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ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

Collaredheart, it sounds like you are in a good situation and I wouldn't disagree with your happy trial period. However, there are two different things being discussed on the thread. One, we all agree is good. If a sub puts "under consideration" on her profile, it means she doesn’t want mail or whatever. The other discussion is that Doms often use the carrot of putting a sub “under consideration” for some no strings play while keeping her from possibly developing other relationships. These arrangemenst can end with nothing for the sub. Not every relationship, but some and that is all I’m pointing out. Again, though, if it makes a Dom and sub feel as if they are doing something according to the mystical book, more power to them.

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
It's most often just another romantic trapping/ritual to make the sub and dom feel fuzzy about what they are doing.

Yeah, and of course THAT should be opposed at all costs!!!

The "Under Consideration" sign just means someone wants to be left alone for a time - they are involved with something and do not require nor seek any interference from YOU, the reader. How hard can that be to understand? Have none of you ever been to a hotel and then put out the "Do Not Disturb" sign? Would you then have been eager to be disturbed every few minutes while trying to sleep or play? I think not...

Courtship is often accompanied by signals that allow others to know your level of availability - some signs mean "green light" while other signs mean "red light." The "Under Consideration" sign is a red light signal meaning stop, do not contact me, I am not available right now. It is a courtesy notification.

There's a clue for y'all...the fact that this issue comes up as routinely as it does just tells me that some of you have no clue, in fact, as to how to behave in polite society.

Personally, I am very respectful of any such "red light" comments in someone's profile even should I be feverishly seeking someone. Why waste time with someone that doesn't want to be contacted? It seems a simple enough concept to me - why not to some of you others?

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

How do you know it is "no strings"?
Why should you care if the sub ends up with nothing?
Why don't you care if it is the Dom that is being led to nothing?

Do you know how to mind your own business?

Life is full of risks. Enjoy your life. Leave others alone to enjoy their own lives.

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ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

I have the utmost respect for Goreans. Masters and slaves.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I've always thought it funny when a female sub has "under consideration" on their profile.

Mainly, because male Doms outnumber female subs 3 to 1 in the scene. With a lot of male Doms to choose from it's actually the Dom that is under consideration.

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it funny when a female sub has "under consideration" on their profile.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

It's most often just another romantic trapping/ritual to make the sub and dom feel fuzzy about what they are doing.

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romantic trapping/ritual to make the sub and dom feel fuzzy about what they are doing.