a few imperfections?

Hailey thanks for the help, but I doubt your comments will lend any real aid to me here. Perhaps if you threw a grenade at me after you pulled the pin, would have helped me more.




LadyJulieAnn -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (1/31/2006 6:13:50 PM)

Geez people. This is just an internet forum. Surely there are more important things to worry about in the world...

Be well,
Julie




LadyElizabeth -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (2/1/2006 2:16:23 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

Geez people. This is just an internet forum. Surely there are more important things to worry about in the world...

Be well,
Julie



Yes, thank you. That is my point entirely. I merely wanted to start something fun and uplifting not what this has turned into.




proudsub -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (2/1/2006 2:26:56 PM)

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The average American woman is 5'5" tall, weighs 142 lbs, and is 44 years old. The average American woman wears a size 14 dress.


So I'm above average in all categories, cool.[:D]




Shekinah -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (2/1/2006 3:04:20 PM)

I have always been accepted in my local BDSM community. The fact that I am a larger than average sized woman has not seemed to affect that. The intimate relationships I've had have been rewarding and for the most part very loving. The one lifestyle drawback of my size is the inability sometimes to participate in certain activities. Rope suspension? Uh, I don't think so. Kneeling for a long period of time without moving? Can you say "I can't get up."? But there are usually other ways to get what we need/want.

If I am attempting to connect with someone online before an actual face to face meet I always make it clear that I am short and fat because it's a fact folks, not everyone is into fat girls. And that's okay, everyone has their preferences. Those who have gotten to know me have been very lucky indeed.

[:)]




MadameDahlia -> RE: BBW's in a BDSM world (2/6/2006 5:28:54 AM)

For those who enjoy more curves: http://www.markstivers.com/Cartoons/Cartoons%202003/Stivers%204-24-03%20Why%20a%20woman%20is%20like%20a%20sandwich.gif

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As long as you're happy with yourself, what does it matter... And if you aren't happy with yourself then make the steps to change what you aren't happy with.




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